Don't think that raising children and daughters can prevent old age.
People, in the end, have to rely on themselves.
When we are 60 years old, we are considered old people, and we have to face the problem of providing for the elderly.
How to spend your old age in peace has to be considered in the long run.
Just like the writer Lin Qingxuan said: "Life is just like this, the pursuit of becoming a better, more spiritual and spiritual self." ”In the future, live a highly self-disciplined life, have a stable heart, a stable body, and a small group.
Throw away the internal friction and settle down.
In today's society, our days are good enough. Many elderly people can retire smoothly, do not have to work, and have a stable income for a month; There are also some deposits in case you need them; Medical insurance is also available, and it is not too difficult to get sick or small.
Sadly, too many elderly people are trembling every day, worrying about themselves, complaining about society, and accusing the unit of being too unfriendly to them.
Compared with the retired elderly who earn 10,000 yuan a month, your life has been lowered by a notch. Because of this, you are even more unhappy, thinking that you have suffered a big loss, and you have worked hard in the workplace for ten or twenty years, but you have not been recognized.
In the family, the children are not filial enough to themselves, and they will not give you money, which will also cause you to be dissatisfied.
During the holidays, the children are always out of town, and no one pays attention to the reunion dinner you make. The days of good life have become cold and lonely, which is too sad.
Besides, when my days are free, I don't know what to do, so I will think crankily or find someone to chat. You want to confide and complain, but others express disgust, so you feel more sad.
Wang Yangming, a philosopher in the Ming Dynasty, said: "Everyone has their own fixing needle, and the root of all things is always in the heart." But he laughed at the past and saw it upside down, and looked for it outside the branches and leaves. ”You are always panicking, not because the world is bad, but because you have too much internal friction.
If you can take the initiative to throw away internal friction, your heart will be quiet, and your life will be better.
First of all,No matter how much your pension is, it's good to have enough and don't compare it with anyone. With a grateful heart, I met old colleagues and old leaders.
The days are simpler, even if it is a monthly income of 1,000 yuan, there will be a balance, and the sense of happiness will come.
Then,No matter what your children do to you, you don't want to reciprocate it, even if you are good to your children.
Once upon a time, there was a Zen master who learned to "move mountains**" and he told others that if the mountain did not want to come, he would go to see the mountain and climb the mountain.
In the same way, parents should also learn to "move mountains**" Don't sit and wait for your children to visit you, but you can take the initiative to see your children and reunite in a different place.
Finally,Don't expect anyone to "understand your joys and sorrows." Respect the "harmony and difference" between people, and you will find that you will be happy in whatever you say.
Think about the good in everything, and then take active action, and when you suffer a loss, you are not upset, but happy. The world is beautiful because of you.
Exercise reasonably and be steady.
Life lies in movement", this sentence is very clear to the old people.
We always know how to exercise.
There are many old people who dance square dances, there are many old people who play tai chi, and there are also old people who travel all over the world.
More old people, the same people. I always think that the exercise method that others say is worthy of praise. But I don't understand that everyone's physique is different. Along the way, the physical experience is different, and it cannot be generalized.
On the "Shaanxi Science Popularization" platform, I talked about the case of the elderly dancing in the square, resulting in leg and foot pain.
Fifty-six-year-old Aunt Wang, retired, quickly joined the square dance team, and she wanted to use it to **.
Every evening, I cooked the meal, ate a few bites, and went downstairs as soon as I smoked. After another smoke, I arrived at the square dance team.
It wasn't until nine o'clock in the evening that Aunt Wang came home.
After a while, Aunt Wang was in pain when she went up and down the stairs, and the doctor diagnosed that she had a degenerative knee joint with a medial meniscus injury, and she would not be able to square dance in the future.
In real life, there are also some elderly people who think they are still young, so they do strenuous exercise or have plans for mountaineering. In order to be in a hurry, skip breakfast and hurry to go fishing, or go for a run. But everything varies from person to person.
The most terrifying thing is that some elderly people turn on the rampage mode in order to exercise, mix in the traffic, and have conflicts with others. Exercising becomes a process of making enemies, which is too undesirable.An old colleague of mine, after a period of fumbling, said, "When I run, I get joint pain, and when I walk quickly, it's very comfortable." ”
Obviously, this old colleague has found a way to exercise that suits him.
There are a thousand Hamlets in the eyes of a thousand people", this famous saying, tells us that everyone is unique, and the way of life and exercise are all different.
Others like to dance, you can like fishing, playing ball. How comfortable, how to come. According to the advice of fitness experts and doctors, planning your own exercise is a hundred times better than chasing a group of uncles and aunts to fool around.
Accustomed to being alone, few in groups.
When you have nothing to do, find three or five friends and get together; Attend class reunions, red and white ceremonies, go and see.
I thought of an old friend somewhere, and I hadn't seen him for a long time, so I deliberately bothered me.
The elderly were afraid of loneliness, so they chose to join in the fun.
However, where there are more people, the more internal friction there is, and the more complex people's hearts are.
For example, at class reunions, some people brag, some people are unwilling to take out their wallets, and some people hold hands with classmates of the opposite sex, disrespecting the elderly; There are also people who drink with each other.
Once the party gets into trouble, everyone is responsible. You're drunk and you're hurting yourself.
Don't be afraid to be alone, but make a decent pact with "loneliness" and enjoy your solitary time.
The ancients said, "To seek tranquility is to seek tranquility in order to become more untranquil." ”Live casually, without being disturbed by the crowd, even if you walk in the crowd, you will experience freedom and happiness.
People, don't meddle in your affairs and nourish your spirit, and don't quite fit in with yourself to be yourself.
Leave a lot of time for yourself and be free to schedule. Reading and writing, being in a daze, looking at the scenery, thinking, raising flowers, etc., are all available.
"Self-discipline" wrote: "A high-quality life is the self-discipline of a person's heart and a great love for life itself." ”We have to love life, but we can't trap ourselves by external objects.
After the age of 60, you must have a plan for retirement, and you must have flexible thinking, don't sigh, don't blindly follow others.
Knowing what you can do well and what you insist on doing, you will actively do it, send your own light, and do not prevent others from shining.
Be determined, and everything will be smooth.
Stability and health are treasures.
There are few groups, and it is delicious to be alone.
Start today, develop good habits, and get more energetic the older you get.