The secret to a happy marriage: Four types of topics, don't talk nonsense to others.
There are some things in married life that deserve our caution, especially those topics that may affect the relationship between husband and wife and family harmony. If you want to maintain a happy family, here are four types of things that you really don't want to tell people casually.
Whether you're looking for someone to talk to, vent your emotions, or seek support, you have to understand that others may just come to watch with the mindset of watching the show. After many people find out that their partner is cheating, they immediately send the evidence to the family group, and as a result, although the partner returns to the family because of the pressure, the cold violence towards the partner has intensified after that. In this case, there really is no one to help you.
As the saying goes, wealth is not exposed. If you talk too much, others may come to borrow money, and if you talk too little, you may be looked down upon. People's hearts are like this, everyone wants you to live well, but they don't want you to live better than them. Some families are defrauded because they exaggerate their wealth too much, and the husband and wife are saddled with huge debts, and their married life becomes miserable. More often than not, when the family is wealthy, relatives and friends come to borrow money, and if their needs cannot be met, it will cause quarrels and conflicts, and finally lead to the breakdown of the relationship between husband and wife. Therefore, protecting the family's financial situation is an important part of maintaining marital happiness.
No matter how good your partner is, they all have their own flaws and shortcomings. However, if you tell this to others, especially those with ulterior motives, the trust between you as a couple can be seriously damaged. I have been in a situation where someone complains about their partner's shortcomings while chatting with a friend, who encourages him to divorce his partner in order to "help" him. As a result, the partner was very angry when he found out about it, and finally came to the point of divorce. Therefore, we should respect our partner's shortcomings and inadequacies instead of exposing them to others.
Everyone has curiosity and a desire to snoop, and sharing the private life of a couple can only satisfy their curiosity. However, doing so may cause unnecessary trouble in your relationship. In my counseling experience, I have seen many cases of people being poached for revealing their private lives to their friends. Therefore, protecting the private life of husband and wife is an important part of maintaining marital happiness.
In conclusion, running a happy marriage requires us to deal with various issues carefully. There are four types of things that we should avoid telling people casually: conflicts between husband and wife, the financial situation of the family, the shortcomings and shortcomings of the partner, and the private life of the couple.