The fools step on each other, and the wise lift each other.
In one basket, there are a lot of crabs. A crab crawled out with all its might, and finally climbed to the edge of the basket. At this time, I found that my foot was pulled by other crabs, and there were many crabs attached to my back. With one more force, all the crabs rolled back into the basket.
This is known as the "crab effect".
No matter how good you are, as long as someone around you pulls you, you are destined to not go far. If you want to go far, you have to learn to "push others to a high place".
Therefore, being able to look down on people and help them is the real wisdom.
The tragedy of life often begins with the debasement of others.
During the Warring States Period, Zheng Sleeve was the favorite concubine of King Chu Huai, with talent and outstanding appearance.
Once, the State of Wei sent a beautiful woman to King Chu Huai. This beauty is more beautiful than Zheng Sleeve and is more liked by King Chu Huai.
Zheng Sleeve held a grudge and pretended to tell the beauty that walking with her nose covered would be more flattering.
King Chu Huai felt strange and asked, why did the beauty cover her nose?
Zheng Sleeve hurriedly answered, because the beauty dislikes you for smelling on your body.
King Chu Huai was furious, cut off the beauty's nose, and sent her into the cold palace.
What's even more odious is that Zheng Sleeve was jealous of the capable people in the court and framed Qu Yuan and other loyal ministers, resulting in the decline of the Chu State. When the war disasters in Chu continued, Zheng Sleeve also lost his place.
Another story says that Pang Juan and Sun Bin were classmates.
Pang Juan was jealous of Sun Bin's talent, and found a way to imprison Sun Bin and cut off his kneecap. Sun Bin pretended to be crazy and stupid, tried a way to escape, and finally became a general of a neighboring country and defeated Pang Juan.
All jealousy, belittling, is a lose-lose situation, isn't it?
The English writer Chapman once said, "Jealousy is like a fly that passes through all the healthy parts of the body and stops at the place of trauma." ”When a fly flies into a person's mouth, it is a very uncomfortable thing, but some people take the initiative to invite the fly in.
When you are jealous of others, you are actually making enmity with them. The person you are jealous of is like a mirror that reflects the darkness of your heart, and at the same time makes others hate you.
When you look at others with a vicious look, it does not change their appearance and intelligence, but your own eyes, and therefore they are deformed; If you say something sarcastic to others, others will be very unhappy when they hear it, and you will also label yourself as a "poisonous mouth"; You often hold on to other people's hind legs, that is, there is a burden on the body, everyone is on the same rope, and no one can improve.
All the evil consequences are actually the cause and effect of your own creation, and in the beginning, it was all your fault.
If you look down on others, you will be noble.
During the Warring States period, Wei Linggong met a lame and hunchbacked man. This person gave Wei Linggong a lot of suggestions for governing the country and was appreciated.
There was a person with a huge sarcoma on his neck, who lobbied Qi Huangong, but not only was he not rejected, but he gave Qi Huangong a new aesthetic standard - he felt that those who had a complete body had too small necks.
Wei Linggong is good at knowing people, and his reputation for knowing people and being good at his duties has been passed down through the ages; Qi Huan Gong became the head of the Spring and Autumn Five Hegemons.
Zhuangzi said: "Therefore, virtue is long, and form is forgotten." People do not forget what they forget, and forget what they do not forget, this is called sincere forgetting. ”A person of high moral character and superhuman wisdom can be forgotten by others because of his mutilated appearance.
On the other hand, a noble person values the character and wisdom of others, rather than the appearance of others. A person who pays too much attention to his appearance will appear very low-level on the inside.
In society, everyone wants to live a high-class life, but because of jealousy and hurting others, they step on the backs of others and climb up, and their behavior and ideals are contrary to each other.
If you are like Wei Linggong and Qi Huangong, and look down on people who are more powerful than yourself, your career will become more and more prosperous.The crowd paddled and drove the boat. To look up to others is to gather strength, and you will become the backbone. Why not do a good thing that can be helped by others?
When I was a child, I read a villain book: a chick fell into a pond and was very alarmed. A duckling swam over, picked up the chick, and carried it to the shore. After a while, the chicks were on a fertile land, picking up the dirt with their paws and beckoning the ducklings to eat the bugs.
"Cast it with a peach, repay it with a plum", such a good thing, like a spring breeze, warms you and me, and also spreads to the vast land.
As the saying goes, "The more humble a person is, the more noble he is." "Letting others step on your back will not lower your level, but will be praised by others.
Looking up to others is ultimately exalting oneself.
Lao Tzu said, "Goodness is like water." Water is good for all things without fighting, and it is evil for everyone, so it is more than the Tao. ”Hong Kong actor Louis Koo has donated to build more than 100 schools in poor areas in obscurity. Compared with his acting skills, his good deeds are more appreciated.
Netizens said: "The only one who can black Gu Tianle is the sun!" ”
A person who has light in his heart, even if he falls into the sludge, will also stand up, like a lotus, spotless.
Teacher Zhang Guimei has dedicated her life's work to poor students, and has held up the future of countless students with her thin shoulders.
She once said, "I gave almost my life. ”How can a person who can even give his life to others not be touched and remembered?
In this world, everything is inseparable from water. Water, again, is the most humble and soft thing, and few people say "thank you" to water.
However, water is the strongest thing. The drop stone is the best witness.
The wise, with the help of someone else's mind, builds his own mind.
Rich people, with the help of other people's money, make themselves a lot of money.
The strong, with the help of other people's strength, are invincible.
May you, quit jealousy and hatred, and give your good to all the people around you.