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Ziyu asked Yu Zigong:"As for the Master's state, he will hear of it. Seek it or do you want it? "Zigong said:"The master is gentle, kind, courteous, thrifty, and let him get it. What the Master asks for is also different from what people ask for! "Zi said:"It does not suffer from the unknown of the person, but does not know the person of the suffering"。
Enlightenment principle: Zi Yu asked Zigong and said:"Every time Confucius went to a country, he must have a clear understanding of the affairs of that country, and then decided what he should do. Or did someone else take the initiative to tell him? Zigong said that Confucius was gentle, kind, respectful, thrifty, and humble, so that he could quickly integrate with the locals, and people were willing to communicate with him, and they liked to ask him for advice and listen to his opinions and suggestions when they encountered difficulties and problems.
The fowl said again"Confucius's way and method of obtaining information are indeed different from those of ordinary people", Confucius said"I don't worry about others misunderstanding me because they don't know and understand me, I'm worried about misunderstanding others because I don't know and understand others, so every place I go, I will humbly seek advice, study hard, and learn as much as possible about the environment and others, so as not to form a deviation in understanding due to my own ignorance, resulting in unnecessary misunderstandings, troubles, and losses.
Reality: Every time Confucius goes to a new place, he will humbly seek advice, study hard, and be familiar with the environment and people around him, so as to make correct judgments and avoid unnecessary losses and misunderstandings, so in real life, what about us? Let's not talk about what we will do in the new place, whether we can do it without knowing others, and not knowing others; How are we doing in our daily work and in the familiar environment of our families? Do we have a clear understanding of our surroundings and people? Are there any problems caused by your misunderstandings? Is there a misunderstanding of the self-inflicted trouble? Do you get angry because others don't do things in your own way, think that you are doing it against yourself, that you don't respect yourself, that you are playing nonsense, and that you get angry because of it? Do we truly understand others, truly understand others, truly respect others, and recognize objective facts?
Let's talk about one thing last night, I took a shower at home, I couldn't rub my back, and I shouted to my wife for a long time, and my wife said impatiently"What is it called, it is called the soul! What's the matter? "After I heard the criticism and blame in the front, the idea of asking her to help was immediately gone, what did she ask later? I am no longer in the mood to answer, because I feel that I have been disrespected and violated, it can be seen that in real life, many of our practices are not based on the actual situation and after figuring out the situation, to deal with it, but according to their own habits and emotions to react, but when the habits and emotions do not match the actual situation, it is easy to cause contradictions, misunderstandings and troubles.