If there is sunshine in the heart, there will be scenery in the eyes.
Give your child the right to make mistakes: Make your child feel like a childLet a child become timid and afraid, then deprive him of his "right to trial and error".
If a child is criticized and scolded once he makes a mistake, then he will lose the desire to explore in the future and become a "good child" who looks at the faces of adults.
They should be let go and learn from trial and error.
When a child makes a mistake or makes a mistake, parents should not give too much criticism, but let the child bear the direct consequences of the mistake or mistake, so as to cause the child to consciously make up for the mistake and correct the mistake.
Children learn to make mistakes and make mistakes, so that life can go right.
Parents should let go appropriately within a safe range, and do not manipulate their children in the name of "for your good", so that children can find the direction of their own life in the exploration again and again.
Give your child unconditional support: Let your child focus on what he loves
Children will be happy with a worthwhile, meaningful life.
For example, find something you like to do, help a friend or classmate, manage your time, make a plan for activities, and join a favorite team or organization.
If a child can get the support of his parents, his happiness index will be doubled.
Focusing on what you love is a luxury in itself, but the rewards are infinite.
The best education is for a child to be himself. Parents can applaud their children's love, which is a great encouragement for children.
Give your child an optimistic attitude: Let your child have hope in the face of adversityOptimistic children generally have no bad luck.
If parents face life positively, can always see the two sides of things, and actively look for a way out when encountering difficulties, then their children will be infected by this optimistic attitude and will not easily become pessimistic.
Children need optimistic parents more than perfect parents. Even if there are many difficulties in life, in front of our children, we must refrain from smiling, and repeatedly say "no problem, everything is fine." ”
Give your child a harmonious family atmosphere: Let your child experience the warmth of intimacyAn educator once said: "The highest purpose of all education is to form character, in the growth of everyone's life, there is no more important teacher than parents, the best tutor is husband and wife love." ”
The relationship between husband and wife determines the temperature of a family. Parents' love is the best model of intimacy for children, which will affect their future relationship with their partners, and they will know how to love themselves and others.
Studies have found that frequent arguments between parents are more dangerous than divorce, and that these children are more likely to be emotionally unstable than children from harmonious families.
Children from divorced families are not necessarily unhappy, as long as the husband and wife maintain due decency, respect each other, and give the children enough security.
Give children the sensibility of beauty: Let children have unlimited enthusiasm for lifeDon't forget why you set out in the first place because you're in a hurry. If you want to be happy, you have to be close to good things.
Beauty exists everywhere in life, and we must guide children to discover and create beauty.
A bouquet of flowers on the side of the road, a butterfly in the grass, a touch of sunset ...... at sunsetIt is all the beauty that children stop to watch, and only by quietly guarding it will not break this moving beauty.
Parents create a sense of ritual, and children will also feel the beauty of life.
Children who are valued in childhood will have strong self-confidence and confidence.
With the 5 growth energies of trust, security, ritual, acceptance, and optimism given by parents, a child will release happiness when he walks to the top, and he can live his life in the way he likes, with a rich heart and a fulfilling life.
*丨Women's Voice of the All-China Women's Federation.
Editor丨Li Siqi preliminary review丨Fu Chaoyan final review丨Chen Li