As the saying goes, "The more friends you have, the better the road you get." ”
When people reach middle age, they need to support their families and aspire to start a business, and it would be great if they could get help from friends. Therefore, many middle-aged people will squeeze into the social arena, push the cup and change the lamp, or insist on reciprocal exchanges, leaving an emotional card.
There is a piece of advice in "Krylov's Fables": "Be careful when choosing friends." Authentic selfishness will put on the mask of friendship, but set a trap to trap you. ”What kind of friends you need is generally judged according to your career development. The relationship between friends and the exchange of interests are inseparable, and if they lose their "utilitarianism", the meaning of friends is not much.
It is human instinct to seek advantages and avoid disadvantages, and those who can be utilitarian will also disappear with the disappearance of interests. Therefore, many people sigh that it is easy to get money, but it is difficult to find a confidant.
The Ming Dynasty writer Feng Menglong wrote a story called "Wu Baoan abandoned his home and ransomed his friends", which explained the relationship between friends thoroughly, which is worthy of our reference.
When we understand human feelings, we can know that true friends have no strings attached.
Friends, when they meet, trust fully.
During the Kaiyuan period of the Tang Dynasty, in Wuyang, Hebei, there was a callGuo Zhongxiang's men don't need to work hard to study, they only talk about chivalry. In order to make a living, he found the dynastyPrime Minister Guo YuanzhenHe said, "Uncle, can you ask for an errand?" ”
Under Guo Yuanzhen's recommendation, Guo Zhongxiang became a subordinate of Li Meng, the governor of Yaozhou, and went with the army to crusade against the bandits in Yaozhou.
When he was halfway through the march, Guo Zhongxiang received a letterA fellow named Wu Baoan, life is in trouble, hoping to get help.
Two people who have never met before are bonded by a letter. Guo Zhongxiang was cheeky and asked Li Meng to recommend Wu Baoan.
When it comes to making friends, we usually say:"Brother Ren, it's like old at first sight. ”
As long as it is a compatible person, even if it is the first time to meet, there will be a sense of intimacy, and it will be decided that the other party is a reliable person. I don't know where this trust originated, but it is rooted in my heart.
Be cautious when making friends. These are the words that my parents have repeatedly explained.
When we go into society, no matter who we are with, we will have a little suspicion, not talking about it, but knowing it.
Even friends who have interests will establish some rules and regulations to avoid losses. For example, we can establish a contract, negotiate a cooperative project, and how to share dividends.
A true friend, trust is trust, and even if someone is secretly destroying the friendship, it won't help. Trust is a stepping stone to friendship.
Friends, when you help, regardless of return.
With the help of Guo Zhongxiang, Wu Baoan was arranged to serve as a manager in Suizhou.
Ask yourself, would you help someone you've never met? Will you think about his family and life with all his heart?
Perhaps, we often do some kind of work, but it will be difficult to go out of our way to help our friends. After all, you have to use your own connections, and you have to pay out of your own pocket, treat yourself to dinner and give gifts.
helped a friend, if the other party does not repay him, it is "losing his wife and breaking his army".
For example, if a friend's child is going to a better junior high school, you find a relevant acquaintance to help you get things done, and your friend is very grateful for that. In case you don't get things done, your friends will think that you don't care about it, and you gossip everywhere, and your friends won't give you the expenses for gifts.
Cast it with a peach, repay it with a plum. Such dating rules have long been ingrained in our hearts. After all, helping someone for no reason feels like you're losing money.
A true friend is not a reward, even if he has posted money upside down, he will not ask for it back. As the saying goes, courtesy is light and affection is heavy. Feelings cannot be measured by gifts, money, etc.
Friends, when you are in trouble, sacrifice yourself to save each other.
The ancients said: "A small profit has been made to a bad relationship, and it is difficult to go on a blind date?" ”As an adult, the more difficult it is, the more I hope to meet a warm pair of hands. However, the higher the expectations, the more disappointments there will be.
In our bones, we all have the idea of "tending to inflammation". However, if you are not strong yourself, who wants you to be attached? Your ability is the foundation of your solidarity with your friends.
Straight to the point. When Guo Zhongxiang went to exterminate the bandits, he suffered a defeat in a place called Qingxidong and became a prisoner in the bandits' den.
According to the internal rules of the bandits, the bandits live in different places, and the leader of each place is called the "cave master".
The captives are the private property of the cave owner, and they can be bullied and arranged to be coolies at will.
If the captives are to leave, they have to redeem themselves. Guo Zhongxiang asked for redemption, and the cave master gave it to himThe price is "1,000 horses of silk".
As a last resort, Guo Zhongxiang repaired a letter and asked Wu Baoan for help.
After Wu Baoan received the letter for help, he went to the capital to find Prime Minister Guo Yuanzhen, but Guo Yuanzhen had just passed away. He took out all his belongings and started a business. Ten years were spent in order to raise funds.
In order to help friends, it took ten years, and this love touched the world.
We all like to say, "Help." "But most of the time it's just a matter of words, and then forget about it. It is very difficult to use all your wealth and strength to help your friends.
A true friend is one who shares adversity and is one who will never leave until suffering is eliminated.
Tears see the truth, and it is difficult to see the truth. If this is not the case, it is a friend of wine and meat, and he has seen the wrong person.
Friends, when they are old, blessings to their children and grandchildren.
After Guo Zhongxiang was rescued, he continued to mix in the officialdom and rose all the way.
Wu Baoan couldn't afford to get sick, and then his wife passed away, leaving his young son Wu Tianyou to live alone.
After Guo Zhongxiang learned about the situation, according to the etiquette of his son to his parents, he buried Wu Baoan and his wife, and sent Wu Tianyou to school, and bore all the expenses for his wife and children. After Wu Tianyou got married, Guo Zhongxiang gave him half of the family property.
The ancients said: "It is the melon that will be repaid, and the good man will not be rewarded for the good heart." ”Everything, there is an ins and out. The friendship of parents can be felt when it comes to children and even grandchildren.
In real life, our parents and a certain peer are sworn sisters, so they will walk around each other during the New Year's holidays, so the children of this generation will also be very good and inherit the emotions of their parents.
True friendship can be passed down from generation to generation.
When you are old, you still have three or five confidants by your side, not out of nowhere, but close friends you met in middle age, and the relationship has been continued.
A glass of wine, for a lifetime; A lifetime of love, a glass of wine. "When we hear such a song, our hearts are warm, and if we can do it, it is touching.
Huainanzi said: "The same line converges, and thousands of miles follow each other; The line is not in line with the difference, and the door is not open. ”Friends are the family members we choose ourselves, a force on the road of life, a watch in loneliness, and a ray of sunshine in happiness.
Mountains and rivers are not enough, the focus is on meeting friends.
The gold is not enough, the important thing is to win the hearts and minds of the people.
May you and I, in a society with unpredictable hearts, have many friends and have a good road.