In the myth of extramarital relationships, women who have dabbled or desire to dabble often fall into deep thought:
This man, is he really in love with me or not?
The answer is complex and multifaceted: sometimes it's love, but more often it may not be.
Society has taught men from an early age to start a family rather than love affectionately.
Women are naturally emotional, and they regard love as the source of life. For them, love is more of a spiritual sustenance.
However, men's attachment to love tends to be less intense. They may be without love, but they can't without the company of women.
Men's emotions tend to be more rational, as long as they meet the needs of reality and can give them appropriate freedom, this is the ideal love for them.
For example, a woman named Xiaowei once wrote to me describing her confusion in an extramarital relationship: "He was only intimate with me in this relationship, but kept his distance from his wife; He cared for me, but he was cold and unforgiving to his wife. Isn't that love? ”
I asked her, "So, why are you so bothered?" ”
Xiaowei responded: "He said that for the sake of his children and parents, he couldn't marry me, and we were all very miserable. ”
Indeed, we cannot assert that men in extramarital relationships have not given their sincerity, but this "sincerity" often pales in comparison.
It is important to understand that no matter how passionate and caring he is with you, this cannot change the essence of his relationship with his wife.
For thousands of years, men have been driven by wealth and career, and loyalty education has not been dominant in their lives.
To some extent, men may be more inclined to polyamorous relationships in their bones.
He loves you, probably because you have in you something that his wife can't give.
You can satisfy some of his needs—both psychological and physical.
Men usually don't rise to the level of love too much in their emotions. They don't bother with whether you love him or not, as long as they feel satisfied in the relationship.
However, over time, women may develop feelings of dependence on men and even resentment or jealousy towards their original wives.
But men tend to be less likely to develop this jealousy. They enjoy this peaceful and good time, and live one day at a time.
It's not that they don't care about the relationship, but they clearly recognize that it's a short-lived union.
They understand that their marriage is an unshakable cornerstone and that all extramarital passions need to be balanced and set off within the framework of marriage.
Of course, there are also some men who will get tangled up and consider divorce to stay with you for a long time.
This may include feelings for you, but more often than not, it may be because they feel that their marriage is not of high quality, and you surpass his wife in every way.
In this case, women need to keep a clear head. Don't be blindly moved by the man's "affection" for you, thinking that he loves you more than his wife.
In fact, men tend to weigh the pros and cons when considering divorce to stay with you. They may feel that the benefits of being with you outweigh the disadvantages of moving on with their lives. But remember, he and his wife were also in love.
Men tend to be more pragmatic in their relationships. They enter into intimate relationships with the sole purpose of satisfying their own needs – which are diverse and change over time. It's not directly related to whether you're good or not.
At the same time, men also crave love and warmth. They feel that a moment of relaxation and solace – both psychological and physical – is enough in the relationship. But even if he has feelings for you, he will still face the test of reality. If you don't have substantial help or value in his life, then the relationship may still end up being hit by reality.