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Zi said: "Learn and learn from time to time, don't you also say? Have friends come from afar, are you happy? People don't know but are not gentle, and they are not gentlemen? ”
Enlightenment principle: Isn't it a happy thing to learn knowledge and review, practice, and use it frequently? Isn't it a happy thing to have like-minded friends who share the same outlook on life and values from afar? Don't be angry because others don't understand you or think others should understand and know, and others don't understand and don't know, such a person should be called a gentleman.
Reality: In reality, many people will think that learning is useless, "it is also a person", that is, it cannot create value, and there is no effect, which is actually a misunderstanding of learning, which is to equate "learning" with "reading", and mistake "reading" for "learning"; "Learning" in learning is the meaning of imitation, and "Xi" is the meaning of repeated practice, so learning is to understand the knowledge taught by "books", "reality", "stories", "others" and so on through reading, perception, etc., and then continue to imitate and practice until they are proficient, and constantly optimize and innovate, and at the same time sort out and summarize, induction, output and teach and help others this process.
So if you find that learning isn't making you successful, learning isn't making you happy, learning isn't making you change, then ask yourself, are you really learning? Or do you just use "reading" to move yourself and think that you study hard, have you ever wondered if what you learn is relevant to you? Is it life-related? Is it work-related? If not, then what are you studying? Read other people's stories, understand your own life, if learning does not make you better, maybe you are not this step, ask what what you learn and what is related to yourself? What are you doing well? What can I try to improve? How to improve? When does it start?
To give a simple example of learning in practice, there is a saying in the Analects that "the king makes the minister courteous, and the minister makes the king loyal", in yesterday's work, my leader kept interrupting my speech when I reported on my work, and blamed me, in fact, from that moment on, the effective communication of our work has ended, I am just passively coping, as for what he is talking about? True or not? It doesn't make any sense to me anymore, and after ending this conversation, I'm thinking about the problem? Yes is "etiquette", any time when the object of communication is not respected, the effect of communication and exchange will be greatly reduced, when I feel violated, the communication has been terminated, and the emotion of confrontation has taken over, so I am thinking about the same question myself? The answer is yes, then how to do it, I think I have deep feelings and know best how to do it, I may not be able to do it perfectly, and I don't do it very well, but continue to follow the teachers and seniors who do well, pay attention to and practice diligently, until we master this knowledge, and make our life and work happier and better, and then help those who need to learn the experience, this may be the true meaning of learning.
The teacher explained very incisively, that is, people who have the same cultural community, not acquaintances or people who have known each other for a long time, I also have deep feelings about this, that is, have you noticed? Some people are with him, and they have the feeling of having a thousand glasses of wine with their confidants, the more they talk, the more speculative they are, and a cup of tea can also talk until the middle of the night. As soon as I have free time, I want to communicate and communicate with him. This is "friends", like-minded people, we through **, communication, exchange, let themselves see more broad, vision and pattern is broader, knowledge and knowledge are more profound, the heart is more firm and transparent, all of this stems from our common cognition, common cultural community, there is a common exploration and pursuit of life (can also be called the common three views, that is, outlook on life, social outlook, values), in the Analects called "gentlemen are harmonious but different, villains are the same but not harmonious"; That is, although gentlemen have different practices, they have the same cultural community and three views; Although the villains have the same approach, they each have their own ideas, and they belong to the surface of a harmonious atmosphere; In the daily dinner life, we will find that some meals we eat very happily, chat very happily, always feel that the time is too fast, unconsciously to the world has no time to disperse the feast, from time to time want to reunite, because we get the energy we want, solve the confusion in life or work, find ideas and methods, there is a long drought and rain, dead wood and spring feeling, so such a meal life, we will only feel that it is too fast, too little, and on the contrary, some meals, but boring, Although pushing the cup and changing the lamp, I only hope to end this boring time as soon as possible, because it is only human sophistication, and there is no culture.
Enlightenment principle: about "sorrow" in daily life is more common, such as I rarely do housework, I don't know how to use detergent correctly when washing dishes, resulting in either waste, or can't be cleaned, my wife sulked with me, thinking that I was lazy, didn't want to do it, didn't know how to feel sorry for her, deliberately did it like this disgusting her, made her ugly, embarrassed her, this is ignorant and stunned; Just like my wife has been busy with housework for a day at home, just tidying up the house, too tired to sit on the sofa to take a rest, watch TV for a while, I am hungry after work, go home and open the door to see, she is lazily watching TV, can't help muttering, "I watch TV at home every day, and I don't know how to cook dinner!" My wife immediately got angry, went back to the house and locked the door, my wife and I didn't know and warmed, so most of the troubles in life come from ignorance and frustration, all from "self-grasping", all from the perspective of "I think" to see the problem, are mistaken "position" as "opinion", mistaken "opinion" as "fact", so break self-grasping, according to the facts can be a gentleman.