I still remember a casual conversation with my uncle, and he shared a workplace tip with me: "In the company, the leader tells you, 'We are a team, and you can't feel 'this is not my job'. People with low EQ will suffer in silence, while people with high EQ will fight back directly. ”
This phrase was deeply imprinted in my mind and became the motto of my career.
My uncle believes that in the workplace, the team is an indispensable part. However, sometimes we come across jobs that don't seem to be our responsibility.
Leaders often use the excuse of "we are a team" to ask us to take on these tasks. Different people will have different coping strategies for this situation.
My uncle told me that people with low emotional intelligence tend to swallow their anger and think it's a sign of teamwork. And people with high emotional intelligence will fight back decisively.
How can we fight back decisively? First of all, we need to be clear about our responsibilities and scope of work. Only by being clear about our responsibilities and scope of work can we better judge which work should be done by ourselves and which work should be done by others.
When the leader wants us to do some work beyond the norm, we can express our opinions and ideas unequivocally.
For example, we can say, "This task is really important, but it seems a bit out of my reach." If you think I should take on this job, you need to give me a clear job first. ”
We need to learn to say no, tactfully.
While we should try to keep the team in harmony, sometimes, rejection is necessary.
If we really can't do a certain job, we have to express it tactfully to the leader.
For example, we can say, "I'm not good at this job, and I'd appreciate it if you could find someone more suitable for it." ”
We also need to learn to express our opinions and suggestions.
In the workplace, we should not just passively accept tasks, but actively participate in them.
When we find that something is not reasonable or not in the interest of the team, we need to be brave enough to speak up and suggest something.
For example, we could say, "Gee, I know you want us to get this done, but I think we need to rethink this arrangement." Maybe there's someone else who would be more suitable. ”
Of course, we have to take into account the overall interests of the team when putting forward our own opinions and suggestions.
We shouldn't just focus on our own benefits, but try to find a balance that benefits the whole team.
When it comes to my professional career, I've been in a similar situation.
At that time, our department was working on a super important project, and the leadership asked everyone to take some responsibility.
However, I found that some jobs were really not suitable for me, so I mustered up the courage to put forward my own ideas and suggestions to the leader.
I said, "I'd love to contribute to the team, but I'm really not good at it." ”
Then I suggest that leaders rethink the distribution of work so that they can better use everyone's strengths.
Unexpectedly, the leader listened to my suggestion very carefully, and finally agreed with my idea!
He's realigned my work assignments so that I can focus more on what I'm good at. This experience made me deeply realize the importance of fighting back with high emotional intelligence.
In the end, the uncle said earnestly: "People who mix well in the unit must have high emotional intelligence." "I know his words are an encouragement and a spur to me. I hope that through continuous hard work and learning, I can improve my emotional intelligence and become a better person in the workplace.