As the saying goes: "Flying with the phoenix will be a handsome bird; Walking with tigers and wolves will be beasts of prey. ”
In life, what kind of person you choose to associate with will have what kind of life you will have.
Good friends are like ladders, criticism and care, so that you can cultivate yourself and be reasonable, and have a clear mind, so as to help you rise to the top;
Evil friends are like knives, flattery, tempting you to use power for personal gain, selfishness, and will eventually trap you in a catastrophe.
The darker the heart, the more they love to put these words on their lips, you need to be careful, don't make deep friends!
Lies that are inconsistent
You often meet such people in life:
When we go shopping together, we see good-looking clothes, which are said to be very suitable for you on the surface, but behind the scenes, they are said to be black and fat;Keigo Higashino once said, "There are two things in the world that cannot be looked at, one is the sun, and the other is the human heart." ”The group work of the two is ostensibly working together, but in private they take all the credit for themselves;
When they are together, they are enthusiastic and caring, but secretly they seem to be a different person, smearing each other everywhere.
The reason why you can't look directly at the sun is because it's too dazzling, and the more you look at it, the more stinging it is, and you can't open your eyes;
And the reason why we can't look directly at people's hearts is that there are many dark sides to human nature, and the more you dig into it, the more disappointed you will be after seeing the truth.
In life, the most terrible thing is not the bad seed that can be seen at a glance, but the face of a bodhisattva and the heart of a snake and scorpion.
Such a person, for the sake of his own interests, changes his heart, speaks inconsistently, hypocritically and darkly.
Dealing with people who don't speak the same way, you don't know when you're putting yourself in danger.
In the first year of Tianbao, Li Long ascended the throne and proclaimed himself emperor based on Chang'an Taiji Palace, and implemented the "dual-phase system".
Li Shizhi served as the left minister, and Li Linfu was listed as your prime minister, and the two assisted Tang Xuanzong in handling the government together.
Li Linfu has a feminine temper and hides a knife in his smile, which is the opposite of Li Shizhi's temper who is bold and capable.
Naturally, Li Shizhi incurred Li Linfu's jealousy, and the two seemed to be harmonious, but in fact they fought openly and secretly.
Li Shizhi felt that gold mining could solve his urgent needs, and the next day he explained the matter to the emperor.
Li Linfu hurriedly said: "I have known about this matter for a long time, but Huashan is the dragon vein of the Tang Dynasty and cannot be moved." ”
After hearing this, Tang Xuanzong reprimanded Li Shizhi: "Why are you so careless, and then ask Li Linfu in advance." ”
After this incident, Tang Xuanzong no longer attached importance to Li Shizhi and slowly became estranged. Sima Guang of the Song Dynasty once commented on Li Linfu and cracked down on those with outstanding talents who would affect their status. He pretended to be good with others, but secretly he always used conspiracies to harm each other, and people said that he was a honey-mouthed sword.
Some people are born actors, and they always wear a mask of hypocrisy when they come into contact with people, and their hearts are insidious, ruthless and unjust.
Such people always do one thing in front of them and one thing behind their backs, deceive their true feelings with false feelings, and calculate their true feelings with false intentions.
Getting along with such a person, even if you give all your sincerity, you will only end up being deceived and used by him.
In life, you must keep your eyes open when choosing people to make friends, and you must stay away from people who are different from the outside.
Bad talk to sow discordAs the old saying goes, "Whoever doesn't talk behind his back, who doesn't say anything behind his back." ”
Born in this earthly world, no one can successfully avoid being the object of discussion by others.
However, there is nothing more annoying in the world than someone playing right and wrong and sowing discord.
Open guns are easy to dodge, hidden arrows are difficult to defend, and people who tell right and wrong are always hypocritical on the surface, and slander and jealousy behind their backs.
Socializing with such a person, no matter how good the relationship is, will inevitably become a talking point and cause unnecessary trouble.
In the sixth year of Xining, Shen Kuo, as the minister of the Qin Mission, was sent to Hangzhou by the Song Shenzong to inspect the construction of agricultural water conservancy.
After Shen Kuo inspected the water conservancy, he went to visit Su Shi, who had been friends before, and the two had a very happy conversation.
During this period, Su Shi also took out a new work to discuss with Shen Kuo, and Shen Kuo also asked for Su Shi's poems before leaving.
Su Shi didn't think much about it, and copied a few poems that he was more satisfied with and gave them to Shen Kuo.
After returning to the capital, Shen Kuo carefully "studied" these words and found that Su Shi expressed a lot of dissatisfaction with the new law.
Shen Kuo searched for chapters and excerpts, pointed to the deer as a horse, and found a lot of "evidence" for Su Shi to slander the new law, and he was like a treasure.
He "annotated" these poems in detail, slandered Su Shi, and then handed them in.
Although Song Shenzong didn't pay much attention to Shen Kuo's words at that time, he still planted the seeds of doubt in his heart.
Soon after, Su Shi was imprisoned for "fooling the court" and "not having the righteousness of a monarch and minister" in his poems, and almost died.
Mr. Cao Xianyuan has an article expressing his disgust for people who play right and wrong and always like to sow discord:
"In the world, there is no talent. One of the mutants: long tongue, temperament, not pragmatic, and dedicated to hurting people.It is true that there are always people in life who like to make something out of nothing, talk about others behind their backs, and can't see that others are better than themselves.This generation has taken a salary, has nothing to do, and has a habit of going through the door and talking about the east and west.
It is short-lived, playing with right and wrong, aiming to slander others and decorate oneself. Its intentions are sinister, and its tricks are despicable! ”
They deliberately provoke incidents, add fuel to the vinegar and aggravate contradictions, create antagonism between others, and reap the benefits of fishermen themselves.
To associate with such people is to be entangled with rotten people, and one day they will be swallowed up by right and wrong out of nothing.
The mouth is a hurtful axe, the word is a tongue-cutting knife, gossip is not to talk about people's wrongs, and leaving some mouth virtue is to accumulate blessings for yourself.
Flattering good wordsGuiguzi said: "Its appearance is charming, its words are clever, and those who decorate its sights should not have deep friendships." ”
Since ancient times, the world has always been complex and hypocritical, regardless of men and women, young and old, everyone loves to listen to beautiful words.
However, those who praise you the most may also be the ones who hurt you the most behind your back.
People who are good at flattery, unscrupulous means to achieve their goals, have no principles in life and do things, and everything is profit-oriented.
Even if you are liked for a while, you want to use your tongue to create a shortcut for yourself, but in the end, you will only be laughed at. During the Wu Zetian period, there was a supervisor who left his name in history because of flattery, and he was Guo Ba.
Guo Ba, who has no backing, has a very deep foundation in meeting his boss, so his official fortune is smooth sailing, and he is rising step by step.
In the second year of the Heavenly Grant, he responded to the revolution from Ningling, Songzhou, and worshiped Zuotai to supervise the imperial history.
In the first year of Ruyi, in addition to the history of serving the emperor in the left hall. Longevity for two years, the right stage to serve the imperial history.
When he was summoned by Wu Zetian for the first time, he wantonly insulted Xu Jingye, who was regarded as a thorn in the side by Wu Zetian.
He claimed that Xu Jingye was something, and if he fell into his hands, he would definitely cramp and eat meat and drink blood.
Wu Zetian heard that his heart was happy, so he attached great importance to him, and soon Guo Ba paid official worship to supervise the imperial history.
Once, Wei Yuanzhong, the then imperial doctor and Guo Ba's top boss, suddenly had diarrhea.
In order to appease Wei Yuanzhong, Guo Ba went to visit, and he took the initiative to ask Ying to diagnose him.
He followed the example of Yu Qianlou, a famous scholar of the Southern Qi Dynasty, to "taste feces and worry", and also tasted Wei Yuanzhong's feces to judge his condition.
After tasting it, he said: "The bitter taste of the feces means that it is not a big problem, and it will heal quickly, but if it tastes sweet, it will be worrying." ”
Wei Yuanzhong, who was upright, thought that his move was a flattering villain, and he was disgusted with him.
After the civil and military officials of the Manchu Dynasty found out, they all laughed at his "-eating incident", and since then they have called him "-eating imperial history".
In life, you often meet people who are good at slapping horses and are keen to curry favor, which is a typical sycophant.
On the surface, they are flattering and flattering, but in fact, their hearts are extremely dark, and they have evil intentions in order to achieve their goals.
If you get along with such a person, you will either be calculated by them, or you will become a hypocritical person like them.
If you want to achieve a career, you must break the intrusion of villains, and don't ruin yourself in sweet words.
Master Hongyi wrote in the book "There is nothing in life that cannot be put down":
"Have the courage to end any relationship that consumes you generously. ”The most important thing to get along with others is to nourish each other, if you don't agree with each other, it is better to stop the loss in time.
No matter how rich and powerful a person is, if his heart is dark, he cannot make friends, so as not to get into trouble.
When you encounter someone with a dark heart, you must stay rational and stay away from them in order to protect yourself and your loved ones.