During the Spring Festival this year, there were many places where the marriage was withdrawn because the bride price could not be negotiated, and it was even on the hot search!
This shows that many people now have a relatively large resistance to the bride price and even the bride price itself.
In feudal society, the man's family pays a sum of money to buy a woman from the woman's family, and from then on, the ownership of the woman belongs to the man's family and has nothing to do with the woman's family.
The essence of this money is to buy people's money, that is, human trafficking, and then whitewash this matter, calling this money a bride price.
In modern society, everyone is equal, and men and women have feelings for each other, and they enter the palace of marriage with each other under the condition of autonomy and willingness.
So why does the man need to give the woman such a large sum of money when both men and women start a family voluntarily?
The current bride price essentially has the following aspects:
1. Blood transfusion from the man's family to the woman's family to alleviate poverty.
2. Transfer payments from the man's family to the woman's family.
3. The value of the woman's marriage and love is better than that of the man or the woman does not fancy the woman, and the man spends money to make up the difference.
4. Before the marriage relationship begins, the man takes the initiative to increase the economic sunk cost to meet the woman's so-called "sense of security" and so-called "attitude", just like taking the initiative to take out his own balls and let others hold them in his hands, in order to show that he will obey well, be obedient, and dare not make a mistake.
The bride price in modern society and the bride price in feudal society, although they are both called bride price, but the essence is completely different, and now the man is the absolutely weak party in the issue of bride price.
Some people may say that although the woman asked for a bride price, she also gave a dowry, and the bride price and dowry were given to the small family as the start-up capital for the small family.
Let's not talk about whether the woman's dowry is equivalent to the man's bride price, let's talk about the legal definition of bride price and dowry.
Legally, the bride price is the woman's personal property and is a gift from the man to the girl.
Legally, the dowry is also the woman's personal property.
Therefore, there will be more and more people who resist the bride price in the future, and the situation of breaking up because of the bride price will become more and more intense.
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