Today, from a realistic point of view, I will talk to all girls about how to talk about money generously with boys when they are in love.
The sooner you set your attitude, the boy will know if you are the person he wants, which is good for both of you, especially for the woman.
01 Let me tell you first, what is the best time to talk about money?
What does it mean that the best time to talk about money with a guy is "sooner rather than later"? Talking about money at the beginning of a relationship is a very important thing.
Because at this time, your emotions are still on the rise, and the resistance to each other is not so great. The most important thing is that both you and the boy have a small cost to invest in this relationship, and if you find that both parties are not the people you want from each other, you can also stop the loss immediately.
Secondly, don't be too direct when talking about money with boys, let's master a few principles for talking about money:
Principle 1: You have to make it clear about the relationship between love and material things.
Principle 2 What is your attitude towards money and giving?
Principle 3: Don't be ashamed when talking about money.
Principle 4 If a boy has given you sincerity and money, be grateful and give back in time, and don't pretend to be deaf and dumb for others' contributions.
02 So how do you talk to a boy about money generously?
For example, when you talk to a guy about a relationship, you can intersperse your own views on money. You can say to a guy:
I care more about the behavior of boys than about the love of the mouthpiece. If a guy is just a giant in words and a dwarf in action, then I will break up with him immediately. Any act of perfunctory behavior will make me feel that you are not worthy of my love for you.
I'm a pragmatist when it comes to feelings, so I also want the other person to be a doer. Do you know why I chose you among so many people?
It's because in my eyes you are the man who doesn't spend money indiscriminately, but you don't pick the door either. I think you're a good person, and you won't let your wife or girlfriend feel wronged.
If you get married one day, based on what I know of you now, I think you will let your wife manage the finances of the whole family, so that she will feel more secure and dependent. ”
Then you can look at the boy with a look of adoration.
This passage of yours not only shows your requirements for boys, but also makes them follow the established route you plan by wearing a high hat.
03 When you usually get along with a boy, if you really want to enter into marriage with the other party and want the other party to cherish you, you can directly express your desire for gifts. Remember that in the face of a man who tries to give to you, you must praise his behavior in time, so that he can love you more and more.
In fact, for a man, if he wants a little surprise and a small gift, he will not think that you are very materialistic, he will only feel that if he has the ability to meet your wishes, he will make him very proud, because he wants to be a hero in your eyes.
If a boy is not willing to give anything, you want a cup of milk tea and think that you are materially messy and ask for a gift. That shows that the boy is very selfish, and you don't expect a selfish person to love others.
From this point of view, it is very legitimate for girls to generously admit their material desires and not to be a fishing girl, but also to express their needs in a timely manner.
And from a boy's point of view, he is not afraid to give a girl a gift, what he is afraid of is that he does not get positive feedback after giving a gift, and you do not value his efforts.
For example, if he gives you a pair of pink shoes, and you think they are ugly, you not only return the gift, but also scold him for not having an aesthetic taste, but the next time he gives a gift, he will feel anxious, which will reduce his willingness to give.
In fact, a smart girl might say to a guy:
My dear, I am very happy that you can give me shoes, because I am very touched to see your willingness to give me. This shows that I don't love the wrong person. But if you can give me white or black shoes, I'll be happier. ”
Or you can usually say to a guy:
For me, gifts can not be important, if you usually make me feel very happy, it is okay not to give gifts occasionally, if you usually do not make me feel happy and happy, and there is no indication on important days, then I feel that I have no confidence to go down with you at all. ”
Secondly, you must learn to talk about money before you get married. You can say to a guy:
Since both of us want to seriously manage the relationship and get ready to get married, I think it's best for us to talk about financial management after marriage. ”
If you talk to a guy about these things, and the other party always fools you or pretends not to understand, you must not think that the boy is stupid or stupid, I tell you, the purpose of the boy pretending to be stupid is to see if you are stupid. If so, you approach the relationship with caution.