Every woman has a longing for love in her heart, and they aspire to be a treasure in the eyes of a man, looking forward to becoming the irreplaceable love of his heart. In the vast sea of people, if you can meet that unique love and spend this life hand in hand with your loved one, it is undoubtedly a great happiness. However, the complexity of human nature often makes this vision of pure love difficult to achieve.
For some men, it seems difficult for their hearts to stay on a woman, and it is difficult for them to willingly close the door of their hearts for the sake of a person. Even if they already have lovers, they will still unconsciously look outward, looking for new excitement and **. In their world, it seems that there are always two women in contention, and the second one always seems to be seen as true love.
However, true love is not a simple choice, but something that needs to be managed and cherished with care. The white moonlight and cinnabar mole are nothing but Zhang Ailing's depictions of men's complex emotions. Men may have had such an experience: marrying a red rose, and over time, the red rose turned into mosquito blood on the wall, while the white moonlight was still bright; married a white rose, and the white rose became a grain of rice on the clothes, but the cinnabar mole was a faint pain in the heart. But this does not mean that men should always pursue the next one, but should learn to cherish the person in front of them, and feel and manage the existing love with their hearts.
What you can't get is always in turmoil, and this is the weakness of human nature. But a truly mature man should know how to be grateful and cherish, and they should remember the good times they spent with their partner and use these memories to resist the outside world. And those men who don't know how to be grateful and have dissatisfied desires will never be able to find true happiness.
Love is not a simple multiple-choice question, but a process that requires the joint efforts and dedication of both parties. Every woman wants to be the only one in a man's heart, and every man should also learn to cherish the person in front of him, and feel and manage this hard-won love with his heart. Only in this way can we find that unique love in the vast sea of people and spend this life hand in hand with the people we love.
White moonlight and cinnabar moles always seem to be two eternal themes in men's hearts. Eileen Chang profoundly portrays this complex emotion in her "Red Rose and White Rose": "Maybe every man has had two women like this, at least two. Her Zhenbao, the three female characters in his life, are like three different colors, intertwining his emotional entanglements.
married a red rose, and after a long time, the bright red gradually faded and became a smear of mosquito blood on the wall, which was plain; And the white roses are always like the bright moonlight in front of the bed, bright and mysterious. On the contrary, if you marry a white rose, the pure white color becomes as ordinary as a grain of rice in daily life, while the red rose turns into a cinnabar mole in the heart, stinging and unforgettable. Men always seem to be like this, no matter which one they choose, there is always an indelible shadow in their hearts that cannot be truly satisfied.
Eason Chan's song "Red Rose" also sings this emotion: "What you can't get is always in turmoil." "This is the embodiment of the Zeigarnik effect, where people always have a deep obsession with unfinished business. What has been obtained is often ignored because of habituality, while what has not been possessed will always shine in the heart and become a lingering thought.
However, we are all ordinary people, and emotional fluctuations and entanglements are inevitable. But a truly mature man should know how to be grateful and cherish. They understand that no matter how passionate the emotions were, they eventually need to return to the plain and the real. Those good memories are the time they spend with their partners and the cornerstone of their relationship.
Men who don't know how to be grateful, their hearts are always chasing the next goal, and they can never be satisfied. They forget that true happiness is often hidden in those seemingly mundane details. And men who really know how to cherish will protect the person who accompanies them with their hearts, no matter how the years change, they will always be the same.
So, men, don't always pursue the unreachable white moonlight and cinnabar moles. Cherish the people in front of you and feel the ordinary and real happiness with your heart. Because, true love is often hidden in these seemingly insignificant daily life.