Jiangnan Liuying once wrote in "New Year":"Happy New Year, fireworks for nine days. The golden dragon Teng Yuyu, six out of the good field. ”
Among the many traditional Chinese festivals, the Spring Festival is undoubtedly the most brilliant pearl and the festival that everyone attaches the most importance to.
On the occasion of this festive season, every family will put on lights to welcome the family reunion and unload the hard work and tiredness of the whole year.
During this period, it is inevitable to visit relatives and friends, attend gatherings and talk to others about the past adventures and future prospects.
The more frequent the social interactions, the easier it is to make mistakes due to negligence, which changes the original harmonious atmosphere.
If you don't want to repeat the mistakes of others, then please keep these words in mind: there are three things not to say, three things not to drink, and three things not to leave.
There are three things not to say
Don't talk big
At the dinner table, after relatives and friends have eaten and drunk, it is common to see a few people boasting to each other about the strength of wine.
or boasting about his past glory, or showing off his interpersonal relationships, his words and deeds are full of flamboyance and arrogance.
Many people think that such boasting can raise their own value and make everyone around them look at it differently.
As everyone knows, not only can this not win face, but if the cowhide that is blown out is punctured one day, it will embarrass itself even more.
Zeng Guofan once said:"Don't talk big, don't make a name for yourself. ”
To be a man, it is better to be down-to-earth and seek truth from facts, and never blurt out promises that cannot be fulfilled.
No complaints
The New Year has its own new atmosphere, no matter how you have been in the past year or years, don't complain.
In front of relatives and friends, properly complaining and complaining can relieve the sorrow in your heart, if you are full of complaints, it will only make people feel disgusted.
After all, no one wants to listen to other people's chatter and complain during a happy moment, which will only break the original happy atmosphere.
And, as Jefferson said:"Complaining is a poison that destroys your will and curtails your enthusiasm. ”
Complaining about the heavens and others will never solve the actual problem, and will only plunge yourself into deeper sorrow, which is not conducive to luck.
Adjust your emotions and say more positive and auspicious words to get off to a good start to the new year, and you will have good luck in the future.
No gossip
It's not uncommon for friends and family to talk about their family affairs when they sit together, and at the same time shift the conversation to others.
Once we talk about topics that involve others, there will definitely be gossip that spreads falsehoods, and in the process of dissemination, some people will even tell the truth.
Originally just an inconspicuous triviality, after several rumors from others, it may eventually turn into outrageous rumors.
In the book Analects, there is a saying:"Hearsay and scribble, Lourdes abandoned. ”
If the gossip heard from others is spread indiscriminately without discernment, it is extremely immoral.
Therefore, don't provoke right and wrong at any time, keep your mouth shut, don't gossip about others, and live your own life well.
There are three types of wine that you don't drink
Don't get drunk
Whether it's a banquet for relatives or a gathering of friends, drinking is always an unavoidable topic, and many people are happy to do it.
The staggered planning can bring the relationship closer to each other, and the feelings of both parties can be exchanged in the process of changing cups.
But when it comes to drinking, there must always be a degree, and it doesn't have to be drunk to be true and proud.
On the contrary, jokes and accidents caused by drunkenness abound every year, but there are still countless people who are drunk wantonly and without moderation.
As the saying goes:"Drink and be drunk. ”
Drinking until you are drunk will not only make yourself ugly, but also easy to expose your unbearable wine, which is counterproductive.
Attaching importance to the body and not being greedy for a cup is the most responsible and the best self-discipline.
Do not drink alcohol
On the wine table, the most hated people are those who don't care about it and want to persuade them desperately.
In front of everyone, he said high-sounding words and put others on the fire, so as to see the embarrassment of others when they were drunk.
In order to save face, many people can only drink cup by cup under the persuasion of the other party, and finally fulfill others and wronged themselves.
In fact, if you think about it carefully, people who really care about you will not deliberately persuade you to drink, and only people with bad intentions will make it difficult for others.
Face in front of the body, it is a dispensable thing, don't be frightened by other people's words, skillfully maneuvering, is the right solution.
I really can't deal with it, I can choose to refuse, and stay away from these people who don't know how to count, but it is a kind of wisdom.
Don't drink alcohol
The amount of alcohol varies from person to person, some people are born with a large amount, and they will not get drunk no matter how much they drink, and some people are born with no strength to drink.
When the two get together to drink, the former is safe and sound in the same glass of wine, but the latter is dazzled.
Therefore, when it comes to drinking, you should consider it according to your actual situation, and don't drink indiscriminately in order to follow the trend.
Moreover, alcohol is extremely harmful to the human body, and drinking a large amount of alcohol in a short period of time will cause a huge burden on the stomach and liver.
Whether it's for practical or physical reasons, drink within your means, not too much and too much.
No matter how good the relationship is, don't get excited, and no matter how good the wine is, you have to take a sip to really keep your body and mind healthy.
There are three pros who do not go
There are relatives who have no contact
Any social interaction should pay attention to a coming-and-going, so that the feelings between each other can be circulated and transmitted.
As stated in the Book of Rites:"If you don't come, it's rude; It is also rude to come and not to communicate. ”
If the exchange of gifts becomes a payment by one party at any cost, or an insatiable demand by the other party, the relationship has been out of balance.
The former's efforts often do not make the other party grateful to Dade, but will take these favors for granted.
The latter's demands are often not satisfied after reaching the threshold, but will become more frenzied to grab external benefits.
For such relatives who have no contacts, the best way is to cut off the relationship and not let yourself fall into the trap of being killed.
Relatives who hold high and step on low
In the face of huge interests, many people will choose to abandon the old family affection, choose to get closer to fame and fortune, and expose their true nature.
This kind of people, they will only flock to others when they are on the rise, just to get more benefits and benefits.
If one day you fall suddenly, instead of helping you in times of trouble, they will quickly cut you off.
There are even some brazen people who will choose to take revenge on the favors who fall into the well, and they will trample and ridicule you in every way, which is extremely despicable.
Therefore, never get too close to such people, it will only put yourself in a dangerous situation, and keeping your distance is the best solution.
Delicious lazy to do relatives
It is a normal thing for relatives to help and relieve each other, after all, they have similar blood and the same roots.
But when it comes to borrowing money, many times you have to think twice, and don't be deceived by the other party's situation and language.
The reason why some people live in poverty is because of bad luck and helpless natural and man-made disasters, and it is natural to help them.
But the reason why some people live a miserable life is because they are too lazy to eat and do not seek progress on weekdays, which leads to nothing.
As the old saying goes, "help the emergency does not help the poor", this is the truth.
After the latter borrowed money, he did not think about repaying the favor, but continued to live a life without work.
No matter how much kindness and kindness there is, it should not be wasted in vain, and staying away from these people can have a better future development.
I like a poem from Ye Hao's "Has Been Youxinzheng":
"The wind and frost of heaven and earth are exhausted, and the weather is harmonious. New years are added, and spring is full of old mountains and rivers. ”
The most is the benefit of the spring of the year, the best smoke and willows are full of imperial capital, the new year has its own new atmosphere, quiet and peaceful is a good omen for the new year.
On the occasion of the New Year, I wish you a proud spring breeze and a bright future.
The old year has been a thousand brocades, and the new year will be a hundred feet forward.
I wish everyone a successful career, a happy family, good health and all the best in the new year!