The famous writer Jiang Fangzhou once said: "Love is the normal state of life." "In life, we will always encounter countless times that we cannot ask for it. That feeling of being in the heart but never being able to have it is undoubtedly a kind of helplessness in life. It's like the lyrics: "I like what I don't have, but you're so far away." "Heartbeat is a wonderful emotion, but the heartbeat can't be answered, that's the real cruelty. It's overwhelming to imagine being hopeful and then despairing.
In ** "Parents' Love", I witnessed the love between Jiang Yafei and the secretary general, although their love has regrets, it has not become unbearable. However, Mr. Ge in the original book made me deeply experience the madness and hysteria that I can't love. If there is no right or wrong in love, then why should someone always be hurt?
Teacher Ge is not the daughter of a fisherman, and her background is not low, on the contrary, she is good-looking, and the people on the island are in love with her, but no one dares to pursue her easily, causing her to become a "leftover girl". In those days, women who had passed the marriageable age but were not married were discriminated against. Therefore, Mr. Ge is anxious to marry someone in order to get rid of the cynicism of others. But the pride in her heart made her unwilling to compromise, preferring to be single rather than compromise.
Before introducing Mr. Ge's relationship, we need to get to know this woman. She is a woman who came to the island from Shanghai, with culture, intellect and romance, and her temperament and insight are beyond other women on the island. She teaches at the same school as Ms. Ge, she teaches chemistry, and Ms. Ge teaches art. The people on the island call her Teacher Mei, a character who never appears in the play. Ms. Mei came to the island with her husband, who was Jiang Defu's subordinate, and she was a good friend of An Jie. She has a son, and a family of three once walked by the sea, a sight that was the envy of other women on the island.
However, Ms. Mei's life was not happy, and her husband died soon after in the line of duty. On the island, Jiang Defu is a figure who has attracted much attention. Stories about him have been passed down by word of mouth, and some even believe that he is no longer alive. Jiang Defu was deeply sorry for Mr. Mei's mother and son, so he tried his best to give the orphans and widows all kinds of help. However, because his son bullied Mr. Mei's son, Jiang Defu beat his own son in anger. This incident is quite similar to the plot of Jiang Defu pulling a belt and beating his son in the play, but the reality in the original book is more bleak.
Teacher Mei is a survivor of a martyr, and it is not easy to live on this island. People who once admired her now come to her home to take care of her. Maybe it's out of sympathy, or maybe it's because you want to see her jokes. However, for Ms. Mei, this sympathy is tantamount to a kind of cruelty.
On this island, Ms. Mei has no connections and no real friends. The only friend, Anjie, is also not welcome on the island. In addition, Mr. Mei is also regarded as Mr. Ge's imaginary rival. There is a saying in the school: Art teacher Ge likes Chinese teacher Wang, but Teacher Wang is obsessed with Teacher Mei. However, Ms. Mei's attitude was confusing.
As an older and unmarried woman, Ms. Ge has invested too much in Mr. Wang's feelings and expectations. When she found out that Teacher Wang actually liked Teacher Mei, she was deeply shocked in her heart. This caused her relationship with Teacher Mei to become delicate and strained. Two equally beautiful women are naturally difficult to coexist. This tension is especially evident in Mr. Ge's attitude towards Mr. Mei's son.
Although she is an art teacher, she doesn't actually know how to draw. Her status in the school is more due to her strong background. Teaching is not important to her, but bullying Teacher Mei's son has made her find a reason to "justifiably". Sometimes, she would even treat Teacher Mei's son roughly, which undoubtedly deepened the conflict between her and Teacher Mei. I want to delve into the question: whether we should ask whether the children of martyrs are worthy of being the children of martyrs.
What happened between Mr. Wang and Mr. Ge, who were caught in the middle, undoubtedly made Mr. Mei the most innocent victim. Even if Teacher Mei didn't do anything, in the eyes of some people, her very existence is a kind of fault. To make matters worse, some of the idle women on the island are prejudiced against the identities and backgrounds of Mr. Ge and Mr. Mei, believing that the two of them should be together, while Ms. Mei, as a widow, is in the crosshairs.
In their cognition, the existence of Teacher Mei seems to have become a sin, allowing these women to find a feeling of raising their eyebrows. At their instigation, a group of women rushed to Teacher Mei's house in a menacing manner, speaking ill of each other and even spitting. In the face of such insults, although Teacher Mei was an intellectual, she was powerless to resist and could only whisper to ask them to leave.
However, sometimes being literate is not necessarily a good thing. Teacher Mei's knowledge made her cowardly, and she chose to swallow her anger instead of facing it bravely. When she couldn't solve herself, death became her only way out. One night, she chose to end her life with "dichlorvos", as if she was giving in to fate. Fortunately, An Jie saved her in time. However, this incident completely changed Ms. Mei. She began to swear like the other women on the island, slashing her voice and swearing with insulting words.
For Teacher Mei, she paid a huge price for Teacher Ge's love and became a victim of this tragedy. The desires and ** of human nature are simply terrible. When a person desperately desires something, they tend to become crazy and desperate. It also makes us think: should we be more rational and respectful of the feelings of others when pursuing our own desires?
The idea that we shouldn't ruin someone else in order to get something should be criticized. Not being able to get it because of love is actually the normal state of life. If we try our best to pursue it, we will not be happy even if we get it in the end. Because being too attached will only make us fall into a difficult situation and we can't extricate ourselves. Getting is a kind of happiness, but letting go is also a kind of life wisdom.
If we can't let go of our inner desires, we will fall into a state of madness and lose our minds. A life that is too paranoid often does not bring us happiness. True life wisdom is to learn to let go when the time is right. In the future life, we should not hurt others for our own benefit, nor should we allow ourselves to be in pain and trouble. We should cherish the happiness we have now and be prepared to face the uncertainties of the future. If we can do this, our lives will be more fulfilling and happier.