They thrive under the guidance of policies, and gradually grow old in the new era. They have shaped their own unique lives with their unique experience as only children.
As the first country in the world to implement the one-child policy by national administrative directive, China's one-child generation has a unique background. After getting rid of the misunderstanding of the traditional thinking about the problem of having more children to improve poverty, we have derived many ideas about the sociological school of moderation.
The implementation of the one-child policy has allowed us to get out of the trouble of food and cloth stamps in the past, and college students no longer need to go to the mountains and countryside. In the seventies of the last century, after five population symposiums, we decided on the policy of only having one child per couple, which made China's fertility scale rapidly shift from high fertility to low fertility, greatly alleviating the problem of scarce resources and fewer opportunities.
With the changes of the times, emerging industries have emerged in the torrent of development, so that people are no longer limited by traditional industries, but have more choices to match their own advantages and interests.
In this context, the main contradiction in China's society has changed from the scarcity of resources and the inability of economic and cultural development to meet the people's living needs in the past to the contradiction between the people's demand for a better life and unbalanced and inadequate development, and people's pursuit of spiritual life has become more and more obvious.
In the case of the serious aging of the population caused by the low fertility rate and the serious imbalance in the ratio of men and women in China, after 35 years of implementing the family planning policy, China has opened a new era of the two-child policy.
The Only Child: A Special Generation Created by the Times As the only child of the post-80s to post-00s, we are fortunate to be the first generation to enjoy the fruits of China's modernization.
Our parents' generation, bound by traditional thinking, usually had four or five children just in case. However, our generation has enjoyed all the love and hope of our parents, and has become a special generation created by the times.
In our parents' generation, there was a generational relationship between their siblings, and the same is true for our generation. Not only did we get the love of our parents, but we also had the support and companionship of our siblings.
In our generation, there is no competition between brothers and sisters, only mutual assistance and love for each other. Our generation is the generation that has pushed the motherland to the position of a strong country through our own efforts and dedication.
We have no brothers and sisters to share, only our own responsibilities and responsibilities. Our generation has a special happiness, but also a special responsibility. Our generation is a special identity and mission given to us by the times.
We are only children, we are a special generation. We are grateful to the times, to our parents, to ourselves. We are only children, and we are a special generation created by the times.
They lived in a childhood full of diverse entertainment tools, including both simple and cute little overlord game consoles and advanced and excellent tape recorders. According to the survey data in 1995, children accounted for 70% of the family consumption decisions in China's surveyed families, exceeding the proportion of children in American families in the same era.
Their quality of life has been improved, they have received more love, and they have become a unique harvest generation.
Second, they improve their social skills. As only children, they need to look for playmates from the outside, and in the process of socializing with others, they learn how to communicate with strangers.
In order to be accepted by the community, they constantly show their talents and strengths, and at the same time know how to respect others and not infringe on their rights. This experience of constant speculation and self-improvement allows them to find their place in the group and make their social skills surpass those of their peers.
Statistics show that more than 70% of elite athletes are only children, and they are valued by their parents from an early age, more aware of their importance in the family, and therefore more willing to take responsibility.
In addition, as parents give up time for recreation and play, and provide them with more opportunities for personal entertainment such as reading and writing, they are able to engage in in-depth reflection and expand their thinking through spontaneously created activities.
In this process of growth, it is easier for them to develop a systematic mindset, which leads to self-confidence and a willingness to lead a team.
Only child: A lone traveler with special responsibilities. Under the cohesion of the deep love of the elders, the only child bears the burden of the ancients. Just as investment needs to diversify risks, single-child families can only face the challenge of desperate bets, and once the "project" they invest in cannot be stable, it means the collapse of the whole family.
In this family model, the base is on a shrinking path, and it becomes an ever-expanding pressure. Nowadays, this family structure has a new name, which is the "421" family.
The so-called "421" family means that there are four elderly people in the family, including parents and in-laws, and the husband and wife are the pillars of the family and have one child.
After more than 30 years of one-child policy, these children are facing unprecedented pressures and challenges. Not only do they have to deal with family issues independently, but they also have to remain calm in the face of a crisis, which is a huge challenge for them.
As only children, they have no object to negotiate and no buffer method, and can only rely on their own strength to solve problems. During the learning phase, they have to meet the expectations of their parents, and when they enter society, they also have to take on the responsibilities of the family.
Once they fall, the whole family will be greatly affected, which is a huge pressure for them. Moderate stress can boost their progress, but too much stress can make them feel broken down in the process of taking it on.
In addition, they face special pressures and dilemmas. We often say that parents are the best teachers for their children, and children who accept love will be full of self-confidence, but children who accept harm will also be full of inferiority.
In a family with only one child, children often witness conflicts with the elderly caused by the problem of raising children. With the development of the economy, the elderly in our country no longer only pay attention to food and clothing, but hope to enrich their later life by raising the baby of the next generation.
In this case, both the grandparents and the grandparents have their own ideas about the issue of child upbringing, which requires understanding and coordination between family members.
If a child lives in conflict and quarrel for a long time, he or she may develop an inferiority complex and think that it is his fault that causes the disharmony in the family. What's more, if parents have bad habits and lack of initiative, children may become the only bearers, receiving a bad education from their parents and having no siblings to protect them.
Finally, they also have to face the difficult choice of whether to have a second child, which not only needs to take on the responsibility of raising their elders, but also with the implementation of the two-child policy, the parenting pressure will be even greater.
Children's education is no longer just about food and clothing, and now, in an increasingly competitive environment, they need to enroll in various types of extracurricular classes in order to win an advantage at the starting line.
Only in this way can children grow up in a healthy environment and avoid carrying the burden of being overloaded like their parents, as well as the loneliness and melancholy of their hearts. As only children, they have great rights that they did not have in other eras, but they also have responsibilities that are different from others.
They are the pillars of the family, and in a complex society, only by constantly sprinting towards the elite position of fierce competition and high risk can they bear the burden of the family.
They were born in the mortal world, but they had to run a pyramid forged by the requirements of the state and family. They may never reach the top of the pyramid, but the weight of their bodies does not allow them to slack off.
This is their only direction and their only hope of survival.