The concept of school education and the way of family education have changed dramatically compared to the previous generation. The once popular "stick" and non-beating-and-scolding method has long been no longer socially recognized.
Especially in schools, there are stricter rules about teacher behavior. However, there may be times when we feel that verbal attacks by some teachers have a more serious impact than corporal punishment, especially at the primary school level.
Is it so difficult for teachers in elementary schools to communicate normally, who are more likely to verbally attack? A high-profile Ph.D. shared a parent's question that he thought was a topic worth discussing. Parents said that their daughter was studying in elementary school, and the words of the head teacher were unbearable, even for adults.
This girl has been criticized by her teacher many times because of her homework and answering questions. But it is not so much a criticism of education as a kind of "spiritual suppression". A trivial matter can be used in the meanest language to demean a student in public for several minutes without stopping.
Unexpectedly, this situation is something that many students are experiencing or have experienced. The discussion among netizens revealed a pattern, it seems that in elementary school, teachers who are most prone to verbal attacks are more common.
In the face of these flowers of the motherland, these "gardeners" are like ruthless "scissor hands", cutting off the confidence and dignity of the students. If you question it, someone will come out and refute it: can't the students nowadays say it?
It's really puzzling, and those who say such things are likely to be the kind of people themselves who don't think much about the feelings of others. People who usually speak mean rarely have a "tofu heart". Most students can understand the difference between criticism and venting, so why talk so harshly?
As a teacher, you are yourself a person with professional training in education, and you should understand the basic principles of modern education. Is it so hard to communicate normally? I've put together a few reasons why such educators are more likely to emerge in primary school.
First of all, the recruitment threshold for primary schools is relatively low, and it is naturally easier to decline than at other stages. Although it cannot be generalized in terms of academic qualifications, professional level, and comprehensive literacy, generally speaking, the lower the threshold, the higher the probability of problems. For example, many small cities have found that students who were once mediocre academically have gone on to work as teachers in primary schools through connections.
Secondly, the management of primary school students is indeed difficult, especially in the early grades, and it may be difficult for them to remember it just by reasoning. In order to manage the class effectively, teachers sometimes have to abandon the gentle style and adopt a direct speaking style to alert some students.
Again, unlike in secondary school, where grades were focused, elementary school teachers have a broader scope of work. There are too many trivial things, and it is easy to lose patience. These teachers may be more unscrupulous because of their relatively low resistance to primary school students, and they don't have to think much about the likelihood that students might "fight back" before degrading them compared to secondary school teachers.
Parents should allow their children to express their grievances in the face of harsh teachers, and the reason for this is simple. Although public education provides learning opportunities for more ordinary people, due to its collective nature, it is difficult to avoid the drawbacks of not being able to choose teachers. No one can be sure that they won't run into sharp-tongued educators.
If a student is experiencing this kind of problem, what should parents do? Some families who can afford it may consider transferring their child to a class or even another school. However, this is often not a practical option for most people.
It is also unrealistic to directly confront the teacher head-on; Can a school easily expel a teacher because of a parent or a combination of parents? This is obviously a difficult thing to achieve. Therefore, for most students, parents should first allow their children to vent their frustrations when confronted with a sharp-tongued homeroom teacher.
The reason for this is simple, they experience the pain of their teachers at school. If they go home and talk to their parents, and the parents are serious, it's not just a matter of spoiling the fun.
This can lead to children being reluctant to share their worries with their parents because they realise that sharing their pain with their parents will only make the problem more difficult. As a result, they become more isolated and helpless.
"Mouth damage" is by no means the right way to educate, even if we cannot change this situation, at least we should understand and accept the bad experience that students experience in school; Allow them to vent at home to relieve the stress inside.
Normal critical education never involves attacking an individual's character.
Conflicts between teachers and students often lead to controversy. Some teachers or parents may think that they are too sensitive now, and they feel that it doesn't matter if they are scolded by a teacher. After all, the post-80s generation has been subjected to corporal punishment since childhood, and they are not all doing well?
In my opinion, normal critical education and "mouth damage" are two completely different concepts and must not be confused. Some teachers may use blows, but students are grateful to her when they grow up; On the other hand, some teachers may not swear but make the class hold a grudge against her, and that's the difference between the two.
Normal critical education is directed at specific behaviors; It does not lightly attack the personal character of the student. For example, if our homeroom teacher sees a girl with a hairstyle that is too short, she can ask the girl to keep it longer without having to say it in derogatory terms. But the teacher at that time said in front of the class in a weird tone that the girl was "not a man, not a woman". There was another female classmate who wore a beautiful and conservative dress, and the teacher actually commented that "is this going out to sell".
【Topic】Do you have such a teacher around you?