You know, we spend most of the day in the unit, whether it is the daily life of life, or some anecdotes, it is inevitable to talk to colleagues, not only some work things, feelings, family affection, some problems encountered to communicate with colleagues. But many people don't know how to restrain when they speak, and when they say something, it is easy to attract the attention of people with a heart, smart people, 4 don't say it.
1. Don't show your wealth, don't show your wealth
Many rich people actually have the behavior of showing off their wealth, and some people are used to showing off their wealth, and they are open-mouthed, showing the behavior of "being rich is being able to do whatever they want".
This practice is often despised by everyone, while others show off their wealth, they are much more advanced, pursuing luxury and pursuing elegance, and others feel that his life is exquisite and elegant, full of the taste of wealth.
The rich and the ordinary people are also different, and we can feel these differences from the small things in our daily lives.
Showing off wealth is nothing more than vanity.
This kind of psychology is not good, and if the vanity is too strong, it will appear very hypocritical and contrived. You must know that not being exposed is also a basic rule of life and work.
2. Don't expose resources and don't show your connections
Good resources and connections are people's most valuable assets, supporting a person's development, if this is affected by some bad influences, the progress of life will inevitably be greatly reduced.
But some people don't have a correct understanding of these, and for the network resources in their hands, they think that they are the capital to show off, showing them to people, making people feel that you have an identity and status, but in fact, they are fake and powerful, such as clowns jumping off beams, which makes people feel extremely hypocritical and pretentious, even more than showing off their wealth.
For example, if someone else takes him to communicate with some high-level people, he will publicize it the next day, and even post some food and drinks, etc., so if these are heard by people with a heart and informed to these high-level people, the other party will feel that you are unreliable and have no bottom line, and the relationship will end here, so resources and connections can only show their advantages when they are used, and they can't be put out at other times.
3. Don't bask in emotions and don't spread negative energy
In fact, many people now regard the daily chats and exchanges between colleagues as their own emotional trash cans, constantly dumping garbage emotions into it, and complaining about anything that does not go well.
Of course, this does not involve some of the bad things that you have in common. It's okay to show such emotions once or twice, but anyone will be annoyed if they have more times. You will only feel that you are irritable and irritable, and you can't solve a problem, and you will only blame when you encounter problems. More people have reached the ears of your leaders, which is extremely bad for their careers.
People who are really capable will solve their own emotions by themselves, instead of avoiding venting when they encounter problems, venting their emotions will not solve any problems, which is the so-called "incompetent rage", which not only lowers their own level, but also brings negative emotional value to others.
4. Don't show your private life and don't show your privacy
It is necessary to distinguish between what is daily life and what is private. Sharing daily life refers to sharing interesting and meaningful and valuable things in your daily life, rather than aspects of your own private life.
For example, personal living habits, physical condition, emotional problems, these are all personal private matters, there is no need to publicize it, you and your colleagues are only a colleague relationship, the relationship is not so intimate, share your privacy, others will not only not care, but also feel that you have no sense of marginality, what do these things of yours have to do with them, they don't want to know about your things.
Some of your privacy has even become a joke for them after dinner, so these things are not enough to communicate with outsiders.
Therefore, in the communication with colleagues, it is mainly work-oriented, you can share some daily life, some interesting experiences, and you can't speak as you like, but also think more.