In 2015, in a remote and dimly lit residential building in Shantou, Guangdong.
A middle-aged woman with a slightly chubby body and a haggard face broke down emotionally, tears rained down, her behavior was out of control, and she shouted:"I've been married from Guizhou for more than 20 years, and I've really tried my best, I can't raise him anymore! ”
The woman's name wasLuo Youhua, 45 years old, from Guizhou. She met her current husband 23 years agoChen Xiliang, married far away to Guangdong.
Unexpectedly, Chen Xiliang fell ill overnight and was paralyzed in bed for 12 years. During this period, Luo Youhua with neighborsWang JianqunLiving together and taking care of her husband with him.
Chen Xiliang and his wife Luo Youhua.
In this way, the three began a strange and awkward triangular relationship that lasted for many years.
One day, her husband Chen Xiliang cried to the outside world"She beat me a lot, and she slept with other people right under my nose, and my dignity as a man was gone. ”
However, neighbor Wang Jianqun said calmly:"We were together with her husband's consent. ”
What's going on here?
Wang Jianqun"She (Luo Youhua) not only lives with men, but also brings men home. I told her, your family situation is like this, you have to work hard, don't be wild, and take good care of your husband and son, but she won't listen. ”
The name of the man who spokeChen Xiquan, is Chen Xiliang's elder brother.
Not long ago, Chen Xiquan went to visit his younger brother, and after listening to his younger brother's bitterness, he learned that his brother-in-law had been having an improper relationship between men and women all these years.
For this reason, Chen Xiquan specially found reporters, hoping to persuade his brother and daughter-in-law to return to the family.
Under the leadership of Chen Xiquan, the reporter came to the rental house where Luo Youhua lived together.
"Do you have flowers to live here? ”The reporter asked.
"Yes. ”
The man who answered was none other than Wang Jianqun, his expression was shocked, and he hesitated to speak.
"Does she live with you? ”
"Sometimes she comes, sometimes she doesn't. ”Wang Jianqun said casually.
"Who are you? ”The reporter continued to ask.
"I'm her friend. ”Wang Jianqun said calmly.
It is understood that Wang Jianqun is 60 years old this year and has been widowed for many years. Now, he is not only Luo Youhua's lover, but also the "male nanny" who helps take care of Chen Xiliang.
Wang Jianqun"She is a kind and hardworking woman, and it is too hard to support a family by herself, and I feel sorry for her. ”Wang Jianqun came from the heart.
In the second year after marriage, Luo Youhua's life fell to the bottom, and since then, there has never been a moment of joy.
That year, Luo Youpean's son Xiaoqin became a great hero of the old Chen family.
A family of three, although the living conditions are not rich, they also live a plain and happy life.
Unexpectedly, there were unforeseen circumstances in the sky, and misfortune came quietly.
One day, Chen Xiliang, who was working, suddenly felt dizzy in front of him, and he couldn't stand steadily, so he fell to the ground directly.
Luo Youhua was frightened and hurriedly sent her husband to the hospital.
Chen XiliangWho would have thought, but the diagnosis made her feel like she was on the edge of the abyss.
"The patient has cerebellar atrophy, which is not a major disease, but it will get worse. At first, the patient will have stiff limbs and unsteady standing on his feet, then his hands and feet will become more and more uncoordinated, and finally he will be bedridden and unable to take care of himself. ”
After listening to the doctor's words, Luo Youhua couldn't help crying.
Her husband's illness is a catastrophe for the newlywed Yan'er.
At first, Chen Xiliang only occasionally showed symptoms of shaking his body and uncoordinated hands and feet.
No, the disease progresses rapidly and is menacing.
Soon, he was no longer able to do low-intensity sports and wrestled frequently even when he walked.
When drinking water, he often choked on himself due to a knot in his tongue.
When holding the pen to write, Chen Xiliang's hands can no longer flexibly control the pen. It takes half a day to write a few words.
From a normal person who walks upright, he gradually degenerates into a patient who needs to rely on crutches to barely move.
Whether it is for Chen Xiliang or Luo Youhua, it is extremely difficult to accept.
In the past, Chen Xiliang was responsible for earning money to support his family and bear all the expenses of the family.
And Luo Youhua is responsible for teaching her husband and children, and she is a housewife with peace of mind.
Now, Chen Xiliang fell overnight, and the family's economy disappeared in an instant.
On the one hand, the husband's illness requires long-term medication** and examinations; On the other hand, my son is growing up, and he needs to spend money on reading and living.
This almost fragmented home can only rely on Luo Youhua.
If you continue to stay in the countryside and only throttle your expenditure, but not open source, you will soon run out of savings, and you will really enter a dead end.
Moreover, there is little work in the countryside and low wages, so he can barely maintain the daily expenses of the family, and he is unable to pay for his husband's expenses at all.
After careful consideration, Luo Youhua and her husband discussed their future life plans.
"We moved to the city, where there are many jobs and money, and maybe we can cure you! ”
In this way, the family of three moved to the center of Shantou.
After many days, Luo Youhua found a rental house with a rent of 400 yuan.
Stained walls, potholed concrete floors, look in disrepair.
The house is only about 40 square meters, and the middle is separated by a wooden plank, which visually makes the house larger.
And such a small, dark, and humble house is already an excellent shelter for Luo Youhua.
After many days of observation, Luo Youhua found that the office workers in the city were in a hurry every day, and they had no time to make breakfast, so most of them bought breakfast outside.
Based on this, Luo Youhua decided to open a breakfast shop.
Luo Youhua's craftsmanship is good, and she is even more handy when she makes breakfast.
Due to the freshness and abundance of ingredients and the acceptable taste, Luo Youhua's breakfast is full every day and has accumulated many repeat customers.
"When business is good, it can be sold for 120 or 30 yuan in the morning. The business was a little worse, and it could only be folded in half, earning about fifty or sixty. If it's a little hotter, it won't sell. ”Luo Youhua said.
The cost of breakfast is low, but the profit is also low, and it all depends on small profits and quick turnover, and you can make money by selling more.
Every day, Luo Youhua gets up at three or four o'clock, mixes noodles, makes steamed buns, squeezes soy milk, and goes out at five or six o'clock.
After a busy morning, she had time to sit down and drink water and catch her breath.
Despite the busyness of the breakfast shop, Luo Youhua still insists on taking care of her husband every day, helping him turn over, wiping his body, and changing into clean clothes.
Even if he forgets to eat, he will not leave behind his husband's three meals a day.
After earning more money, Luo Youhua will also use it to buy medicine and nutritional products for her husband.
As for himself, he travels between the breakfast shop and home every day, and he doesn't care about it at all.
At a young age, she is plain and unkempt, and her appearance looks more than ten years older than her actual age.
Walking into the small bedroom, there was not even a decent wardrobe, and the few clothes Luo Youhua had were all hanging on a rusty wire.
"I haven't bought new clothes in all these years, and I don't want to buy them. I didn't buy these clothes now, but the woman next door who sold medicine gave them to me. ”Luo Youhua sighed.
What woman doesn't love beauty, unless she has been crushed by the burden of life and doesn't care about dressing up.
As she grew older, Luo Youhua felt more and more powerless.
At first, she still had the strength to carry her husband on her back and take him to the toilet and bath. However, over the years, her body became more and more unbearable.
Several times, Luo Youhua almost fell down on the way to support her husband.
In fact, in those years, Luo Youhua's ears have been full of persuasion from relatives and friends.
"You are still young, hurry up and remarry with your children, and life will be better! ”
"He has basically been paralyzed in bed all his life, do you want to take care of him for the rest of his life? Do you want to take your whole life? ”
Luo Youhua understands that relatives and friends are all considering from her position and thinking about her.
However, she really couldn't give up on her paralyzed husband, and she was even more worried that her husband would not be able to live without her.
In those miserable days of darkness, Luo Youhua's only hope and hope was his only son, Xiaoqin.
She originally planned to find a good job when Xiaoqin grew up and could share the pressure of the family.
It wasn't until that time that Luo Youhua completely realized that all her expectations had become phantoms.
Xiao Qin. When Xiao Qin was young, Luo Youhua was busy taking care of the breakfast shop business or taking care of her husband, so she rarely disciplined him, and most of them adopted a free-range approach.
The father of the family is sick in bed all the year round, the mother is busy with work, Xiaoqin neglects discipline, and his personality is becoming more and more bizarre, and he does his own thing.
After graduation, Luo Youhua urged her son to find a job as soon as possible.
Xiao Qin always answered verbally, but there was no sign of action.
Later, Xiao Qin didn't even bother to deal with it, so he hid in his room all day and played games all night.
When the reporter visited, Luo Youhua pointed to the small attic on the rental house and said complainingly:"He's just a psychopath, he never comes down except to go to the bathroom, either sleeping or playing games. ”
Xiao Qin. At first, Luo Youhua basically turned a blind eye to his son's behavior of staying at home and not looking for a job.
"It's okay if he doesn't have to work, and I can afford him with a breakfast shop. However, I hope he can take a hand, take care of his dad, help with the bath, go to the toilet, and make it easier for me. ”
Who would have thought, Luo Youhua's only little thought has become an extravagant hope.
"Isn't it necessary to recharge money to play games? He often asked his father for money, and his father first paid it back, but then when he didn't give it, he beat his father. ”Luo Youhua cried.
What made Luo Youhua even more desperate was that her son was also cruel to her.
Without saying a word, he lost his temper. Once, when I said a few more words to him, we got into an argument, and he took the gas canister and smashed it directly at me, injuring my shoulder and not being able to work for several days. ”
During the interview, Luo Youhua gently patted her shoulder, saying that she had sequelae at that time, and her shoulders and arms would still have labor pains from time to time.
After this quarrel, Luo Youhua fell into despair and often washed her face with tears.
"I can't count on my son, he won't help me at all. I'm old and not in good health, so I won't last a few years. ”
After a moment of silence, Luo Youhua finally mentioned the man named Wang Jianqun.
"His house is just across the street from ours, and we've dealt with him before. It has been more than ten years since his wife died, and his children have grown up and moved out, and now he lives alone. ”
"I was with Wang Jianqun with my husband's consent. ”Luo Youhua said firmly.
Luo Youhua said that she asked her husband for his wishes at the beginning.
"I told my husband that I wanted to find a boyfriend and take care of him together. Because I was looking for a woman, I still couldn't lift him. Now, I can drag him out of bed, but it's a lot of work to drag **. ”
After learning of Luo Youhua's idea, Chen Xiliang was first shocked, then angry, and finally reluctantly agreed.
This couple, who have been brutally devastated by life, know each other that this is the only way to maintain the status quo.
Regarding the situation of Luo Youhua's family, Wang Jianqun has long heard of it. And for such a resolute and brave woman as Luo Youhua, he is even more distressed and admired.
Therefore, when Luo Youhua came to discuss with him, he almost did not hesitate at all and accepted it gladly.
In this way, Wang Jianqun became the Chen family's "male nanny".
During the day, he would help Chen Xiliang take a bath, change clothes, and carry him to the toilet.
In the evening, Luo Youhua will fulfill the agreement and go to Wang Jianqun's house to spend the night with him.
With Wang Jianqun's help, Luo Youhua instantly felt relieved, and her life was a lot easier.
However, a man and a woman who have been together for a long time will always have feelings.
The relationship between Luo Youhua and Wang Jianqun is getting closer and closer, often going in and out of pairs, and behaving intimately, which makes Chen Xiliang worry about it.
Whenever he thought that Wang Jianqun was healthy and strong, but his limbs were weak and paralyzed in bed, his heart suddenly burned with anger.
Later, he couldn't tolerate this deformed and strange triangular relationship, so he asked his brother Chen Xiquan for help.
He cried to his brother **, saying that Luo Youhua had cheated and brought the "little three" home, and the two often beat him.
Chen Xiquan saw his younger brother being bullied so much, so he immediately stepped forward, found the police and reporters, prepared this relationship, and persuaded his brother-in-law to return to the family.
Soon, the group found Luo Youhua and interrogated her.
However, when Luo Youhua learned that her husband arranged her, her emotions collapsed directly.
She yelled at Chen Xiliang:"I've really had enough, what can I do? In the past few years, I have been in poor health and can't take care of you for a few years. Even if I find a boyfriend now, isn't it to take care of you? ”
"I've really done my duty, and many times I've thought about giving up, and I'm gone, and I don't want to serve you anymore! I am tired and tired of serving you, and I will be beaten. I make money in this life, and I really have enough to raise you! ”
Luo Youhua beat her chest angrily and cried heartbreakingly, as if she wanted to vent all the grievances and pain she had suffered in the past few years.
In response to Chen Xiliang's mention of beating him, Luo Youhua also explained:"Sometimes he doesn't cooperate with me, and when I have a belly full of fire, I will slap him with my hand, but it is a small slap. ”
After learning the real situation of the family of three, Chen Xiquan and the reporter also fell into silence for a long time.
Subsequently, they mediated between Luo Youhua and Wang Jianqun.
In the end, Wang Jianqun took the lead in making a decision:Take the initiative to withdraw from this triangular relationship.
"Husband and wife were originally birds of the same forest, and when the disaster came, she didn't fly, and for more than 20 years, she didn't leave her husband, which really made me admire. ”
In addition, Wang Jianqun also said that he was willing to continue to take care of Chen Xiliang, because Luo Youhua valued love and righteousness and deserved help.
As for his son Xiaoqin on the next floor, he also opened his heart after experiencing counseling.
It turned out that Luo Youhua often complained in front of him, which annoyed him, so he hid in the attic.
However, he is not sleeping or playing games in the attic, but submitting his resume and looking for a job.
In this way, the dust has settled.
However, Luo Youhua's experience can't help but be embarrassing.
21 years of perseverance and perseverance day and night, not only did not exchange for the gratitude and understanding of her husband and son, but in exchange for abuse and beating.
I don't know if Luo Youhua still has the courage to continue to persist for the next 21 years?
In any case, I wish this woman who has grown up in hardship a safe and smooth future.