In marriage, the wife is beautiful and moving, and it stands to reason that it should be a man's capital to show off, but some men still choose to find a lover in such a situation. Why is that? We interviewed four men to hear their truths.
1. The wife is beautiful, but her feelings are indifferent.
Xiao Wang, 35 years old, is a company employee.
My wife is indeed very beautiful, and after all these years of marriage, her appearance is still stunning. However, the beauty of the appearance does not compensate for the indifference of our feelings. We have little in common in life, and she knows very little about my work and life. I worked late into the night, and she would never know what I ate, what I did, or what difficulties I encountered. And I can't interject about her topic.
In such a marriage, I felt lonely. I'm looking for someone who understands me, cares about me, and shares my life with. Lover, maybe can give me this feeling.
Second, my wife is too independent, which makes me feel unpresent.
Xiao Li, 40 years old, is a corporate executive.
My wife is a successful working woman with strong ability, high income and independent personality. Much of her life has been devoted to work, and I have little influence over her life. She rarely relied on me, and she wasn't there for me even when I needed her.
I want to be needed, and I want to be her in my life. Lover, maybe can give me this feeling.
3. My wife is too dependent and makes me feel stressed.
Xiao Zhang, 30 years old, is a freelancer.
My wife is beautiful and gentle. However, she was too dependent on me and made me feel stressed. She interfered too much in my life and even asked for her consent when I was making decisions. I felt like I had lost my freedom and was tired of living.
I want someone who can give me space and allow me to breathe freely. Lover, maybe can give me this feeling.
Fourth, look for excitement and pursue freshness.
Xiao Zhao, 45 years old, is a civil servant.
I'll admit, I'm a novelty seeker. Although my wife is beautiful, I feel bored living together for a long time. I'm looking for excitement, I'm looking for freshness. Lover, can give me this feeling.
The beauty of the wife is indeed the capital of a man to show off. However, problems in marriage are not limited to appearances. Spiritual communication, emotional dependence, and resonance of life are the keys to maintaining the stability of marriage. When these factors are missing, men may seek out a lover to meet the needs they have failed to get in their marriage.
In the world of feelings, there is no absolute right or wrong. We need to understand that the reason why men are looking for a lover is not just because their wives are not beautiful enough. The real solution is for both parties to communicate together, find the root cause of the problem, and work hard to solve it. Only in this way can marriage get back on track and rejuvenate love.