When you are retired, you have nothing to do, so you will be nosy.
It seems that after retirement, many people will become more enthusiastic, visit more often, have more opportunities to chat, and like to call friends for shopping.
In fact, good days are light. Leaving the workplace not only means freedom, but also "retreats and rests". Leave the big stage of the world to young people and stand aside.
Writer Su Qin said: "The real estrangement always loves to wear warm clothes; True enthusiasm, but often with an estranged outfit. ”Obviously, if you are too enthusiastic about the following things, you will hurt others and yourself, so it is better to "turn a blind eye" and stay out of the matter.
Don't inquire about the rights and wrongs of the original unit, it's all a passing thing.
During the Song Dynasty, Wang Anshi served as the prime minister, and Su Dongpo worked as an errand in the Hanlin Academy. The two people have different opinions, so there are many contradictions. Minister Lu Huiqing was jealous of Su Dongpo's talent, and secretly stirred up relations.
Su Dongpo has been demoted many times and is inextricably linked with Wang Anshi. It stands to reason that the two of them are enemies.
After Wang Anshi retired to Jiangning, Su Dongpo went to Changzhou to take up his post and specially visited him.
The two of them drank and talked happily, traveled to Zhongshan together, and put aside all grievances.
Later, Su Dongpo wrote a letter of resignation and said"Gaoyou Jinshi Qin Guan is too empty. It's hard to come by. May the public borrow less teeth and teeth, so that the weight gain will be in the world, and there is no hope for anything else. ”
With the help of Wang Anshi's name, the scholar Qin Guan was promoted, and Su Dongpo's idea was very good. But Wang Anshi refused, saying"Hearing that Qin Jun has learned to speak wonderfully, why don't you laugh at me and my public hobbies?" ”
There is a way to say, not in his position, not in his politics.
People, you must know how to advance and retreat, and you must understand the sophistication of human feelings. In the workplace, before people leave, the tea is cold first. If you want to focus on the workplace, you don't have to.
The original old colleagues occasionally get together, but it is just a kind of human care, which is to give up the past grievances, drink a glass of wine, and let the heart relax, not to let themselves have anything to do with the workplace.
If you retire for a few years and go to your original unit, you will find that many colleagues have left, and you see unfamiliar faces, how can you "get along"?
If someone mentions the matter of the original unit in front of you, you will most likely be interested, but you have to stay calm, don't probe, don't prove the truth, you just have to laugh it off.
Let the children's quarrels be handled by themselves, and they must learn to decentralize.
In your fifties, you may encounter the option of "taking a back seat". That is, you haven't left the unit yet, but you've left your position at the top and have rarely taken care of some big things.
Give power to young people and there will be less pressure on you.
At home, you can't give up the position of "parent", but you have to know how to put down the power and let the children be in charge.
There is a saying, if you are not at home, you don't know that firewood, rice, oil and salt are expensive. Only when the children are in charge of the house can they truly feel the pressure of life and bravely shoulder the heavy burden.
At the same time, children will bring a lot of noise because of family chores and work troubles. As parents, you should learn to listen, but don't interfere too much, and don't make choices on behalf of your children.
In this world, even if you are a confidant, you can't really empathize, you just want to do everything you can to help. The relationship between parents and children is like that between a kite and a kite flyer, one wants to fly high and the other has to go far.
As a parent, I have given my heart to my children, and I can't forget the fact that "life is separated by a layer of skin".
Your passion for your children will make them very unfree. And due to the generation gap, the concept and opportunity are different. Most of the parents' thinking is outdated and cannot mislead their children.
For example, if a child wants to go to an online platform, and the parents don't know anything about it, they have to point fingers, which is obviously excessive; When children quarrel over property, parents should speak fairly, but they cannot force their children to accept it.
The power of "parents" was put down, and parents really entered the stage of "taking care of their lives".
Don't actively participate in the things that make you rich, they are all things outside the body.
The "principle of reciprocity" tells us that when we get something in return, we have to give something of equal value. There is no such thing as giving away for free.
If you apply the "principle of reciprocity" to making a fortune, you will find that the wealth that people can get in this life is all created by themselves, and others cannot help them.
Maybe you pick up a few dollars once in a while, but when you lose them, you also lose a few dollars.
Those who tell you that "something can make a fortune" don't want to help you, but they are staring at your pension and hoping that you will always invest in it. When it comes time for him to lose money, you are the one who backs him.
After retirement, your greatest wealth is your retirement fund. As long as you are in good health, you are making money. Therefore, you should exercise more and learn more ways to maintain your health, rather than buying financial products and health care products, let alone making major investments.
Young people's love, don't try to match or break up, respect "free love".
Ji Chun Tai" wrote"* Not a couple. He was reluctant to marry reluctantly, and it was inevitable that the couple would turn against each other. ”
In ancient times, although marriage required the words of the matchmaker and the order of the parents, there was still room for maneuver, and some people would withdraw from the marriage after they were married; After getting married, a letter of divorce will be written; There are also people who remarry and remarry.
Now, we all encourage free love and help young people match, which is a reasonable thing to do, but being overly enthusiastic can cause resentment.
After retirement, many people will get close to some elderly people, and everyone will talk about the situation of their children, and they want their children to get married as soon as possible. But children don't think that way, they have their own opinions.
Helping the owner match today, and going to the west tomorrow to find out the truth and reality, this practice is obviously the behavior of the "long-tongued woman". Pull the red line, point to the end.
There is a way to eat radishes salty and worry about it.
It is enough to make the marriage of children happier and happier, and other people's marriages should be natural.
Feng Jicai wrote in "Dusk is Poetry": "I like the state of blurry, I want to talk about it, the clouds and smoke are covered, and I am half asleep and half awake. The clearer and more beautiful things are in thought, and the more blurred and beautiful things are in vision. ”When people reach dusk, the greatest sobriety is that they are quick in their thinking and confused in their words and deeds. Only obscurity can produce beauty.
Interpersonal communication, preferably, you don't trouble me, I don't trouble you.
Emotional interaction, preferably, is to give seven points of warmth to people and leave three points for themselves.
Family care, preferably, is your right to make suggestions, and it is his decision to listen or not.
For the rest of his life, watching people do things is as light as clear water.