Sending a document to collect dragon cards to divide millions of cash Allowing people around them to make mistakes and watching them accept punishment is a person's greatest kindness.
In real life, few people can "allow those around them to make mistakes", and this kind of contradictory case is more common in parent-child relationships:
Allow those around you to make mistakes
A few days ago, my mother-in-law came back from shopping for vegetables, saying that she met her neighbor Aunt He on the road, and chatted a few words by the way, talking about her son, after graduating from graduate school last year, she went out to work for half a year, and suddenly came back a few days ago and said that she had lost her job, and her credit card was overdrawn by 20,000 yuan, and she could not repay it and could only go home to find her parents to solve it.
Mother-in-law said that Aunt He is just this child, she has never suffered since she was a child, and her academic performance has always been very good, and she graduated from a prestigious university, but today's result is indeed a bit unexpected, 20,000 yuan is not a decimal number, this time I helped him go on, so what about next time?
In recent years, in China, things like Aunt He's house have happened frequently, and many children have escaped from society after graduating from college, habitually asking for money from their parents, and have no concept of money, unable to face the pressure of life independently.
Chinese parents feel that they are their own children, and their children's affairs are our affairs, but in fact, the children at this time are all adults, independent individuals, and should face the complex and changeable society alone.
The reason is that parents have never treated their children as "others"! I can't bear to watch my child accept the punishment he deserves, and he always subconsciously wants to lend a "helping" hand.
And this so-called assistance is precisely pushing the child into an even greater abyss.
Let go of the plot of helping others and respect the fate of others
Wang Yangming mentions in his mind that you should never help anyone without asking for advice, because everyone grows up in suffering.
If you help others when they are not looking for you, you are imposing your own ideas on others, and it is a desire to show your kindness, which will not only consume your own energy, but also harm others.
Because experiences and difficulties are used for growth, if you help someone skip this step, it is equivalent to hindering their growth, and he will never understand the real stakes, but will end up complaining about you.
If a truth is not realized and practiced by oneself, one cannot fully absorb and understand it. There is no savior in this world, only oneself can save oneself.
Sometimes, the blind helping plot will also put pressure on others, just like the saying goes: "People are lying in the mud well, you have to help him on the wall;
The salted fish is lying well, you have to turn it over. This kind of excessive care and help can make others feel stressed and uncomfortable.
Your kindness is very precious, you can't show it casually, you have to protect it well, your energy is not much, please try to keep it to yourself! Maybe you can reap the ending of hello, I'm good, everyone's good!