In the book "Sweeping Power", there is such a profound insight: "Your life is just like the reflection of your private space—the room. ”
If the room is not cleaned, it is easy to be covered with dust; In the same way, if there is a lack of tidying up in life, it will gradually be filled with trivial clutter. On the long road of life, we are like a traveler wading through mountains and rivers, and only by sorting out and purifying ourselves in a timely manner can we keep our steps light and move forward leisurely.
The Italian master Modigliani once had a sobering proverb: "The greatest weakness of human nature is that it tends to focus on others and ignore self-examination."
Therefore, we need to see the world with one eye and the other to introspect ourselves. ”
Those who know themselves know", this is the consensus of sober people. They are well versed in a truth: we must achieve self-improvement and sublimation by recognizing ourselves and carefully analyzing ourselves.
Recognize yourself and find the right direction
In the classic book "Yanzi Spring and Autumn Miscellaneous Ten", there is such a wise fable: "If the orange tree grows in the land of Huainan, the fruit is a luscious orange, and when transplanted to the domain of Huaibei, it becomes a bitter orange." This statement reveals that everything in the world has its own unique value, and the key is whether you can find and stick to your own positioning.
People are often prone to overestimate their own connections and value, and when faced with their own shortcomings, they either choose to escape from reality or fall into the whirlpool of self-deception. However, only with a deep insight into one's own strengths and weaknesses can one truly achieve self-healing and improvement.
Take actor Yang Zi as an example, after she became popular with "Family with Children", her career once fell into a trough. At that time, most of the roles that threw olive branches to her were old-fashioned scripts limited to marriage and love or local themes, which did not meet the characteristics of her age and failed to attract widespread attention, making her wander on the edge of the entertainment industry and confused.
Once, Yang Zi was suddenly told that the role was replaced by a hotter actress a week before the start of filming, which made her deeply aware that in the entertainment industry driven by commercial logic, if there is not enough commercial value, she may face the fate of being replaced at any time.
As a result, Yang Zi decisively adjusted her strategy, re-planned her acting career, and no longer single-handedly, but chose to sign a contract with a large brokerage company to seek a broader space for development.
Opportunities followed, her outstanding performance in the Xianxia masterpiece "Qingyunzhi", and the help of several idol dramas, made her successfully become a popular little flower, and won more industry discourse and independent choice. Her sobriety and tenacity have made her extraordinary life trajectory.
It deeply resonates with a sentence: "There is no absolute dead end in the world, only people whose thinking has reached an impasse." "No matter how hard you put in on the wrong path, you can only reap unsatisfactory results.
Only by waking up in time, flexibly adjusting the direction, and finding the most suitable development path for oneself can we maximize our personal value and bloom with a unique brilliance of life.
We must believe that I am born to be useful, recognize myself, find the right path, and there is nothing that cannot be done.
Look at yourself and reflect on yourself often
Zeng Shiqiang, a master of Chinese culture, taught us profoundly: "Only by continuous self-reflection can people continue to achieve self-improvement." ”
On the stage of life, no one can avoid making mistakes, and the courage to face mistakes, calm reflection, and in-depth self-analysis is the key to avoiding risks and moving towards excellence.
Dong Qing, a well-known CCTV host, has set an example for us with his unique style of acting. Every time she completes the recording of a show, she will carefully review the whole process in her mind and conduct an in-depth review of her own performance. As soon as she perceives any unsatisfactory points, she will quickly make adjustments in the next episode of the show in order to strive for excellence.
The formation of this habit originated from a major slip of the tongue in the 2009 Spring Festival Gala: at that time, cross talk actor Ma Dong paid tribute to his late father Ma Ji with his new work "New Sayings of Five Senses", but Dong Qing mistakenly said when announcing the screen: "Let's welcome Mr. Ma's son Ma Ji and his friends." ”
Due to the particularity of the live broadcast of the Spring Festival Gala, in order not to affect Dong Qing's mood, no one at the scene immediately reminded him. It wasn't until the end of the party that Dong Qing, who received a comforting text message from a friend, realized his mistake.
This incident made Dong Qing deeply saddened, she cried alone in the room, repeatedly asking herself whether her rigorous attitude towards work had been relaxed, and whether her business ability needed to be improved urgently. Since then, she has developed a good habit of always looking at herself and reflecting deeply.
In his hosting career since then, Dong Qing has never made a mistake with this rigorous and self-disciplined spirit, and has gradually become an irreplaceable CCTV pillar in the hearts of the audience.
She once said with emotion: "By the time the outside world is aware of your problem, the best time to correct it has often been missed." ”
Those who have achieved remarkable achievements in their careers are all held to strict standards, and they know that only through continuous self-examination and improvement can they stand tall in their respective fields.
Self-reflection is to understand oneself more clearly, correct oneself more accurately, and deepen one's self-knowledge and achieve one's life goals.
Life that does not know how to examine is meaningless, and being able to reflect on oneself in time is the beginning of a person's improvement.
Fulfill yourself and break the boat
There is a classic line in the movie "The Future": "Although people have heard many life truths, they still can't guarantee that they can live this life safely." ”
The truth of all things in the world is the crystallization of the wisdom of others' practice, just like shoes, what suits others may not fit your own foot shape.
Meals need to be chewed by hand, the road needs to be measured by oneself, the fulfillment and achievement of life can only rely on self-fulfillment, there is no other way, and the shortcut is even more vain.
* Su Qing, a talented girl, followed her parents' orders to enter the marriage hall at the time of her youth. After getting married, she strictly followed the teachings of her parents, believing that as long as she was gentle and obedient, and diligent in teaching her husband and children, she could exchange for a harmonious and happy life.
For the sake of her husband's daily life, she resolutely gave up her studies, returned to the family, washed her hands and made soup; In order to satisfy her mother-in-law's desire to hold her grandson, she went through hardships and gave birth four times in a row, just to give birth to a baby boy; In the face of the family crisis, she listened to the persuasion of her elders and forgave her husband Li Qinhou's betrayal several times.
However, Li Qinhou did not restrain because of this, but intensified it, and even openly challenged her dignity with her lover who was pregnant with Liujia. At this time, Su Qing finally woke up, and in 1943, she resolutely chose to divorce and pick up the studies she had given up.
In the same year, she was married for ten years in the magazine "Wind and Rain Talk", and once published, the sales volume was like a wild horse, dominating the top. Since then, she has successively created masterpieces such as "Huanjin Collection" and "Eating Men and Women", and quickly became a high-profile female writer in Shanghai's literary circle.
She broke free from the shackles of her family, broke the boat, ignored the prejudices of the world, and finally achieved self-redemption and fulfillment. As Victor Hugo said, "I would rather carve out my own path in life by my own strength than rely on the help of the strong or the established ladder." ”
The wheel of destiny is always in your own hands, and the more difficult you are, the more determined you should be to seek the path of self-salvation.
In Claire McFaul's masterpiece The Ferryman, she affectionately asks a philosophical question:
If the journey of life is likened to a vast and lonely river, then who will be the ferryman who will lead your soul and help you through this long journey? ”
Undoubtedly, the answer lies deep in the heart of every human being, and that is the power of self-fulfillment and redemption.
Self-redemption is like a sharp key that unlocks and broadens the depth and breadth of our lives, enabling us to show resilience and wisdom in the face of adversity.
Perfecting oneself means bravely pursuing one's inner desires, giving life more possibilities and opportunities, so that the ship of life can sail far away in the rough waves and reach the other side of the ideal.
In Mr. Yang Jiang's book "Walking to the Edge of Life", she profoundly expounded the essence of life: "The world is indeed full of hardships, and we are all engaged in a long-lasting journey of cultivating the soul, improving ourselves and perfecting our personality. ”
Regularly organize the inner world in depth, constantly refine the essence, and get rid of those heavy mental burdens. Perseverance in introspection and purification, like gold panning to extract the true meaning of life.
One day, you will unload the burden of your soul, like a butterfly out of a cocoon, fluttering lightly, flying freely on the stage of life.
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