Some people compare the house to the shell of a snail, which is pressed against the back and makes people unable to move.
On the other hand, because of its bulky shell, snails have a place to hide when the wind and rain come, protecting their soft bodies.
When we are in the prime of life, we don't feel that the house is very important. There are also some parents who, in middle age, go to great lengths to help their children buy a house, but they live in a shack themselves. Or the house under his name was transferred to the name of his children early.
As time goes by, we enter old age, do we want to live with our children for the rest of our lives, or go back to the countryside to live, or rent a house in the county? It became a problem that had to be faced.
After the age of sixty, you will understand that there is a big difference in life between those who have a house and those who do not.
The house is a "retreat" in life.
Meng Wubo, the minister of the state of Lu, Confucius, what is filial piety?
Confucius said"Parents are only worried about their illness. ”
Parents are always worried about the safety and illness of their children, and this love is touching. When parents are old, children worry about their parents in turn, and this filial piety is comforting.
But Confucius said again"Filial piety is declining to his wife." ”
When a man marries a wife, he obeys what she says. If the wife is not filial, there is nothing a man can do.
I'm afraid that my parents are filial piety, and I'm afraid that my wife is love, how do you choose? I'm afraid that many men will choose the latter. After all, the power of the pillow wind cannot be underestimated.
Similarly, if a woman marries outside, everything is controlled by her husband, and the husband looks down on her mother's family. It is even more difficult for a woman to be filial to her parents.
My neighbor, Uncle Zhang, sold all the houses in his hometown and county seat, and then helped his son buy a house in Guangzhou. Uncle Zhang designed his family's pension route map: after retirement, go to Guangzhou to live.
When Uncle Zhang went to Guangzhou, he was singing and marching forward, full of spring breeze. But he lived in Guangzhou for half a year and then came back. In a corner of the complex, a garage was rented.
Because Uncle Zhang's daughter-in-law is picky in every way. I think that the old man is old-fashioned, there are not many rooms at home, the old man is here, and the children have nowhere to stay. Uncle Zhang's cooking, and his daughter-in-law didn't like it either.
The family has been noisy for a while, and Uncle Zhang has no place to stay.
Uncle Zhang's son, standing between his wife and his parents, didn't know what to say, so he could only choose to be silent. But the parents felt sorry for their son and chose to leave, there was no way.
The old man has his own house, and the old husband and wife live their lives, so that they will have a sense of belonging, and there will be no sense of crisis under the fence.Even if the old man helps to take care of his grandson, when the grandson grows up to be a teenager, he still has to look at his face. After all, this is not the time.
I have my own house, I can open the door at any time, live in it, and I am free to enter and retreat.
The house is a "bottom line" for the elderly.
Housing for the elderly is a very old concept. Although we have no way to guarantee that the price of the house will not fall, we can conclude that it will not become a "green onion price".
If the elderly do not have any money in their hands and do not have a pension, then the house becomes the bottom line of the pension. In particular, some people in rural areas, after trying their best to buy a house in the city, can do this: sell the house in the city, and then go to the countryside to live, and they will not be so worried for the rest of their lives.
Xiao Li, who is from the same village as me, lives in the county seat.
For a while, Xiao Li's mother went to the county to be hospitalized. After being discharged from the hospital, my mother stayed at Xiao Li's house for more than half a year, because she had to have infusions every week.
Xiao Li's wife was not happy and said, "Mom, it's time to go back to the countryside." ”
Xiao Li's mother smiled and said, "It's you who should go back to the countryside." Understand that I bought the house and it was in my name on the documents. ”
In a word, the whole family froze. It also makes young people realize their mistakes.
Parents can help you unconditionally or refuse to help you unconditionally.
Adults have to take responsibility for their own lives, not wait for their parents to take responsibility. If you don't have any of this awareness, then don't talk about success.
From the parents' point of view, after the age of 60, it is not impossible to treat the house as their private property. Especially when encountering unfilial children, you should stay sober and would rather sell the house than give it to anyone.
It can also be done: give the house to the most filial person. When the elderly do this, the children's sense of reciprocation will be clearer.
A house is a "sense of security" in life.
People who are adrift should have the experience of renting a house.
I worked in a certain city for more than three years, moved five times, and suffered from renting.
With the money to buy a house, you can rent a house for a lifetime", this kind of thinking, many people recognize. It works in theory, but it doesn't work in practice.
I remember when I was renting a house, I met a very kind landlord who said it as soon as he opened his mouth"No problem, I have a lot of houses, which are rented out all year round, as long as you want. ”
After a year and two months, the landlord said:"There's a businessman downstairs who wants to be a restaurant. The implication is that the businessman has contracted all the buildings, and the other tenants should find another way.
No matter if you rent a house in **, you don't have much security and worry about being evicted at any time. You will also consider what appliances and furniture you have bought, which will make it difficult for you to move in the future.
For example, if you have an air conditioner hanging on the wall, it will be very troublesome to move. Met unfriendly landlords and disgusted you for digging a hole in the wall and punching a few nails.
Young people move, it's a little better, at least they have the strength. It is even more difficult for the elderly to move.
The sense of security is not whether the house is solid, but whether it is solid to live in. A stable residence will develop a lot of living habits, which is very necessary for the elderly.
Zhou Libo once said: "Don't compare with snails, people's snails are sitting on the ground, and their parents gave them a house as soon as they were born, and they took the house wherever they went." ”
When we laugh at snails, we should think about them and then learn from them. Whether in the countryside or in a small town, it is better to have a place to live than to sleep in the open.
Of course, we don't encourage everyone to talk about house slaves, and according to the reality of the situation, how much money you have in your pocket, determine the settlement in **. The house is not about the size, it's about the warmth.
Si is a humble room, but I Dexin", when I am old, I have a house, and I have money in my hands, it is the best.
Life is interlocking, the pattern of middle age, the end of old age.