In a family with two or more children, parents are always faced with a dilemma: how to make a bowl of water even? It's not simply about distributing resources fairly, it's about treating every child fairly and avoiding making a child feel neglected or treated unfairly. In fact, whether it is the education of children or the guidance of their personality and needs, parents need to treat them with the principle of justice and fairness, and they cannot be made to feel despised or sacrificed.
In my life, I have seen such a scene, and parents often show favoritism for one of their children. For example, there is a family of parents who always save the best things for Dabao just because he is the eldest. They believe that Dabao deserves more love and attention. This makes Xiaobao feel that he has been abandoned, and he will feel that his parents are unfair and should not be given only to Dabao. Such favoritism and neglect can cause psychological damage to Xiaobao, who may feel that he is not worthy of love, or that he is superfluous.
In another family, the parents put too much emphasis on the concept of "letting children learn to share and share", they want both children to have the same resources and opportunities, and avoid making one of the children feel neglected or unfair. This prevents the child from feeling the love and warmth from their parents, who have been distracted from focusing on one child.
However, for a family like mine with two children, it is not an easy task to achieve a bowl of water. First of all, every child has their own unique personality and needs, and the attention and support they need is different. Parents must know each child well enough to give them the love and care they need. Secondly, parents need to adhere to the concept of fairness in their hearts, treat every child fairly in life, let every child feel the unique and 100% love of their parents, and at the same time cultivate their children's concept of fairness and spirit of cooperation.
To sum up, in order to maintain harmony and stability in a family with two or more children, it is very important to have a bowl of water evenly. Parents need to understand each child's personality and needs and give them enough attention and support so that they can all feel important. At the same time, parents also need to guide their children to get along harmoniously and amicably, increase the time spent alone with each other, avoid comparing their children, and at the same time be relatively fair and avoid unbalanced feelings of one party. Spread positive energy