A celebrity said:
The relationship between husband and wife is not a one-sided request and giving, but each does his best, performs his own duties, and each gets what he wants.
But the wrong demands and giving can also come at a heavy cost.
For example, cheating and betrayal.
Men's cheating and betrayal are mostly out of the lower body thinking, and they don't go to the kidneys, but women often go to the heart first and then to the kidneys.
In married life, the more men give these two things, the easier it is for women to betray their marriage.
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The more indifference a man has, the more chill a woman's heart gets
When everyone gets married, they go for happiness.
But why do some women walk and become strangers to the man who held hands back then, and become the most familiar strangers? No more expectations for men, no more demands, even at the expense of hurting each other?
Because the heart of the lover back then is dead. There is nothing more mourning than the death of the heart, and the death of the heart is nothing to care about.
As her name suggests, Xiao Fenren is a typical traditional woman, virtuous and virtuous, and conservative in her family, but in the seventh year of marriage, she finally betrayed the man she loved deeply.
The two are a traditional combination of strong men and weak women, the man graduated from a key university, and Xiaofen is just a secondary school student. Back then, the man fell in love with Xiao Fen's sunny progress, while Xiao Fen was confused by the aura of ability on the man's body.
After really entering the marriage, Xiaofen realized how painful it was to marry a man who only had IQ and no EQ.
For a man, he must be the sun of the family, and Xiaofen must be a sunflower that always follows the sun. His enthusiasm gave his work, his care gave his parents, but he only had indifference and indifference to Xiaofen.
Xiaofen still remembers that once she had a high cold and fever, and her whole body was paralyzed and weak, and she was really unable to take care of her five-year-old son. But the man disliked his son's noise and affected him to work overtime, so he dumped his son to Xiaofen. Xiaofen dragged the sick body to take care of her son, cooked for the father and son, and while cooking, tears fell down.
has never tasted the taste of being loved, so when other men shush and ask for warmth, Xiaofen betrays the family with little guilt.
The coldness, indifference, and indifference in marriage are the biggest killers of husband and wife's feelings.
When a woman can't feel love and care in marriage, empathy and don't fall in love will have a breeding ground for madness.
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The more defensive men are, the more disappointed women are
Marriage is when a man and a woman leave their original home and come together to form a new family. Since then, the small family comes first, and the husband and wife come first.
This is the most correct order of relationships in marriage.
It's a pity that there are always some men who don't figure out the facts, and after getting married, they still put their parents first, put their parents' home first, and their wives and small families take a back seat. When there is a conflict of interest between the original family and the small family, the wife becomes the first object of defense.
The more defensive a man is, the more disappointed his wife becomes, and when the disappointment has been accumulated, the heart will be far away.
After the wind chime got married, she was the woman who was guarded by her husband.
The man is the eldest son of a big family, and there are younger siblings below, and among the brothers and sisters, only the man has gone to college, entered a good unit, and has a good job and income. Therefore, for the big family, the man is the hope of the whole family and the pillar of the whole family.
And men, too, think so.
In a man's heart, supporting his parents, helping his younger siblings, and supporting his nephews and nieces is his unshirkable responsibility and obligation, and it is the most important thing in his life.
But for wind chimes, first of all, it is good for a small family to live well, and a good life for a family of three.
What's more, the emergency does not help the poor, and the kind of hole that is not filled must be ruthlessly not filled.
The couple's ideas are at odds, so the family's income and expenses, the man is always on guard against wind chimes.
As time went by, the disappointment in Feng Chime's heart became more and more accumulated, and when the man secretly took a large amount of money to fill his nephew's marriage room, Feng Chime's heart was completely pushed out.
Sometimes, Feng Chime is not even afraid that men know the truth of the matter, and she has been treated as an outsider by men, and she is really tired.
In marriage, many women's betrayal and departure are because they have saved up enough disappointment and coldness.
And men's indifference and men's defense are the root causes of this disappointment and coldness.
I hope that every man can care a little more and love a little more to his pillow person. Family marital affection