As the saying goes, "A man cannot be a man, and the sea cannot be measured." ”
No matter what kind of person he looks like, he is a promising person. This is a very common perception.
However, the "first cause effect" tells us that leaving a good first impression is very helpful for our future social interactions; And first impressions are hard to change.
Under the premise that "body hair and skin" cannot be changed, learning to decorate oneself to make oneself better and more prominent is beneficial to the development of life.
The Tang Dynasty poet Jia Dao said: "The river washes the old appearance, and the moon shines brightly." ”Don't say you don't have talent. Even if you are poor and old, washing your face with river water can add to your spirit.
Obviously, those who have a good fortune will subtly change their appearance and add a bit of luck and connections; Those who have a hard life will only resign themselves to fate.
People who are both talented and beautiful are lucky.
In the early years of the Ming Dynasty, all industries were waiting to be developed. Zhu Yuanzhang personally supervised the scientific examination, selected talents, and promoted the stability of the Ming Dynasty.
In the first scientific examination of the Ming Dynasty, the talented Guo Chong stood out and was recognized as the "champion" by the minister.
After Zhu Yuanzhang saw Guo Chong, he felt that his appearance was not very good, and he could not reflect the new atmosphere of the first scientific examination of the founding of the country, so he demoted him to the top of the list. Another talent, Wu Bozong, was named the champion.
Historical records record: "Wu Bozong is a gentle person, but he is rigid on the inside and soft on the outside, does not attach power, and does not yield treachery; The envoy to Annan did not disgrace his mission and returned to the four elephants. He was awarded the assistant teaching assistant of Guozi, entered the East Palace, and was reappointed as a Hanlin classic. ”
It can be seen from this that Wu Bozong is a person with both talent and appearance, who has completed many wonderful tasks and been promoted.
Su Shi also said: "There is poetry and books in the belly." ”When a person's physiognomy and "book aroma" are added up, it can quickly become sharp.
Good looks, good impression, and can use talent to help people in a timely manner, and perform well in the unit, how can there be no reason not to be taken seriously.
If you have a good appearance, don't forget to raise your awareness, don't make a vase, be used once or twice, and then throw it away.
People who always have a smile are popular.
Aristotle said, "I can't change my look, but I can show a smile." ”A smile is the best cosmetic product, don't spend money, the effect is obvious.
In social interactions, if you always keep a straight face, then you have an attitude of "refusing to socialize and being unkind", and others will naturally avoid it.
However, if people want to develop themselves, they cannot do without social interaction, and they cannot fight alone.
Therefore, if you smile at others and make friends with reliable people, your fate will be smooth.
In the Ming Dynasty, when Zhu Yunwen was the emperor, he met with a person named Hu Guang for the first time and saw a person named Hu Guang, who was very elegant. Just take a look at it and prepare to be the champion.
Zhu Yunwen thought about it seriously, Hu is a foreign nation, and wide means expansion. Could it be that the foreign states should be expanded, and the Ming Dynasty should be reduced?
Then, Zhu Yunwen asked: "Is it okay to change the Cantonese character to Jing?" ”
Hu Guang took a step forward and "smiled". Since then, there has been a champion named Hu Jing in history.
A smile, which usually indicates signs of affirmation, recognition, affection, and a good attitude, is the best lubricant in social interactions.
We often say, "Reach out and don't hit the smiling person." ”
It is to meet people who have contradictions, smile, and not be angry with each other, and can also change their social attitudes, at least they can stop losses.
Those who have a clear evil countenance will have many evils.
Whoever sees it will be afraid.
A person with a tattoo on his face, even if he does good deeds, will also be considered "ill-intentioned" by everyone.
People have habitual thinking, and they don't have the patience to look for a beautiful heart from an ugly appearance.
In the TV series "Iron Tooth Bronze Tooth Ji Xiaolan", He Shen is a big ** and very treacherous.
In order to resist Ji Xiaolan, he specially set up a banquet, but deliberately let a dog walk around on the banquet.
He Shen said, "This, is it a wolf (squire) or a dog?" ”
Ji Xiaolan served as a waiter, and when He Shen said this, everyone burst into laughter.
When the emperor, Ji Xiaolan, and He Shen got along, He Shen always rolled his eyes, and the trick came.
In the end, He Shen became a prisoner.
All evil deeds and evil words will eventually come back to oneself.
Showing a vicious appearance is actually rejecting people thousands of miles away, expressing his attitude of "wanting to harm others". As a result, everyone will be on guard, and some people will preemptively harm them.
It is undoubtedly very difficult for a vicious person to change his fate. All that is gained by doing evil deeds will also be lost.
Learning to cultivate one's physiognomy is a compulsory course in life.
Everyone thinks that they are people with good fate, so it is necessary to cultivate their appearance.
Cultivation is not plastic surgery, moving a knife on the body. Plastic surgery, not everyone needs it, can do it, and it can even ruin their appearance.
Remember two words:The situation is born from the heart, and the right medicine is prescribed.
Change your state of mind and make a good impression on others under your existing appearance, and the god of luck will naturally patronize you.
Specifically, it is to do three things.
Reading to improve temperament.
Read more, have more wisdom, and temperament will come. So that no one you get along with will be out of place, and you will teach people, which is admirable.
Kindness increases good fortune.
Your kindness, like a clean business card, is accepted wherever you go.
During the Three Kingdoms, there was an ugly girl named Ruan who was disgusted by her husband Xu Yun.
Ruan said to her husband: "Virtue is the first priority in a hundred lines, you like beauty, but you don't appreciate virtue, how can you be called a hundred lines?" ”
The husband was ashamed, but since then he has been very respectful of the Nguyen family, and the husband and wife have run the family together and left a good story.
Well-meaning people, who stand the test of time, always win in the end. This is the embodiment of good retribution.
Solitude brings calm.
Be a person whose heart is as calm as water, you will find that your appearance is calm, and you can deal with things calmly, which is admirable.
Have more time alone, think about life, feel the good, and find the key to life. Life can get out of confusion, and it can also bring good feelings to others.
Bacon said: "The beauty of physiognomy is higher than the beauty of color, and the beauty of graceful and appropriate movements is higher than the beauty of physiognomy, which is the essence of beauty." ”Strive to be an excellent person, be more elegant in words and deeds, and it will be easier to mix in society.
Even if you don't get everyone's recognition and love for a while, it doesn't matter, insist on changing your realm, and over time, your light will be seen.
Don't resent your parents, it's right to give you a bad face, cultivate yourself more, and give others more beautiful faces.
With joy and talent, everything goes well.