The ultimate goal of a man's hard work is to earn money and provide the most basic economic foundation for the family, for which he squeezes his own time. Even if it is six o'clock after work, I still work hard in the company to complete my work. If his wife can't understand him, she blames him for coming home too late, and that no one is there to talk to her, boring, and complaining. Obviously, he is working hard outside, and he can't get his wife's understanding when he gets home, which will make the husband feel very uncomfortable. What he sees in his eyes is a very ignorant wife, and often such a wife is most likely to be treated indifferently by her husband. Emotional repair.
As the wife of the other party, can she be a qualified partner if she can't even do the most basic understanding of others? It's time to reflect on yourself and get rid of your bad shortcomings.
1. Is it useful for a wife to spend her whole life being a bad reviewer for the other party?
There are many couples who, as they grow older, see each other's weaknesses and unbearable sides at a glance, and often take them out at every turn to stimulate each other and embarrass each other as a way to get along. Or you don't respect him, and you often hurt him and scold him in front of others, and he is worthless in your eyes in the eyes of others. Will such a marriage be happy?
I don't know how to understand men. The reason why wives are bad critics for men is because women don't know how to understand men. For example, I don't understand that men are forced to take on some entertainment in order to take on the responsibilities of the family and want to break through in their work. Women will always dislike him for going home with the smell of alcohol, scolding him for not being angry, scolding him for being unproductive, and so on. It makes men feel very tired and incomprehensible, and all they get in exchange for is a bad evaluation from their wives, which causes the relationship between you to become more and more cold, and you don't even want to go home to see you every time you are finished.
I don't know how to respect men. The most important thing for a man is his dignity, but you don't know how to maintain it, but trample on his dignity, touch his bottom line, and only cause constant quarrels. For example, when you are at a friend's party, your friend teases him for not being considerate enough and not knowing how to help you serve food. Not only do you not know how to maintain his face, but you also ridicule him in front of them for not caring about you at home, not knowing how to take care of you, hurting his dignity, causing him to lose his temper and make trouble in front of others. When you touch his bottom line, he will stop investing in you and have the idea of divorce.
When he is not recognized by you for a long time, he will become more and more disgusted with you, and gradually cause him to rebel. will want to ask for comfort outside, want to do some behavior to retaliate against you, when there is a woman outside who knows how to identify with him and respect him, he is very tolerant of cheating. Just because you have a habit of being a bad reviewer, you pushed him to other women. No matter if you quarrel with him or fight with him, it will only increase his denial of you, and he will reverse rationalize and tell you that all this is caused by you forcing him, which will strengthen his idea of divorce.
2. How should a wife treat a husband who does not come home?
Give your husband more understanding and support. The excessive labor and work pressure has taken the husband out of breath, and the body and mind have slowly drained the energy, and if the wife still resents the husband who comes back from work, it is not to tell him that you don't know him at all. The most correct way is for the wife to let her husband have a comfortable and warm home when he comes home, and try to let him relax physically and mentally and mentally, so that the husband can feel that everything he does has been understood, supported and affirmed by his wife.
Cook a delicious and suitable meal for your husband. The husband is already in a state of overdraft due to long hours of overtime and entertainment, and if the wife can serve a delicious, fresh and nutritious meal in front of the husband, it is enough to make the husband feel satisfied. As a woman, you should know that if you want to capture a man's heart, you have to grab his stomach first. In this way, your husband can feel that you are considerate of him, and the relationship can be more stable.
Know how to organize your free time. If the husband delays returning home due to work overtime or entertainment, and the wife who stays at home alone does not know how to pass the time and feels bored and lonely, if she is a smart wife, she may wish to think in the other way. Make your free time your vacation, invite a few friends to your home, or do something you love but don't have time to do, or attend some training classes to learn some courses that interest you, so that the feeling of emptiness, loneliness, and boredom will gradually dissipate.
Self-regulation of mental emotions. No one wants to be alone in an empty room, because it is really touching and lonely, what should the wife do at this time? If the husband comes home late because he is staying up late because he is working overtime, the wife may wish to think that the husband is doing this so that he can live a more satisfying life in the future, and everything will return to normal after the work is completed. If the husband is going out for leisure occasionally, the wife should also be more tolerant and understanding, because this is a reasonable need, no matter how much the husband and wife love each other, they cannot stay together forever, everyone craves fresh air, and the right to freedom should be given.
3. Maintaining long-term relationships requires improving the ability to stay at home
Basically, every fairy tale ends with a prince and princess living happily ever after. This is equivalent to two people entering the palace of marriage together, but is this the end? In fact, this is just the beginning of another life. As a wife, if you want to maintain a happy married life and maintain a long-term relationship between you, the first thing you need to improve is your ability to stay at home. There are two main aspects of home ability:
Good communication with husband. In married life, sincere love only lays a good foundation for forming a family, and if you want to have a stable and happy family, you also need to have good communication. There will be many big and small problems in married life, and some people don't like to say what they think, thinking that the other person will know. However, although you are husband and wife, you are not the same person after all, and there will be inconsistencies in your ideas. When you don't say it, and he doesn't understand your thoughts, there will be conflicts between you, which will affect the feelings between you.
Only good and effective communication can make the husband and wife understand each other, and when they understand each other, they can form a better tacit understanding. Therefore, in married life, you need to have good communication with your husband in order to make your love life smoother, and you must not hold any grievances in your heart, which will push the situation in a bad direction.
Know how to live. A well-known emotional expert once said: "What women learn at work and the way of doing things taught by leaders are all men's experience." But we forget that after work, the thoughts, the atmosphere, and the feelings we had when we went to work can't be taken home. Because when you go home, you have to be a woman. "Men are pursuing one thing in their subconscious, that is, dignity, you treat men the way they do, what happens when they collide? In fact, for a man, he hopes that home is a warm harbor, which home he feels comfortable and can release his pressure, ** is his home.
Only a woman who knows how to live can better attract the attention of men. Men want their wives to "get in the kitchen and get out of the hall", and if you have good cooking skills, then you can tie up his stomach. Knowing how to live is actually very simple, just a little change in the way of life. For example, on a special day, if you cook a meal with your own hands, light candles and open a bottle of red wine, even if it is an ordinary dish, it will become romantic under the rendering of the atmosphere, and the quality of life will be improved accordingly.
In the absence of the interference of external unfavorable factors, the weakening of the relationship is probably due to the wife's ignorance, failure to understand and care for her husband, and many requirements for him but forgetting his dedication to the family. Blindly asking for herself and not giving, like a brutal princess. What the husband wants is not the kind of lifelong partner who will only make trouble, but a lover who can think about him, can really care about him in life, and give him encouragement and support.