And with a father there must be a son.
A good father is the pillar of the family, with a sky above his head and a heart for the family.
The role of fathers in the family is really too great.
But some fathers are shocking, in addition to being weak and incompetent, they are also moths in the family.
When we praise our fathers, we also have to learn the wisdom of "dividing into two" and looking at both sides of everything.
According to the family business model of "male outside, female inside", the future of the child can be seen from the father.
In the long-term family life, the child slowly continued his father's mode of making money and running a family.
It can be said that when the child grows up, whether he can excel or not depends on the level of the father.
The father who reads books raises "positive" children.
Gorky said: "I pounce on books like a hungry man pounces on bread." ”Although the words are a bit exaggerated, there is indeed a great connection between reading and bread.
For ordinary families, if no one reads, they may not even be able to buy bread in the future.
Historically, most wealthy families started with studying.
For example, in Su Shi's family, his father Su Xun took the lead in studying, and Su Shi and his younger brother Su Zhe doubled their studies, so Su Shi and Su Zhe were both admitted to Jinshi, and the family rose from then on.
Zeng Guofan's family, starting from his grandfather Zeng Yuping, was inspired to study, and did his best to send his children and grandchildren to school. In Zeng Guofan's generation, the family really rose, and there were several big officials.
Literary scholar Liu Xiang said: "Books are like medicine, and good reading can cure foolishness." ”In many families, fathers force their children to read, repeatedly emphasizing the importance of reading, but the father himself does not read, but holds his mobile phone and laughs with a group of fox friends and dogs.
The strong contrast between father and son makes the father seem ignorant, and the child is not interested in reading.
Living in a world of books, children can take the initiative to read. Outside of work, the father picks up the book, which is more attractive than forcing the child to read.
A thrifty father raised a child with a "rich family business".
Many people think that money can solve 80% of the problems, and the remaining 20% is because there is not enough money.
This is not the case. Rich people, divided into two kinds:Rich, but capricious; Rich, but also very frugal.
A good father is the second kind of person.
In "Yu Shi Mingyan", there is a father named Jiang Shize, who lost his wife in middle age and dragged his son Jiang Xingge to grow up alone.
Jiang Shize has been in business and has a rich family. But he always thought that if he didn't let his son learn to do business, the family business would fail.
When his son was nine years old, Jiang Shize took his son from his hometown of Zaoyang County, Xiangyang Prefecture, to Guangdong to do business.
The son is born handsome, and the father is entangled a lot, which can easily arouse the jealousy of others and bring all kinds of calculations.
In order to reduce trouble, Jiang Shize told the customer that his son was his "nephew". In ancient times, going out with a nephew meant not having a biological son. When outsiders see this, they will look down on them with a little "contempt". Because of this, Jiang Shize received some sympathy and avoided jealousy.
When his son was seventeen years old, Jiang Shize passed away. But the family has always been prosperous, because the son has walked several times from Xiangyang to Guangdong, and he will make money in the future, and he is familiar with the road and knows how to protect himself.
The two qualities of diligence and simplicity are passed on to their children, which is what a rich father should do.
The blind father raised a child who was "confused in the future".
There is a saying: "If you come out to mix, you will have to pay it back sooner or later." ”Father's misdeeds, maybe in his own generation, there is no retribution, but future generations will suffer.Zhu Zi's Family Motto also says: "When you see lust, you have a lustful heart, and you report it to your wife and daughter; Hide grievances and use dark arrows to prolong future generations. ”
It is impossible for every generation to be the overlord of the world, and it can make outsiders frightened.
Yan Song, the first assistant of the Ming Dynasty cabinet, became a powerful minister after years of hard work, but he became more and more corrupt, framed the loyal ministers around him, flattered him, and collected wealth everywhere.
His son Yan Shifan directly became a helper for evil.
When Yan Song was very old, he promoted his son to be a waiter in the Ministry of Works. Father and son conspired to buy off the people around Ming Shizong to figure out all the dynamics and facilitate the monopoly of power.
People left a sentence: "The emperor can't live without Yan Song, and Yan Song can't live without his son." ”
If you do too much injustice, you will kill yourself", in the forty-fourth year of Jiajing, Yan Shifan was beheaded and cried before his execution; The family property was confiscated, and Yan Song also died in the tomb, and no one cared about him after his death.
Remember, there is no such thing as a whooping red flower. All the demon kings of the mixed world will be defeated, and everyone in the family will plummet in the future.
The father of the loser raised a child who "depends on the mother".
Some fathers, after getting married, have no ability to make money, and they have a set of ways to deal with their wives and children.
The wife made money and went home, but the husband did not have a good face and spoke badly.
The husband drank the wine that his wife bought, and scolded his wife for not drinking well enough, and it was not good for his appetite.
After the meal was cooked, the wife called her husband to eat, but the husband was playing a game, disgusting his wife for "not knowing the current affairs".
If the child has a question about his homework, he asks his father to take a look, and the father says angrily: "What are you talking about studying with your grades?" ”
The child was about to pay the tuition, and told his father. The father replied, "How can I have any money, ask your mother to go." ”
The child had a night of self-study and was going home, so he arranged for his father to pick him up. But my father went to play mahjong.
A phenomenon is written in the book "The Land of Giant Babies": "Many men still think of themselves as babies in marriage. ”When the mother is getting stronger and stronger, the father begins to "gnaw his wife and pit", and the child is undoubtedly sad in such a family.
If the parents divorce and the children follow the father, it is a broken can; Following your mother, you also have to endure the hardships of growing up.
The real level of the father, in addition to money and status, is more of a spiritual level.
A man who lives a humble life, but can look up to the stars, is still a high-level person; A man who lives in a high place, but is a bully, has a poor character, and carries negative energy all day long, is always a low-level person.
If you want your child to be outstanding, your father must understand itTiger fathers have no dogs.
The father is as powerful as a tiger, and he is the foundation of the child's excellence; The family is harmonious and happy, and it is an excellent starting point for children.
On the road of parenting, no matter how hard and tired the father is, don't forget to live with positive energy.
On the road of parenting, the father is not a superman, but he must have a superhuman will.
In fact, from the day my father took on the responsibility, the level was raised.