What is the reason for the estrangement between young people returning from the cities to the countryside and the villagers?
Young people are looking forward to the New Year, but they are scared and worried! Why? On Chinese New Year's Eve, you can go home, reunite with your loved ones, take a break, adjust your state, and strive for a better next year!
The young people in the city went back to the countryside for the New Year, and they were separated from the residents of their hometown for more than a year, from excitement to depression, what happened? When young people return to their hometowns, they feel out of place, the expressions on the faces of the villagers, between neighbors, and relatives, there is a kind of contradiction and uneasiness, a very depressing feeling!
Back in the village for the New Year, the villagers had a rift at the end, and then what? We don't get along.
The progress of science and technology, the development of the times, staying in the city for a long time? Is there a gap with the ideas and ideas of the villagers? Is it because the city's working environment and contact with the masses have changed? The result is poor communication with the villagers.
First, the mentality of rural climbers.
What kind of car do you drive? How much money have you made this year? What are you doing now? I don't know if it's out of concern or comparison, many young people who return to the countryside will have the mentality of trying, belittling others, and comparing, so that young people who don't mix well in the city will return to the village at a loss, and they will be ashamed of themselves!
We can't help but ask, is the villagers' perception limited to money and power? Even if many young people go home for the Chinese New Year, they stay at home and do not go out, and they are even more reluctant to have too much contact with the villagers, and they are even less willing to have in-depth exchanges with the elders who have witnessed their growth!
Second, the views of the villagers.
When we had a long talk with the older generation of villagers and exchanged our thoughts, we clearly felt that they were looking at us in the eyes, either praising us or belittling us, judging whether we were successful people, which was very uncomfortable! To put it bluntly, it is"The frog at the bottom of the well has never seen the sky, a village as big as a palm, and a vision as big as the mouth of the well"。
The older generation of peasants especially like to chew the root of the tongue, and the parents ask questions about whose children have made a fortune, how much money their children have earned this year, whose children have become officials, whose children are whose families, etc., on the surface have nothing to do with the young people in the village, but they are inextricably linked!
Listening to the wind is the rain, the mentality of comparison, and the cognition of the villagers may be the result of the closure of rural information, which makes the older generation of farmers misunderstand the so-called"Success"Meaning!
Thirdly, the villagers become realistic.
Whether it is a wedding, funeral or other things, in today's rural areas, the trend of comparison is prevalent, which has caused mental pressure on young people who return to their hometowns for the New Year.
Different working environments, different lifestyles, different levels of education, different ways of thinking and traditional ideas collide, and when villagers attack, belittle or elevate a person, they will be at a loss and feel depressed. Many young people are disgusted by the judgment in the mouths of the villagers and the standards in their hearts! You can't help but ask, how did the older generation of villagers who watched them grow up become like this? Are they out of touch with the times? Or did they go crazy?
As the saying goes:"The mountains and rivers in the cities are deep, and the roads in the countryside are slippery"。Is there something wrong with the young people? Or have the villagers become complicated? In the Internet era, with the development of the network and the high-speed transmission of information, the cognitive gap between urban and rural residents has gradually widened. Cognitive bias in comparative psychology, when is it a distortion of human nature? Or is it the progress of the times? More and more young people meet the villagers just to say hello, and they don't want to have too much communication and contact!
In short, it's a paradox! Cognition, life, education and thought are disconnected, in such a complex environment, villagers and young people should tolerate each other, be calm, do not create contradictions, be consistent with words and deeds, have a clear conscience, understand each other, and resolve the confusion generated!
Young people return to their hometowns for the New Year, very depressed, and in the long run, their thoughts and feelings for their hometown gradually fade. To put it bluntly, an individual's work, life, income, property, marriage, etc. are all personal privacy, don't interfere too much in the normal life of others, and when you bring trouble to others, it is easy to induce conflicts!