What kind of home a person has, what kind of shape a person will grow into.
What kind of education a child receives from an early age, what kind of family he lives in, and what kind of parents he is taught to have, what kind of life he will have. The pattern of parents determines what children see and hear on the way forward, as well as the cognitive level they gain from it. What kind of height people stand at, what kind of scenery they will see.
Instead of blindly asking children to be promising, it is better to be a parent of the big picture first, and achieve the child's life bit by bit.
The writer Ma De once told a story about a woman in the bazaar, who would pick up the food from the stall every time she passed by a food stall and eat a lot of food on the pretext of "tasting it". In this way, she ate while shopping, ate every snack without spending a penny, filled her stomach, and took advantage of it.
An old man with a child was also in the market, and after seeing the woman's approach, the child also wanted to learn to eat all the way to the end. But as soon as he reached out to take it, he was scolded by his grandmother and immediately stopped, and the child was puzzled by this.
Seeing this, my grandmother said, "If you learn from her, you will be poor, and if you are poor, it will be difficult for people to turn over." If you think about it carefully, the word "poor" refers to the bad habits that have been accumulated for a long time, which has lowered the pattern of being a person and doing things over time. A person's pattern affects the way to deal with problems when encountering problems.
The pattern of parents usually affects the attitude of children's learning and life subtly, and also determines the height of children's lives. In real life, some parents will pass on the concept of "it is better to make money early than to read so many books" to their children from an early age because their family background is not very good.
Thinking about small things, and being confused about big things, will solve them, so that children can not see the meaning of life more and more clearly, and they can't find the direction of their efforts.
If the pattern of parents is too small, the children's horizons will also be narrowed, and the blessings will be lost bit by bit; If the pattern of parents is big enough, children can stand higher in the future.