Read the original text: Zigong said: "Poor and unscrupulous, rich and coquettish, Xiang Ru? Zi said: "But also, if you are not poor, you are happy, and you are rich and courteous", Zigong said: ""Poetry" cloud: 'If you cut like learning, if you grind. 'What does it mean? Zi said: "Give also, the beginning can be said to be "poetry" has been completed! Tell the past and know the future. ”
Enlightenment principle: when you are poor and suffering, you should not be inferior, self-abandoned, blame yourself, resent yourself, look down on yourself, belittle yourself, do not flatter, flatter, and flatter those who have money and power, insist on being courteous and courteous, and be confident, self-reliant, self-reliant, and self-respecting. When you are rich, you are not proud, squeamish, arrogant, arrogant, domineering, you know that you are in awe, you don't see no one, you are arrogant, self-righteous, arrogant and arrogant, how about being a man like this? Confucius said, "Yes, but it is not as good as when you are poor and difficult, you still stick to your original intention and the main theme of life, and find happiness and energy from it, enjoy the happiness in it, feel the beauty of poverty and happiness, enjoy it, and enjoy it although you are poor", in fact, happiness is really not directly related to wealth and poverty.
Reality: An uncle of mine told me a real thing about himself, uncle because the family is poor, so he looks at the boiler at night for the village boss's house (he has to work in the field during the day), uncle's era, gas has not been passed, rural heating depends on burning wood, rich family to get a boiler, uncle every night when he goes to buy two bottles of beer, a plate of peanuts, where to eat and drink, happy to hum a little song, after eating and drinking, snoring happily asleep, one day the boss found him, asked him for advice, how to be as happy as uncle, What kind of happiness does Uncle say? The boss said, I can't sleep every night, standing on the roof in a daze, hearing you happily humming a little song in the boiler room, and then snoring, sleeping so soundly, I envy, why can't I sleep? Why can't you be happy? How did you do that? Can you teach me? Maybe it's just being poor.
Enlightenment principle: wealth can not only adhere to etiquette, but also good manners, and take the initiative to greet others, and to people who are not as good as themselves, can still be treated with courtesy, and do not care about the rudeness of others, if you observe carefully in daily life, you will find that every successful person is a person who knows etiquette, and good etiquette, good etiquette, etiquette is a culture, representing a kind of respect and respect, the person who is given the gift can feel your respect and respect, and will naturally respect and respect you, the accumulation of respect and respect is reputation, Prestige, public wishes, to a certain extent is the way of heaven, will be blessed, so you will find that a person's fortune is hidden in it, you will see a good "courtesy" person, will inevitably get everyone's support, will inevitably move from success to success, will inevitably endure, will inevitably come out of the generation of talented people, will inevitably be blue out of the blue and better than the blue, will inevitably be evergreen, on the contrary, arrogant, will inevitably go to collapse and perish.
Reality: Listen to an old brother talk about his experience, he used to be an unknown member of the unit, because of diligence and hard work to get the appreciation and promotion of the leader, to a team responsible, he was proud to be a leader, and then according to his own ideas to command, pointing to the country, stirring up the text, leading the way, taking the lead in setting an example, but the performance has not improved, and then he found that when he took the lead in working with everyone, everyone was the same, he went to be busy with other times, everyone returned to the old way, what to do? If it goes on like this, he will be eliminated sooner or later, and he doesn't know what to do, so he decided to start from every little thing, from picking up a piece of paper on the ground, to sorting out the placement of every item, from taking the initiative to greet the security guards, and taking the initiative to greet the cleaning aunt, he not only worked hard to take the lead, but also unconsciously put down his arrogance, and expressed his trust and respect for everyone with etiquette and action, and at the same time, because everyone felt his goodwill trust and respect, everyone automatically understood and supported him, When this understanding and support is manifested in performance, it is a miracle and leap from the last one to the first, and it is magically enduring, and the so-called "success is also Xiao He, failure is also Xiao He." When he became the proudest star in the unit, the leaders continued to praise, colleagues and subordinates continued to praise and praise, coupled with no successful experience and failure lessons, and no one admonished in time, he finally went to a road of self-destruction, he began to be blindly confident and arrogant in himself, forgot how he succeeded, took other people's praise of himself as a fact, thought that he was particularly able to endure hardships, especially have methods, special ideas, special intelligence, special ability, etc., Gradually, I began to feel that I was amazing, running with the leader every day, my eyes only looked up, thinking that the following was not worth mentioning, so as the sun was in the sky, he was pinned on by everyone with the greatest hope, and he was as fast as the loss of the star, even if the leaders gave him great support and resources, it was to no avail, when things happened, the huge gap and blow, caused a huge change in his mood, he began to complain and negative energy, family and marriage also entered a crisis, red lights continued, career and family double blow, let him enter depression, began to deny himself, unwilling to face everyone and things, extreme vanity and inferiority made him unable to get out of himself, in the state of losing himself, in the state of losing himself, he spent his youth painfully in a state of confusion, and now he is past the prime of life, he talked about this matter, and calmed down a lot, he told me that everything is the best tempering and arrangement of the way of heaven, he became famous because of a ceremony, and lost his youth because of a ceremony, so he is only grateful, not complaining, only respectful, not arrogant, everything is done in the ceremony, the ceremony is the core of the Analects, It is also the external carrier of Chinese excellent culture, without courtesy, the so-called excellent culture is the soul of the bodyless, without any value and significance.
Enlightenment principle: Zigong said, "If a person wants to reach the standard of being poor and happy, rich and courteous, he needs to be like carving Buddha statues and polishing jewelry, so that a person can constantly experience difficulties, setbacks, and tribulations in life, so that people can create their own perseverance and optimism through a life of learning and grinding; This is what it means to revere the destiny of heaven, to take the rite as your hobby, to integrate it into your life and soul, and to practice it as if you were eating, drinking, and breathing. Confucius said, "Yes, I can discuss the Book of Songs with you, you can expand the meaning of what I said to a deeper level, let me also benefit, tell you some things in the past, you can infer what the future will be like from these things, and it is a very happy thing to be with you."