I had a friend talking to me and she didn't want to get married. She and her boyfriend are getting married. But the man's family situation made her hesitate.
First of all, this friend was born in a relatively happy family. Parents are harmonious, they have a good relationship with their parents, and their siblings also help each other, and they are in harmony with their relatives and neighbors. Usually, I often visit the door and give gifts. So, a lot of her way of doing things is a little warmer and more atmospheric.
And his boyfriend's family is very frugal, usually reluctant to eat and drink, and rarely move around with relatives. Sometimes, when someone goes to his boyfriend's house to give a gift, they have to turn them away. The man's parents often quarreled and separated from each other. Therefore, she is very prejudiced against his boyfriend. However, the man's parents were really benevolent to his son and made money to pay off the mortgage for his son. The old couple goes to work all year round to make money.
She asked me what to do? Q: Why should I get married?
I said: When a woman gets married, she is going to face a new family. If you want to go to work but the economy does not allow it, many of them have to rely on the elderly to help them and take care of their children. Therefore, as a woman, it is very difficult for her to accept the way of thinking and acting of another family. In particular, she considers the man's family from the perspective of her own family situation, which is basically useless.
So what kind of woman is happy? Cut off your own family of origin, and in your new family, you have to completely abandon your way of thinking. For example, the man's family celebrates the festival at night, while yours is at noon. You don't think you can accept it. For example, the man doesn't like to greet your parents, but you are polite to his parents. Why do you think he's so bad!
In this life, people live by themselves. As long as the people around you don't do things that undermine principles, then we also have to learn to respect their thinking and habits. If they don't respect you, don't compromise either. A woman in marriage has her own thoughts, her own economy, and knows how to protect herself, you must be the happiest person.