I'm 86 years old, and it's too late to get married, my husband is 6 years older than me, and I met on a blind date. It is said that older people will hurt people, but from the beginning I didn't feel the advantage of his age, maybe the boys of the same age around me were more naïve, and I felt that he was okay.
Now that I have been married for so many years, I feel more and more unbearable, and I always drop the chain at critical moments. It doesn't solve problems, it doesn't come up with ideas, and it doesn't provide emotional value.
Here are a few examples:
1. I rely on me to make decisions on big and small things at home, selling houses, changing houses, decorating, buying cars, leaving favors, holding parent-teacher conferences...When he said it, he could accept anything, whether he would live in a dilapidated house or buy a car or take the bus. But if you really don't move, you will talk about going to work too far and what will happen to your children in the future. When I asked him what to do, he didn't say anything, saying that you would be fine;
2. I will do everything at home, and it will matter if he can be obedient and cooperative, but he is obedient and obedient, and does not use his brain. Let him wash the dishes, he only washes the dishes, and the chopsticks and pots don't move. Let him take out the garbage, only the bag that was handed to him, and he just didn't pay attention to other questions. Asking him to wipe the table is really wiping the table, and he doesn't know how to put the rag back in the kitchen after wiping it. The only thing that is worry-free is that you will do it if you call it, and there is no complaint, but if you don't call it, you will never take the initiative. Even if I only taught the garbage bag to be put on after the garbage was emptied once yesterday, I don't know if I don't say it specifically today;
3. During the Chinese New Year, he took his son for a walk, the child was too young, and he was kissed and given an allergy injection. The relatives who kissed the child came to visit the patient and wanted to kiss, I didn't let me say that the child would be allergic, the relatives thought it was me who made a fuss, children of this age were already prone to illness, and it was not infected by him, so I don't talk nonsense. In the end, I quarreled with that relative, and he stood by without saying a word, and kept saying a word over and over again, don't be angry;
4. There was also a pit when he bought fruit before, and he must not agree to bring it back to change, as if he was going to cut off his head, and he stood at the door with fruit with a sad face, and finally had to give up;
He didn't know how much he had done such a thing, and sometimes I was bullied by others, and when I was wronged at work, I told him, and I started snoring without a word.
Others may think that I do it, he gives me all the money, and he will do everything he orders, and his parents-in-law are also very good, although they are very strong, they also care about our small family, and they will give money subsidies from time to time.
And we don't have any bloody plots, the previous emotional experiences of the two people are blank, and their hometowns are also from the same village, so they know the roots. I felt in my heart that I shouldn't go to the point of divorce, but my heart was very uncomfortable by these little things, and I felt that I was very lonely in my marriage, and I felt a big sense of gap.
It's very uncomfortable, I hope that the sisters who came over will help me take a look and give some advice.