"Whatever happens, it will benefit me", this is my eternal rule of survival.
We often complain about why things in life are always different from what we imagined. Why did I try hard and still not get the results I wanted? Why do I always meet so many people and feel like they are always doing better than me? Why are you so kind? Why do you want everyone to expect from you? ......
But my dear, have you always been a victim? The person who is constantly hurt in the relationship, constantly denied at work, and constantly bullied in life, every failure will make you irreversible, make you fall into the quagmire and unable to extricate yourself, and make you think that this is the normal state of life.
But I want to tell you, there will always be people in this world who are better off than you, and there will always be people who are worse off than you. It's just that have you seen that those who live better than you, she will always adhere to the strong mentality of "I will always be a survivor, not a victim", so she will always be able to see the opportunity and growth of things. And you still regard yourself as a weak person in every failure, and you lose your subjective initiative from then on, and you can no longer see the opportunities and growth of things.
Everything that happens, no matter what pain, trouble, frustration, and tribulation it brings you, is ultimately meant to make you stronger. It's just that you need to have a strong heart to accept all the pain and suffering that this transformation requires.
So from today onwards, stop paying attention to the people and things that make you miserable, stop complaining about the injustice of the world, stop being afraid of future risks and losses, and put all your attention on yourself and your own growth. You never know what kind of surprises and gains you will bring in the end with the experience and abilities you accumulate in the process of sticking to a thing.