There is nothing more proud and gratifying for parents than to send their daughter to marry, but it is inevitable to be disappointed and sad. After living with my daughter for twenty or thirty years, I will definitely feel uncomfortable when I leave suddenly. Even if the married daughter can often visit her parents' home, the married daughter will spill the water, and many situations will be different.However, for every married daughter, the most concerned people are definitely their parents.
Daughters who marry far away and can't go home often will definitely feel ashamed of their parents, but they have to work to earn money, and they rarely go home. Parents don't want their daughters to worry, they always report good news but not bad news, and after a long time, conflicts arise due to lack of communication.
Ms. Xu, 36, was busy with work and rarely went home, and on this day, he received a report from his father** that his mother was sick. Ms. Xu hurriedly drove home for six hours, and when she heard her parents' whispers, she turned around and left.
I've moved from a small city to a big city since I got married, and due to my busy schedule, I have less and less time to go home as my parents get older. When I think about it, I feel guilty. It wasn't until last year that my guilt was taken away.
At ten o'clock that day, my father anxiously called ** and told me: Your mother is sick and hospitalized, "Can you ask for leave to go home and see him?" "Although I don't know what my mother's illness is, my father will never give me a ** when I am sick. After hanging up**, I hurriedly packed my luggage and rushed back the next day.
After a while, my father said to me, "You don't need to come back, your mother's illness is not in the way, it is a minor problem." I wondered what was going on with my father's thoughts, and I didn't know what was going on, so I anxiously asked my dad what was my mother's illness? Am I worth going home?
My father gave me a few simple explanations and let me go to work with peace of mind, but I was hung up by my father.
My worries intensified and I drove seven hours back to my hometown. When I arrived at the hospital, my father was taking care of my mother. My mother was surprised by my arrival, I hurriedly put down my luggage and hugged my mother, who said that it was just a small cold and that I was hospitalized because my father was too worried about him.
When I saw my father, who wanted to stop talking, I wanted to ask him what he wanted to say to me, but my father turned around and left. After a while, my mother pushed me aside to get hot water.
The first time I came, I didn't know where to go to fetch water, my dad said lukewarmly: You are so lazy, you don't even go to get hot water, you are both literate and can speak, can't you ask others?
My dad said this about me, I was very angry, I rushed home overnight, not only didn't care but scolded me, I felt that my mom asked me to fetch water just to break me off, I turned around and went back to find that my parents were arguing, my mom felt that my dad shouldn't murder me, I rarely came back once, but my dad said I had no conscience, so he blamed me.
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After listening to my parents' conversation, I realized that my mother's illness would cost hundreds of thousands. My younger brother has just been married for two or three years, and he doesn't have so much money to treat his mother. So my father wanted me to pay for it, and since I rarely went home, I would stay for two or three days every time I got something.
My father felt that I didn't value their small family and had a big opinion of me, while my mother felt that it would be unfair for me to put pressure on me to pay. So they don't want me to pay. I was disappointed by my parents' opinion of me, put down the thermos and went for a walk outside the hospital.
After getting married, I felt that my parents gradually alienated me, and I felt that they thought I was not a member of this family, so I didn't go home often, but I always cared about them.
My parents' opinion made me cry, and after a while, my father found me and told me: "Your mother is sick, it is cancer, he won't let me tell you, but your sister and brother are married, and your mother and I are at home, I really don't know what to do without your mother, your mother will call you ** when she thinks about it, and you won't answer, how did you make up your mind?" ”
After my dad left, I cried and reminisced about my old days with my mother. I came in a hurry, only brought 3,000 yuan, and after calming down, I left the hospital, and I was thinking all the way about how to convince me to accept this fact, and how to make my mother not waste her last days.
I understand that this is a long and difficult challenge, but I also know that I have to fulfill my responsibilities and obligations as a daughter.
I called my younger brother **, and my younger brother also had to treat his mother when he sold his car. I had a big fight with my brother and daughter-in-law about this, and my mother didn't want to cause family disharmony because of this, so my brother cried and asked me what should I do?
I told my husband and in-laws about my mother's affairs completely, my mother-in-law is old, I have saved two or three hundred thousand yuan in hand, and my pension is more than 10,000 yuan per month.
My in-laws were teachers before they retired, so they usually get along very well, but I was very touched by their help this time. My husband wants to stay at home to take care of the two babies, and he can't accompany me back, so he comforts me and does my best.
My dad was stunned when he saw me get 130,000 yuan back, and I told him that my mother's body is the most important, and this is the money we originally planned to buy a house, but as soon as they heard that my mother was sick, they all agreed to let me take the money to let my mother see a doctor.
My brother knew that I had used all the money to buy a house for my mother's treatment, so he bought his car, and in the end, we both spent 80,000 yuan each.
My dad, me, and younger brother took turns to take care of my mother, and gradually, my mother's health gradually improved, and on the day I was discharged from the hospital, my dad cried like a child and hugged my mother tightly.
To congratulate my mom on being discharged from the hospital, I have been cooking in the kitchen, my dad has helped me, and my brother and sister-in-law have been watching TV and chatting with my mom. Looking at such a happy family, I realized that the family has not laughed so much for a long time.
In the past, I felt that my parents favored my younger brother, so I gradually alienated my parents and disliked my younger brother.
I couldn't sleep in the middle of the night, I was watching TV on the sofa, my father poured me a glass of water, sighed and said: "Girl, drink saliva, you have worked hard these days, I didn't care enough about you before, but after seeing you busy with your mother's illness, I realized that I blamed you, my father said a lot of sad things to you before, don't blame Dad".
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My dad rarely spoke to me like that, and my heart gradually warmed up. We talked a lot that day, and it turned out that my parents had always loved me very much, but we all had to have our own lives, and we were all independent, so there were so many misunderstandings.
But there will never be such a thing in the future, my mother is recovering well, and I continue to devote myself to my own work and life. But this time, I learned to say "love".
Every day after work, I would call my parents to ask about their lives, and my father knew that I was working hard to work overtime and be promoted, and he would also send me delicious instructions to me not to forget to eat.
After communicating with my parents, I found that our relationship is getting better and better, and now my mother's condition is stable, and our family is getting happier and happier.
I'm thinking, it's hard for parents to have two children, but parents love us, so we don't have to care. In just one life, if you want to open it, you will let it go, and insist on doing what you should do, and we will definitely live happier and happier.