As the saying goes, "It's better to die than to live." ”
Yes, decades of life are too short, don't waste it, don't lose hope.
When he was alive and vigorous, he really lived a very longing life and regarded time as life.
Once you are very old, you can't walk by yourself, and you still drag your sick body, many thoughts will change.
There are always some people who want to end their lives as soon as possible when pain comes.
Think about it seriously, the days of the rest of your life can be counted down, what is the point of living?
To be alive is to hope.
The patriotic poet Lu You told his children before he died"The dead Yuan knows that everything is empty, but the sorrow is not the same in Kyushu." Wang Shi set the Central Plains Day in the north, and the family sacrifice did not forget to tell Naiweng. ”
After the fall of the Northern Song Dynasty and the establishment of the Southern Song Dynasty, countless patriots insisted on the Northern Expedition to regain the lost land and establish the prestige of the Song Dynasty.
Lu You is old, but he is unwilling, so he pins the hope of chasing his dream on the children of the world.
In fact, when Lu You was nearly eighty years old, he had a chat with the equally patriotic Xin Qiji.
When parting, Lu You said: "The Central Plains Linfeng fights for himself, and the remnants of dogs and sheep are so frightened." But let the small test come out of the line, and the heroes of the history can be heroic. ”
When people are old, they can't ride horses and gallop, and they can't work hard, but what kind of mental state they are will affect many people.
The writer Stendhal said it well: "The esteem of the old man is the most beautiful privilege of the human spirit." ”In real life, it is particularly difficult for an elderly person to take care of himself and live with resentment.
Think about it, the children are middle-aged, busy with work, and have to take care of the elderly. It is inevitable that there are inconsiderate places, but the old man is embarrassed in every way, this is not "the tip of the needle to the wheat", and the spirit of being a man has been lost?
The old man made all kinds of difficulties for the nanny, thinking that he had spent the nanny fee, which was very remarkable. The relationship is stiff, and it is the old man who should suffer.
I have seen a lot of old people, and they change nannies every three or five times, and there are many gaps in between. The children complained, and the nanny also scolded.
Living with hope is different. The attention of the elderly will be shifted to society, the positive side of life, the heart is quiet, and it is easy to deal with everyone.
The pain is in the body, but it is not very painful, and even when resisting the pain, it has a positive meaning and affects the people around you.
To live, you have to let go.
Sooner or later, people will have to leave, and this is unavoidable.
The best way to live is to "live like the splendor of summer flowers, and die like the quiet beauty of autumn leaves".Living quietly is a blessing for children and grandchildren, and it can also nourish the rest of your life.
Of course, the premise of being quiet is to let go of all kinds of distractions, and it can also take away hatred over time.
Su Shi of the Northern Song Dynasty was demoted many times in his life, as far as Hainan.
When he was in his sixties, he was pardoned and set off for the capital.
On the way back to Beijing, he wrote"The heart is like a gray wood, and the body is like a boat that is not tied"., everything is no longer important, as quiet as dead ashes, and like a boat without a rope.
Not long after that, Su Shi couldn't afford to get sick.
There is also Wang Anshi, who has worked hard for many years in order to change the law, but he has encountered countless obstacles in changing the law, and he has also been squeezed out by the old ministers.
As a last resort, Wang Anshi chose to retire.
There are people everywhere who evaluate Wang Anshi, and his words are very ugly. Someone writes poetry with bad intentions"Talking about morality, who knows that there are many changes." After his life declines and falls, why should people be sad? ”
But Wang Anshi was very stable for the rest of his life, focusing on literature and mingling with the villagers.
On his deathbed, he told his wife"It's just a matter of scattering all the wealth and cultivating good deeds." ”
Everything is predetermined, is it accidental", everything has a certainty, why bother with it?
Too many people have a lifetime of desire, hatred, dissatisfaction, embarrassment, heart knots, etc., which leads to their own heart disease, which is more uncomfortable than the collapse of the body. This is completely unnecessary.
Remember, bring the hatred between people into the coffin; Put down the bad things in the past, don't think about it; Throw what you can't get out of your heart and be light.
Thinking too much, I always feel that my heart is "very heavy", which is a real tragedy that I can't understand for the rest of my life.
To be alive is true love.
Many couples are noisy and noisy in normal times, but they are really about to part with life and death, so they are reluctant to give up, and their feelings have reached the extreme.
Gu Xiangdong, who lives in Shenyang, took special care of his wife Gao Zhixia after she fell ill.
My wife has cancer, and the doctor judged that it should be only three years.
Faced with the threshold of life and death, Gu Xiangdong decided to take his wife on a trip to see the scenery that he had never seen but wanted to see.
After many years of traveling, his wife's illness was cured. Couples have been traveling together for more than twenty years.
The power of love, really powerful.
The husband and wife went on the stage of "Departure to Happiness" together, and the wife said with emotion: "Thank you for his affection and tenderness in never giving up and treating each other with affection." ”
Gu Xiangdong said: "As long as my wife is alive, I must take her out for a walk, and I will die on the road." ”
The more difficult it is, the more true love happens. It's like a young couple struggling together to get through the trough.
In addition, there is the love of brothers and sisters. For example, an old lady who is married far away hears that her brother is sick, and she still wants to come and see it, no matter how difficult it is.
For example, when children make time to take care of the elderly, this is the love of reciprocation.
If you are a positive elderly person who encounters difficulties in her illness, there are people from the community to help. There are also people who solve the economic and living difficulties of the elderly.
Getting love, passing on love, and triggering love are all meanings of life.
** In "Alive", it is written: "The dead still want to come back to life, and you can't die as a big living person." ”Time urges people to grow old, but also to forge ahead, the key depends on how you choose.
Before the day when the coffin is closed, there are many variables, and there are also turning points in life.
Don't be a pessimist, don't lose your good nature.
The poem says: "Falling red is not a ruthless thing, turning into spring mud is more protective of flowers." ”You know? When the fallen leaves wither, it can still nourish a piece of soil. Man, how can it not be.
In this life, you don't bring a grain of dust when you come, and you can fertile a piece of soil when you go.