People reach middle age away from dopamine and close to endorphins

People reach middle age away from dopamine and close to endorphins

Over the past year, many people have fallen into the dopamine trap.

Some people can't stop brushing, stay up late to play games, and indulge in the satisfaction brought by short-term entertainment.

Some people have a cup of milk tea for two days and a hot pot for three days, and they eat fat and eat bad for their bodies.

As Luo Xiang said:

"All coolness is an instantaneous thing, and the true happiness of human beings is eternal effort. ”

We learn a skill, read a famous book, reap the physical and mental growth, the pituitary gland will produce endorphins.

In the new year, there must be new changes.

From now on, keep your heart, learn to stay away from low-level pleasures, calm down, and know how to chase endorphins.

A year is enough time for you to give yourself a makeover if you want to.

Ways to pursue happiness

determines the level of your life

In Huxley's "Brave New World", there is a very interesting setting.

In this world, people are divided into five classes from top to bottom: alpha, beta, gamma, delta, and epsilon.

The lowest strata of the Deltas and Epsilon had free access to various entertainment venues and were able to eat a snack called "suma", which could forget all their worries with one bite of food.

The price of indulging in such low-level pleasures is that they lose their enterprising spirit and are willing to serve the higher classes for the rest of their lives.

This is the plot of **, and it is also a reflection of reality.

We open the short **, handsome guys and beauties are overwhelming.

Turn on your computer and you'll be addicted to the fun and exciting online games.

We have become the "electronic pets" of the Internet, happily fed by all kinds of garbage.

Zhihu blogger @陈霄汉 has told his story.

He was born in a rural area and tried his best to be admitted to a 985 university in Shanghai.

According to the normal direction of fate, he will get a good job after graduation.

But when I entered university, everything quietly changed.

At that time, there was a roommate in the same dormitory, and he was playing all kinds of games tirelessly.

He also played two games at the instigation of his roommate.

Unexpectedly, two games made him sink directly into the virtual world.

In his senior year, everyone around him began to go out to find a job, and Chen Xiaohan was accompanied by games all day long.

Later, he even owed hundreds of thousands of foreign debts for the sake of games, and lived anxiously every day.

Looking back on the past, Chen Xiaohan wrote the following words:

"Of all the things that abolish a person, the most terrible thing is not poverty itself, but those that are imperceptible.

It will slowly erode your mind, eat away at your valuables, and eventually turn you into a wreck. ”

Dopamine is the cheapest poison that drags us on and down.

Over time, we become slaves to our desires.

Indulging in dopamine is instinctive

Chasing endorphins is the skill

I sometimes go to the library to work overtime to write, and I often see scenes like this:

Some people have a bunch of materials on the desktop, but their eyes are staring at the Internet celebrity beauties in the short **.

Some people open the book, and before they read a single page of the book, they brush up a skit with the theme of "the domineering president falls in love with me".

In this era of entertainment, thinking power has become a scarce commodity, and attention has become a disease of the times.

If we have been addicted to short** and Internet** for a long time, it will be difficult for us to calm down and overcome difficulties in the sea of questions, and it will be difficult to read classic books again.

Writer Stephen mentions one of his habits:

Whenever he had to work, even if it was pouring rain, he would go to the company's study room.

Why?

Stephen explained:

"Because it's hard for me to say no to the joy of the couch, the TV and the cookies, and the best thing to do is to stay away from them. ”

Only by quitting cheap pleasure can we protect our brain and heart.

Márquez also has a habit of writing: never leave the house.

Even if you paced back and forth because you couldn't write, even if you were so angry that you tore down the door panel of your home, you would never leave your home half a step.

Because he knows that once he opens that door, he will be attracted to the colorful world outside.

Then, the original writing plan will never be completed.

In exchange for the pleasure of the moment, it is emptiness and depravity.

People who live wonderfully are more willing to do something worthwhile and seek true pleasure.

Make life more endorphins

Less dopamine

There's a topical topic on the Internet:

"How to lay out the new year? ”

"Give life a little more endorphins and a little less dopamine. ”

In 2024, try to challenge some difficult things and try to complete some growth goals, and you will reap different happiness.

1.Read a book with a threshold every week

The author of "Those Things in the Ming Dynasty", Mingyue's biggest hobby was reading.

The obscure "Zizhi Tongjian", he read it with relish.

Ordinary people are discouraged by "Ancient Texts", and he can also calm down and read it.

When he was in college, he often ran to the classroom alone and saw it after eleven o'clock in the evening, he said

"It's a great joy to keep reading books, to understand a lot of things in this world, and to know the laws of this world. ”

Reading those classic masterpieces may have a certain threshold, but if you gnaw on the pages one by one, you will get a lasting sweetness.

In the new year, you can read a good book every week.

For example, if you read "The Fifteenth Year of Wanli", you will feel that every small ripple will accumulate into the stormy waves of history.

For example, if you look at "One Hundred Years of Solitude", you will feel an absurd and helpless sense of fate.

Develop a good habit of deep reading, so that we will not become puppets of fragmented information.

2.Develop a micro-habit every month

How many plans have you completed in 2023?

Are you ambitious enough to buy a whole bunch of books, but it doesn't take long for them to fall into the dust.

Did you get a gym card with high morale, and then gave up after a week of hard training.

Why do you give up halfway?

It's probably that the time front is too long and the goal is too big.

Instead of making a difficult plan, we might as well develop a micro-habit every month.

If you want to get some exercise, start by doing 10 push-ups every morning.

If you want to practice writing, you can only write a small essay of one or two hundred words a day;

When you stick to it like this for a month and achieve your plan on time, your heart will be filled with pleasure.

3.Immerse yourself in a new skill each year

In the past few days, I have seen a story.

Aunt Bai Mei, 52, set a goal when she was young: to learn a new skill every year.

She uses her after-work time to either study on her own or sign up for classes.

She has studied psychology, Latin dance, Chinese painting, calligraphy, paper-cutting, manners, guqin and so on.

In these 30 years, she has learned twenty or thirty skills.

Netizens sighed:

"She uses her finite life to do infinite experiences. ”

In trivial life, we tend to have no aspirations and get by day after day.

If you can cultivate a few interests, you can get rid of the monotony and boredom of life.

When you're off work, you can teach yourself how to arrange flowers and teach yourself how to draw.

Or on weekends, you can find a professional teacher for dance lessons and instrumental lessons.

If you master one more skill, you will have more joy in your heart and more colorful life.

There is such a saying:

"The road of life is divided into wide doors and narrow gates. ”

The narrow door is Hardmode, which is bitter first and then sweet.

In the new year, there are two paths for us to choose.

Do you pick up your phone and swipe **, or read with a book?

Is it eating junk food uncontrollably, or is it taking steps to exercise?

I want you to choose a lasting happiness over a moment of pleasure.

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As the author said in the preface, he has spent a lot of time and energy in daily interactions, course professors and student interactions to accumulate interpersonal experience and humanity. I think it's because of this that this book stands out from the vast number of books on interpersonal communication that are ethereal and full of theories.

Therefore, I recommend this book "The Weakness of Human Nature" to you, and many readers who have read it and put it into action have walked out of the predicament through this book, and some have become outstanding people admired by the world.

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These are all good books, worth reading carefully, each book contains very profound truths, and is a spiritual aid in life, work, and entrepreneurship. ”

After reading about the weaknesses of human nature, even if some people see it clearly, they are still people you can't let go;

After reading Murphy's Law, everything is a reason when you want to give up, but when you want to look forward to it, there is always no result;

After reading Guiguzi, don't kidnap others with your deep affection, and cheapen yourself;

After reading the parchment scroll, this is a fruitless thing at an age, and I really have to do less;

After reading the wolf road, not all acquaintances can last forever, and not all friendships can be absurd."

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