According to common sense, the position setting of a unit is "triangular", there are many people at the bottom, and the higher you go, the fewer people there are.
Positions are directly related to income, right to speak, right to personnel, work performance, etc. Many people, in order to go up, do their best.
If you want to get a place, you have to be good at "using" others and letting others make wedding dresses for you. A good relationship will give you an advantage when you are promoted.
Therefore, smart people know how to put down their posture, take the initiative to "show goodwill", let the people at the bottom "lift" themselves, and at the same time pull the people at the bottom to conform to the law of "rising tide lifts all boats".
Of course, "water can carry a boat, but it can also capsize a boat", people in the workplace, regardless of status, learn the following social methods, which is very helpful for network expansion.
First, do what you like and let others be happy to do it for you.
Dale Carnegie wrote the story that Aventis was the manager of a printing plant in New York, USA. There is a technician in the factory who is responsible for the management of the typewriter, and most of the failures have to be dealt with by him. As a result, he often worked overtime, complaining, and wishing he had an assistant.
Wantel needed to find a way to retain the technician and take care of his emotions, but he didn't want to increase expenses.
After a few days, the technician was promoted to the head of the service department and had a separate office. With the new title, the technician is more motivated to work, and there is no mention of adding assistants.
In fact, the technician's job has not changed, only one more "hat", he is more respected in the factory, and his self-esteem is satisfied.In the workplace, everyone loves face, even if it is a "non-existent" position, it will make people look pleasant and happy to serve the unit. Find a way to let the people under your staff live with dignity and work without any emotion, and the work efficiency will be greatly improved.
If you want to take advantage of others, you have to "go with the flow" and make others happy to do something. Those who work against their subordinates are the end of "betrayal and separation" after all.
Second, lower your posture, give more advice, and less criticism and commands.
As the saying goes: "The official level crushes people to death." ”
Many people, when they are ordinary employees, treat others kindly and often ask for advice from those around them; Once I became a boss, I immediately changed my attitude, thinking that I was amazing, and I was very arbitrary when I pointed fingers at the people around me and made decisions.
For example, in the parking lot of the unit, there are people who park at will, which looks awkward. In the name of your boss, you order this employee to move the car immediately. The car was moved, but the employee's heart was very unhappy, and he would have emotions when they met in the future.
If you say in the work group, it is recommended that when you park, you should try to pull the front of the car out of the car and park according to the line. The acceptance of the employees will increase, and the employee who parked indiscriminately will also change with everyone.
Whether it is a command or a suggestion, the effect is the same, but the mood of the person is different.Making suggestions and accepting the advice of others is a sign of "open-mindedness". Bosses who get along with their subordinates will have more affinity and work together.
Third, create conditions to give subordinates the opportunity to show their talents.
Our unit, organized a basketball game.
Employees in the production department desperately grabbed the ball, and then quickly passed the ball to the assistant manager on the field.
Obviously, all the employees want to tie up with the assistant manager and convey their feelings by passing the ball. It's a smart move to get your boss in the limelight.
Twenty minutes later, the assistant manager took the initiative to take a break and let an ordinary employee take his place.
The atmosphere on the pitch has become more lively, and the players in the production department have the opportunity to show their skills and finally win.
Everyone has a "desire to behave". When the person around you has the opportunity to perform, his desire is satisfied.
Arbitrary bosses will take the credit of their subordinates for themselves, resulting in hard-working employees who will never come out. For a long time, there was no opportunity to show their excellent employees, so they could only leave silently.
Taking the initiative to be virtuous is a virtue of being a human being, and it is also a way to promote a harmonious relationship.
Fourth, take the initiative to take responsibility, talk about your own mistakes first, and then talk about others.
Dale Carnegie said, "If you admit that you may have been mistaken, others may be as generous as you are, and think that he is also wrong, like a fist, and if you want to touch someone, you have to take it back." ”When a boss takes the initiative to admit his mistakes, the employees around him will also reflect together and be willing to stand with the boss and take responsibility.
Those bosses who shirk responsibility can escape accountability once or twice, but there will always be a time when they will be pushed back by employees.
There is a car dealer in the United States, Halder. Lenk, he said that the sales industry is very stressful, and when communicating with customers, there are often emotions, which leads to constant conflicts, and later, he changed his approach and said "it's his fault, I'm sorry". The customer's emotions quickly calmed down, and the problem was dealt with much more smoothly.
As the saying goes, "Blame others before yourself." ”
To criticize others, you must master the skills, and you can't lose your connections because of this, let alone make enemies because of this. It's the best of both worlds to have others more than happy to accept criticism.
Conclusion.
Although it is said that it is better to ask for others than for yourself. But in the workplace, you can't do it alone, and you will encounter things that are beyond your ability.
With the help of others, you are empowered to move forward.
However, it is not easy to ask for help, even if you are the boss, you cannot guarantee that all your subordinates will vote "yes". Learning to use other people's methods and "use other people's wisdom and strength" is the best way to use them.
Our ancestors told us: "If you want to take first; If you want to hear it, you should be silent. ”If you want the people around you to follow you, you have to win people's hearts and give your sincerity to others first.
People are not plants and trees, who can be ruthless. Use the emotional card of the workplace well, and you are the winner.
When you interact with others, you don't look at the face of the monk and look at the face of the Buddha, how big your face is depends on whether you will give face to others.