As the old saying goes: "The road is difficult, not in the water, not in the mountains, but only in the repetition of human feelings." ”
You said that on the road of our life, we walked and walked, and we met all kinds of people with different thoughts.
Some people are close to you and may have ulterior motives; Some are good to you, maybe they are interested in your interests.
Just like the ancestors said: "Neighbors don't make friends, relatives don't leave", which means that in interpersonal communication, when you meet certain types of people, you have to be cautious and stay away, so as not to let your sincerity hurt in vain.
Below, let's count which people in this world need us to be vigilant and not to approach easily.
Neighbors with bad family style
Speaking of neighbors, it's really mixed.
Some neighbors have a positive style, just like the flowers around them, which makes people feel refreshed; But some neighbors have a bad family style, and they are idle all day long, and they have a lot of idle things, which is really a headache.
They get into trouble every day, quarrel with others, like a stinking tumor, and people can't hide.
You say, we get up early every day and are greedy for darkness, who doesn't want to be comfortable when they get home?
Can you live with this kind of neighbor, can you feel good?
Isn't life full of trouble?
The ancients said: "Deze has a long history, and the family style is long." "That's not true.
Neighbors with good family style can make you feel the warmth and harmony between neighbors; But neighbors with improper family style are chicken feathers at every turn.
Just like Meng's mother moved to teach her son, although we can't move, we must at least know how to be cautious and try to avoid in-depth contact with them, so as not to be unnecessarily affected by ourselves and our families.
Neighbors who chew the root of their tongues
When it comes to neighborly relationships, some neighbors like to "chew on the root of their tongues".
This kind of person, lacking the concept of privacy, likes to talk everywhere, today this family is divorced, tomorrow the child is not successful, and the mouth is open, it is a bunch of messy things.
Do you think they're just outspoken?
In fact, this is completely trampling on the kindness of others.
If you talk to them and don't pay attention, your own affairs will become a hot topic in the neighborhood.
Old Benjamin Franklin said, "If you want to keep your secret from your enemies, don't tell your friends." ”
This is true.
In front of these tongue-chewing neighbors, don't expose yourself, more is better than less, silence is sometimes the best protection.
Don't be too concerned about such a neighbor.
Learn to keep your distance and keep your words open when chatting, so you can protect yourself and your family's little world.
Relatives who hate the poor and love the rich
It is said well in "Zengguang Xianwen": "No one asks about the poor in the downtown area, and the rich have distant relatives in the mountains." That's true. Some relatives are typical of hating the poor and loving the rich.
If you have a good time, they will come around and greet them with a smile on their faces, as if you were their dearest person. But as soon as you are down, they immediately change their faces, and even a shadow disappears.
I remember a story about the businessman Li Da. When he first started his business, his family was so poor that his relatives ignored him. When he made a fortune, these relatives suddenly became enthusiastic and came to him one by one. Isn't this the real-life version of "hating the poor and loving the rich"?
You see, the human heart is like the unpredictable weather, one moment the sky is clear, and the other is full of dark clouds. Therefore, when you meet this kind of relative, it is better to have less contact, don't let yourself fall into the quagmire of human affection, and in the end you can't even keep your self-esteem.
Ungrateful relatives
Among relatives, there are always a few who are ungrateful.
No matter how good you are to them, they won't take it to heart.
As the old saying goes: "Ascend to Mien, fight Mi Hate." ”
That's the kind of person you're talking about.
For example, Song Lei's story.
He originally failed in his investment and was short of funds, and planned to sell his house to save himself.
As a result, his sister, who he generously took in, not only did not say thank you, but also wanted to occupy his house.
This is the greed and selfishness of human nature.
The better you treat them, the more they will get into the corpse.
When you have a problem, not only do they not lend a hand, but they can also become a stumbling block for you.
Therefore, in the face of such relatives, we have to learn to refuse.
Sometimes, being too tolerant can turn into indulgence and make them even worse.
What we need is to protect ourselves, not to give in a bottomless pit.
Look down on your relatives
Some people just can't see others doing better than themselves.
As soon as you accomplish something, they become jealous and even speak ill of you.
You buy a house and a car, and they gossip behind their backs; Your child has good grades, and they are jealous.
These people simply can't see the good of others.
Confucius said: "The Tao is different, and it is not conspiratory." This means that people with different ideas can't do things together.
Therefore, such relatives, it is best for us to stay away from them and keep our distance.
Ignoring their jealousy and malice, and concentrating on living your own life is the right way.
Walking on the road of life, we will meet all kinds of people.
Some people deserve our deep friendship, but some people need us to be vigilant.
Whether it is a neighbor with an improper family style, a neighbor who chews the root of his tongue, a relative who hates the poor and loves the rich, an ungrateful relative, or a relative who looks down on you, we should all keep our eyes open and be cautious in our interactions.
Remember, sincerity for sincerity, and pretense to stay away, can make our life journey smoother and happier.
I hope we can all handle interpersonal relationships wisely and enjoy this wonderful life.