Mannerisms, known as "body language" in psychology, refer to people's body movements, which is a kind of dynamic beauty and a concrete embodiment of demeanor. In a sense, it is no less important than the spoken word.
A person's behavior is the silent language in social interaction, and it is the external manifestation of personal character, quality, taste, literacy, spiritual world and living habits. In daily life, to see whether a person's behavior is elegant or vulgar is actually to see whether his behavior meets the requirements of etiquette.
1.Keep smiling and show your sincerity and kindness. A real smile should come from the heart, permeate your emotions, and be consistent on the inside and out. A smile without packaging or pampering is infectious, it can shorten the psychological distance between people, and create a warm and harmonious atmosphere for in-depth communication and interaction.
2.When talking in social situations, look at the other person's eyes and the triangle of the mouth to show respect for the other person; But the time of staring should not exceed a second, because staring at the other person for a long time will make the other person feel nervous and embarrassed. Listen to each other's speech, not look around, read books and newspapers, look tired, and yawn. Otherwise, it will give the impression of being absent-minded, arrogant and unreasonable.
3.There is a station phase. When standing, the body should be perpendicular to the ground, the center of gravity should be on the two forefeet, the chest should be raised, the abdomen should be tucked, the jaw should be tucked, the head should be raised, and the shoulders should be relaxed. Arms naturally drooping or crossed in front of the body, eyes level, smiling. Do not bend your neck, slant your waist, bend your legs, etc. when standing, and it is not appropriate to put your hands in your trouser pockets or cross your chest on some formal occasions, and do not subconsciously make some small movements, which not only appear restrained, give people a sense of lack of self-confidence, but also lose the solemnity of manners. Women wear cheongsam skirts and skirts, and they are not allowed to stand with their legs spread apart, and they are not allowed to squat in public, but can only kneel or squat with their backs to others.
4.There is a sitting phase. Dignified and graceful sitting will give people an elegant, steady, natural and generous sense of beauty. The correct sitting posture should be: the back is straight and the shoulders are relaxed. Women should bring their knees together; Men's knees can be spread apart, but not too large, generally not more than shoulder-width apart. Place your hands naturally on your knees or on the armrests of a chair. On formal occasions, you should sit gently and gently, and you should sit dignified and steady, and you should not sit up and down violently, which will make the tables and chairs make a mess and cause an embarrassing atmosphere. No matter what kind of sitting posture, the upper body must be kept upright, as the ancients said"Sit like a clock"。If you stick to this, no matter how you change your posture, it will be beautiful and natural.
5.Be aware of the rules of society. It is necessary to strictly abide by traffic rules, do not jaywalk when walking, and do not drive in the wrong direction, grab the road, get jammed, etc., and form good traffic habits. Obey public order, take the elevator and take the corridor, and get used to walking on the right; Riding in the car, shopping, and running errands are accustomed to queuing; When I see the elderly and children in the car, I am used to giving up my seat. In public places, follow the warnings strictly.
6.Do not behave indecently in public. For example, in front of the public, undress and loosen the belt, undisguise makeup, use toothpicks, eat loudly, and do not use public chopsticks and spoons. Talking and laughing in public places, regardless of left and right. When answering and calling the mobile phone, no matter whether there are other people around or not, they say it loudly, for fear that the other party will not be able to hear. In the theater, they are eating snacks and melon seeds. Spitting and throwing garbage on the ground in public places without any restraint.
7.The standard posture for women wearing skirts to get on and off the bus: when getting on the bus, the person sits in the car first, and then sits down and then puts the legs together. When getting out of the car, put your legs together and land on your feet, and then slowly move the person out.
8.Don't make random gestures. Gestures are one of the body languages, and gestures have different meanings in different countries and regions, so it is necessary to understand their gesture language to avoid making jokes and misunderstandings. For example, the thumb and index finger form a circle, which is the posture in English. It means agree in English-speaking countries, but if you change the country, the meaning of this gesture is different. In Japan, it means a zero. In some countries along the Mediterranean coast, it means a very obscene move.