"Datong Fu" has a saying: "An official becomes ten years of wealth, a government is rich for ten years, and all five senses are complete, and it is expensive to old age." ”
No matter who you interact with, the first thing you see is mostly the "face", and then you can have an in-depth conversation and understand life.
The appearance of the face was given by the parents, but the "complexion" was mostly the result of personal cultivation.
All kinds of life are in the face.
Those who have a good face, starting from changing their faces, have changed their fate, which is worthy of our high looks.
Good face, get help.
There was an old man, in the countryside, who accidentally fell. He tried hard to get up, but after several attempts to no avail, he had to turn to passers-by.
The old man shouted, "Hey. ”
Passers-by looked at the old man and left.
After a while, passers-by reappeared. The old man shouted again, "Hey, help." ”
Passers-by still ignored it.
The old man was in a hurry, stretched out his hand, and grabbed the leg of a passerby's trousers.
The passer-by said: "You are also old, and you always shout 'hey', who is 'hey'?" ”
The words made the old man ashamed. Fortunately, passers-by are sensible people, otherwise the old man would be really dangerous.
There's a good saying"Only the compassionate will meet the compassionate man." ”
When you smile and ask for help, you will find that it is much easier. If you force someone to help, you will be perceived as "blackmail".In normal times, I use civilized words such as "trouble, thank you, please" to others, and "Mr., Ms., teacher, grandparents, uncle and aunt" to others.
If the mouth is sweeter, other people's hearts will naturally be "softer"; With kindness on the face, it is easy to evoke compassion in others. I believe that no one is going to help the people with a cheeky face and a thief's eyebrows.
Good face, know how to advance and retreat.
Many people can't let go of their children, which leads to awkward interpersonal relationships, or it is very unbearable for them to change their position.
How to move forward and retreat freely? The key step is to "put down your face" and treat yourself as an ordinary person at all times."Being able to bend and stretch out a husband", whether you can go up or down, is a taboo in the development of life.
Zhang Yong of the Northern Song Dynasty, when he was the prefect of Chengdu, many officials came to pay homage.
A petty official, reluctant to pay homage. Zhang Yong said angrily: "Either resign or visit the shrine." ”
The petty officer put down his resignation letter and left.
Zhang Yong looked at it, and it read: "The autumn light is like a thin eunuch, and the mountains are not as good as the return." He knew that the petty official was a rare talent, so he hurriedly chased him out, shook hands and made peace, and returned the letter of resignation.
bowed his head once, so that Zhang Yong left a reputation of "cherishing talents".
If you are wrong, you have to be wrong to the end, this is not much, and it will lead people into a dead end. Take the initiative to admit your mistakes and actively go downhill, and you will find that dealing with people is very simple and easy.
What's more, if you give face to others, you will have face yourself. Between people and between people and things, turn hostility into friendship.
Good face, filial piety.
Many old people think that their children should be filial, so they don't have a good face, and they dislike that their children give too few things.
My sister bought cotton clothes for her mother. The mother said, "I don't want it to be so expensive, so I went to the stall and bought it." ”
My sister froze and didn't know what to do. After that, she never bought clothes for her mother again.
Aunt Zhang next door is different, she is "not refused", and she says "good". Therefore, there are many things that the children help to buy.
Some things are really not practical, so Aunt Zhang gave them to those who needed them, and also preached: "This is a gift from my son, you have to thank my son." ”
In comparison, Aunt Zhang's life is much better.
Children should honor their parents, but parents should remember to say "thank you."
You must believe that young people all over the world want to see their parents' good-looking faces, instead of going home and listening to their parents' complaints.When the elderly need to be cared for by their children, they should learn to communicate instead of making wild demands. When the elderly are healthy, help more children and be kind to their daughters-in-law, which is the foresight of life.
Good face and high knowledge.
"Farewell to Dong Chuan" wrote: "Wrapped in a coarse cloth, there is poetry and books in the belly. ”The books that a person has read will not be written directly on his face, but his "temperament" will tell others that he pursues positive energy and has a positive outlook, which is worth socializing.
There is an allusion to the "wisdom of the proverb".
Pei Du, the prime minister of the Tang Dynasty, lived in Luoyang before becoming an official.
He rode across the Tianjin Bridge and was seen by two old men.
An old man said: "There has been a rebellion in Caizhou for a long time, how do you live?" ”
Another old man said, "It turns out that the savior has come." ”
Pei Du listened to their words and said with a smile: "I'm a poor scholar, ** is a savior?" ”
Surprisingly, Pei Du won the second year. In May 815, Pei Du concurrently served as a squire of the Criminal Department and was ordered to go to Caizhou to camp to learn about the military situation.
Thinking about it seriously, the old man's ** was not for no reason, but he saw Pei Du's temperament, and a scholar behind him, carrying a lot of books.
If you don't have a book for a day, your face is hateful", and those who don't read write the word "ignorance" on their faces, and those with a discerning eye will know it at a glance. On the other hand, people with good faces have an extraordinary temperament and a large measure.
Of course, when we deal with people, we must also understand the truth of "knowing people and knowing faces but not hearts", and don't be blinded by those "smiling tigers".
To judge whether a person really has a good face, you can borrow the words in "** Physiognomy Law":"The prime minister does not come out of these five laws, and those who are confined to the mouth, ears, eyebrows, forehead, hands, feet, dorsum and abdomen are also mediocre ministers. ”
In the eyes, there is a **, cunning, and listless look, which is for the wicked; Encouraging, firm, honest eyes are good people.
The face should smile naturally, not force a happy face; Keep your mouth steady, don't talk about it; The ears should be sensitive, but not absorb noise; Be loud and try to avoid "whispering"...
Born from the heart. The appearance of sentient beings actually exposes a person's heart.
Kind-hearted people, God helps, people help, help themselves.