Adult life is fought for these 5 abilities
In life, the responsibility on your shoulders is getting heavier and heavier, and you encounter more and more things.
Only by constantly cultivating and reshaping and allowing oneself to continue to increase in value will one become stronger and stronger.
01Emotional stability.
Everyone's emotions have a certain capacity, and once they are full, they will explode and even destroy themselves.
Only by making the heart continue to grow stronger and expand the emotional memory will you not be overwhelmed by negative energy.
As Bi Shumin said: "Only with a big heart can you be full of joy and anger, and you can lose strength." ”
Staying calm and emotionally stable is a compulsory course for an adult.
Only by learning to accept all kinds of pressure, grievances and dissatisfaction in life can we gain insight into the overall situation, judge the situation, and not be confused.
Tranquility is fixed, wisdom is born, and wisdom is calm.
Be a more and more quiet person, when things come, you can not be confused and deal with them calmly.
02Cognitive improvement.
There are also many such people in life, who only focus on temporary interests and cannot see long-term development, and as a result, limit their own growth.
I read a passage: "A master is not stronger than us, higher IQ than us, and better concentration than us." It's just because they think deeper and know more than we do, that they see a bigger system. ”
Constantly improving our cognition and broadening our horizons is to create more possibilities in life. As the saying goes, choice determines fate, and cognition determines choice.
Learn to improve inward, be compatible outward, and continue to empower the brain, so that you can continue to make the leap.
03 Resist frustration in case of trouble.
In life, if you can survive hardship, you will be strong, and if you can carry something, you will be a winner.
Behind the excellent life, there is an ascetic-like practice and the courage to go against the wind.
Behind those difficult roads is the road to growth.
Although the road is difficult, one day, you will survive the bitterness of life and taste the sweetness of the years.
So, be a more and more resilient person and remember that good things are grinding.
04 has turned the page.
Many times, pain is just one time of harm to us.
If we think about it repeatedly, it can cause us a second time, if not more.
Muddy roads, to walk quickly, not to stop walking;
Forget the painful things quickly, and don't linger anymore.
Knowing how to turn the page quickly is an amazing ability for adults.
Life is too short, don't stay in pain, don't settle in misfortune.
Come out quickly, so that you can see the clouds and see the sun, and your heart will be clear.
05 Inclusive mentality.
In life, it is the mentality that fights.
Happiness does not fall from the sky, but grows from one's own heart.
There is no such thing as a hopeless situation, only a person who is desperate for a situation.
If you are more content and grateful, you will have fewer troubles.
If you are more peaceful and tolerant, you will have fewer things to complain about. When the heart is small, the matter is big; When the heart is big, the matter is small.
The way the world looks depends on your gaze; The way your personal life looks depends on your state of mind.
Be a more and more tolerant person, and your life will be lovely everywhere.
05 Inclusive mentality.
Happiness does not fall from the sky, but grows from one's own heart.
There is no such thing as a hopeless situation, only a person who is desperate for a situation.
If you are more content and grateful, you will have fewer troubles.
If you are more peaceful and tolerant, you will have fewer things to complain about. When the heart is small, the matter is big; When the heart is big, the matter is small.
The way the world looks depends on your gaze; The way your personal life looks depends on your state of mind.
Be a more and more tolerant person, and your life will be lovely everywhere.
Emotional stability is the top charm of a person.
If the pattern of human life is large, it will not sink in trivial matters. When a person stands on the top of a mountain, he will not be bound by the little things at the bottom of the valley. ”
01 Emotional expression.
Expressing emotions is a normal desire.
Normal desires, when properly satisfied, will be beneficial to the body and mind; On the contrary, when it is not properly satisfied for a long time, it will be harmful to the body and mind.
Positive emotions not only make us full of life and energy, but also allow us to embrace life honestly, passionately and creatively. However, suppressed negative emotions can bring us many disadvantages and troubles, and even produce various diseases. If we banish unwelcome emotions deep within, then these abandoned emotions will eventually leak out, or flood like a flood.
Express emotions reasonably, let emotions flow like a trickle, and let the mood be free and beautiful all the way.
02 Refuse emotional internal friction.
Sometimes, I am obsessed with making myself an "emotionally stable" person, only to find out that I am actually "pseudo-emotionally stable" when I explode.
Most of us are encouraged from a young age not to care about emotions, and being emotional is a sign of being out of control, crazy, and bad. As a result, almost everyone is coerced into trying to become an "emotionally stable" person.
In most cases, we seldom accept emotions, and we blindly avoid and avoid them, and we develop pseudo-emotional stability.
Pseudo-emotional stability will suppress emotions and accumulate to a peak before exploding, while real emotional stability treats emotions as mature, there will be emotional fluctuations, and they dare to express emotions, but the duration of emotions is shorter and relatively balanced.
Emotions are the driving force and the call from the body. Only when we see emotions can we stand with ourselves and truly deal with the relationship between the outside world and ourselves, and the relationship between ourselves and others.
03 How to stay emotionally stable.
The more desires a person has, the more pain he has, and as his intersection with the world increases, so do disputes and disagreements.
Human desires are always endless, satisfying this, but still wanting that, and finally being controlled by desire and becoming its "slave".
There is a saying: There are tens of millions of mansions in the house, and it is only three feet wide to sleep;
The family has thousands of hectares of fertile land, and can only eat three meals a day.
Those who are emotionally stable generally live a simple life, they are not "desireless", but know how to "be content and happy".
Such a person throws away distractions and truly devotes himself to his life;
Such a person is content and happy, and lives every day of his present; Such a person, with his gestures, exudes a calm and calm temperament. Only by living in the present moment, breaking the ego, and living a simple life can we be emotionally stable.