At the last moment of his life, Zhou Bingyi held the hand of his wife Hao Dongmei and said to his younger brothers and sisters: "You brothers and sisters, it is the greatest luck in our lives to have such an excellent partner, which is more important than the nurturing grace of our parents. You should be grateful for Xiaoguang and Zheng Juan's company. If someone criticizes me and attacks me, you don't have to defend me, let alone fight for me. ”
He chatted alone with Zhou Bingkun and Zhou Rong, as well as his younger brothers and sisters, for more than ten minutes, and then passed away. He said to his wife, Hao Dongmei: "I made this decision for my brother, and he asked me to agree before he died. Of course, I also need to find a place to belong. ”
Zhou Bingyi's image is almost perfect in the eyes of people, and his kindness, affection and selflessness are touching. He didn't care about the honor behind him, but persuaded his wife Hao Dongmei to find a partner again. However, as Zhou Guoping said in "Philosophy of Life": "Everyone has weaknesses, and weaknesses are the real human nature." The kind of person who thinks that he has no weaknesses must be shallow. ”
Although Zhou Bingyi's eldest son Zhou Bingyi lives in his mother-in-law's small western-style building and is filial to his mother-in-law, his behavior is not recognized by his wife Hao Dongmei and his younger siblings. His behavior is actually a manifestation of his recognition and importance to his eldest son Zhou Bingyi. However, this eldest son of his did not spend a day of filial piety under his knees.
Despite this, Zhou Zhigang still regards his eldest son Zhou Bingyi as proud, especially after he married Hao Dongmei, the second generation of officials, and he felt that his face was bright.
In any case, Zhou Bingyi's image has some tragic overtones. Behind his perfection, there are actually many unspeakable bitterness and helplessness. However, his story also reminds us that life is not all about perfection and glory, but is full of complex and contradictory emotions. Zhou Bingyi's parents, on the other hand, live in the dirtiest and messiest neighborhood of the city, clinging to two cave-like adobe houses. The neighborhood was full of running swill, and the adobe house was in danger of collapsing if it wasn't repaired for a year.
You must know that even when the snow falls every year, only the Zhou family's house is still standing, while the other people's houses can barely support it. In the most difficult years of the Zhou family, Zhou Bingyi did not give them much help. It can be said that until their death, Zhou's father and Zhou's mother never received the slightest blessing from their eldest son.
Zhou Rong's unfilial piety can still allow her to take care of her mother for a while, but Zhou Bingyi has really never taken care of her parents for a day. Even when his father was sent to the hospital before his death, he was so frightened that his face turned pale and trembled, and everyone could see that he was a dutiful son. And Zhou Bingyi is always calm, this may be for him, life and death are just natural laws, even if that person is his biological father, he doesn't have much pain.
It wasn't until after his father's death that he felt a little guilty, he hugged Zhou Bingkun and said apologetically: "Bingkun, you are the most worthy of the grace of your parents among our three children, and my brother has now become a son-in-law who is inverted, but this is not what my brother wants." However, after saying that, he still went to be his good son-in-law, while Zhou Bingkun had to continue to stay by his mother's side and fight alone. What's even more ironic is that Zhou's father's death did not make Zhou Bingyi take more care of his living mother.
If a person's filial piety only stays at verbal promises, or if he only feels guilty but does not act, then such filial piety is only hypocritical. After Zhou's father's death, neighbors discussed: "Promising children may not benefit their parents."
The eldest son of the Zhou family is very promising, and the daughter is also considered to be popular, so what? Didn't Zhou Zhigang live in the old house of Photon Tablets after he retired? Isn't it up to everyone to take turns to go to the hospital? Didn't you come back from the hospital on a flatbed truck? Didn't he die on the clay kang he built in the end? ”
Zhou Bingyi had no children in his life, and his achievements and honors made his parents glorious for a lifetime. However, is such an eldest son really a filial son? Those eldest sons who have never fulfilled their filial piety talk about filial piety, which is really a bit ironic.
In the TV series "The World", there is a plot where Zhou Bingyi's good friend and his wife discuss arranging a blind date for their friend, which makes the friend's loneliness and unattended mood feel embarrassed and heartbroken. At that time, this deep kiss should be an expression of the deep love of his good husband and wife, but it also invisibly revealed a kind of self-blame and guilt in his heart for his "unfulfilled filial piety".
Zhou Bingyi has no children in his life, and although his life path is full of ups and downs and challenges, he has always adhered to his beliefs and principles. Although his family life was full of twists and turns, he was always full of love and care for his family. Perhaps his family life did not give him the happiness and satisfaction he wanted, but he still held on to his beliefs and principles. Such Zhou Bingyi may not be a perfect eldest son or husband, but he is a real person.
His wife, Hao Dongmei, was unable to have children, and he never had any demands on Hao Dongmei in this matter. Even, he took the initiative to stand in front of Hao Dongmei, facing the scrutiny of his parents and parents-in-law, trying his best to show that he didn't care. In fact, he really didn't care, he pushed his parents' pressure on the inheritance to his younger brother Zhou Bingkun.
For Hao Dongmei, he gave up his originally bright future, and in order to spend his life with Hao Dongmei, he was willing to die childless. Such affection is undoubtedly very great. However, it is ironic that he can kiss other women passionately in a foreign country. Moreover, he didn't simply take advantage of the other party, but really had a heart for that woman. He had tried to trick Hao Dongmei into saying that they were only limited to etiquette, but in the end Hao Dongmei found evidence that he and the woman kissed deeply.
What's even more speechless is that Zhou Bingyi doesn't have any guilt about this. When I first read "The World", I didn't understand why Zhou Bingyi, who was like a son-in-law, would do such an outrageous thing. However, when I repeatedly thought about the title of the book, "The World", I began to understand: Zhou Bingyi felt that he had done well enough as a son-in-law after weighing it. Even if he made a little mistake, the senior mother-in-law could not do him much harm. This is exactly the reality of married life, the more perfect it seems, the more distorted it seems.
When his mother-in-law beat him because of this incident, Zhou Bingyi behaved very calmly, and he swore that he once again showed the image of a good husband and son-in-law. However, is he really a good husband and son-in-law? He and Hao Dongmei have been together for many years, and Hao Dongmei's complexion has not been very good. This is mainly because Zhou Bingyi spends a lot of time pleasing his mother-in-law, probably more time than coaxing his wife.
Zhou Bingyi has always said that he doesn't care about the reputation behind him, but when he died, Hao Dongmei barely felt sad and immediately remarried. After remarrying, she looked very good and looked extremely happy. As for the role of the son-in-law, if her mother-in-law and Zhou Bingyi's mother were the same kind of person, would he still willingly plug the door upside down? The answer is clearly no.
Zhou Bingyi's story makes people think deeply about the true face of human nature and marriage, and he is also weighing the pros and cons as he tries his best to play every role. This may be the message that "The World" wants to convey to us - the real marriage in the world is far more complicated than we think.
He doesn't care about his future career, in fact, he cares very much. He never let his parents and younger brother touch his own light, because he knows that the value of life lies in his own efforts. Because of this, he was able to work without sleep or food until he was terminally ill with stomach cancer.
His marriage to Hao Dongmei seems affectionate, but in fact it is just a partner in each other's lives. When together, they enjoy each other's company and show affection, and once separated, they don't have much sadness or regret because they can start a new life at any time.
The fate between husband and wife always seems so cold. A slap from his brother Zhou Bingyi made Zhou Bingming confess that there is no unconditional help in this world, and everything needs to be fought for by himself. If Zhou Bingkun had not taken on the responsibility of supporting Zhou's father and mother, Zhou Bingyi and Zhou Rong would not have been admitted to university, let alone have a bright future.
When Zhou Bingkun was in the most difficult time, he asked Zhou Bingyi for help, but this brother did not give him any help. Zhou Bingkun once begged for his brother's head for his friend, but Zhou Bingyi bluntly criticized him: "Who do you think you are? Can you help thousands of people like you? This sentence deeply pierced Zhou Bingkun's heart.
Zhou Bingyi believes that his future will not be affected by the emotions of others, even for his younger brother and elderly parents. In his world, there is only one thing that is most important, and that is that he can be excellent and excellent at any time and in any position.
In the whole story, it can be seen that Zhou Bingyi is a very rational person, he only pays attention to his future and career, and will not be affected by the emotions of others. This kind of gentle and frugal personality makes it easier for him to gain the recognition and respect of others. Although Zhou Bingkun loves his brother deeply, in his life, he pays more attention to his own efforts and struggles, and never relies on others.
See, he's so capable, and he's done it. But the result of this incident is that Zhou Bingyi did not feel any guilt because he couldn't help his younger brother, but felt that it was all his brother's fault, and his younger brother shouldn't talk about buddy affection, let alone ask for him.
As a result, Zhou Bingkun had to admit his mistake to his brother Zhou Bingyi. In the eyes of the public, Zhou Bingyi is a perfect sensible gentleman, while Zhou Bingkun has always been regarded as a silly younger brother with mediocre qualifications and ignorance. Even this silly younger brother is actually the one he has paid the most for the Zhou family.
However, Zhou Bingyi only admitted this matter from the heart, but was unwilling to give any actual return. He's not really a brother. He has not borne anything for his brother, nor has he brought much substantial benefit to his brother. When his younger brother Zhou Bingkun needed him, he never appeared. Even for a long time, Zhou Bingkun didn't know that he lived in **. Even if he knew, Zhou Bingkun had never entered that door. This brotherly love is so cold.
Zhou Bingyi just wants to be a clear stream in his life, and as for family affection, he really doesn't need it. He and Zhou Rong are both very good people. Until his father's death, he was proud of his eldest son and eldest daughter. His father's last words were to let the third generation of the Zhou family study. In his opinion, his life and his sister Zhou Rong's life can be regarded as a success. But Zhou Bingkun's life is not like this, this is a fact that cannot be ignored. And Zhou Rong once found such an excuse for herself and her brother for the accusation of unfilial piety: her success represents gratitude to her parents. But that's not true.
Parents will eventually grow old, and what they need is not only the excellence of their children, not only the glory of their children, but also the real care of their children. In the years when my mother was bedridden, could she survive only by the excellence of her children? Can the mother still stand up? The father can force Zhou Bingkun to give birth to a son, because Zhou Bingkun and Zheng Juan are very filial. But....
This story makes us think deeply about the boundaries between excellence and selfishness. Both Zhou Bingyi and Zhou Rong are excellent individuals, but excellent achievements cannot be a reason for selfishness. We should all understand that family affection needs not only glory and success, but also our real care and dedication.
Because only real and sincere dedication can truly warm people's hearts. Why didn't he force Zhou Bingyi to have a son? Even if he forced it, Zhou Bingyi probably wouldn't give in. His excellent son, affectionately called his mother-in-law, neglected to care for him and his demented wife, and even less care.
Although Zhou Bingyi is excellent, being excellent cannot be a reason for him to neglect to take care of his parents, nor can it be an excuse for him to treat his younger brother coldly. You can be excellent, but you can't be selfish, and you can't be selfish and hypocritical after being selfish, saying that you are ashamed, but you won't change.
However, people like Zhou Bingyi can get more love and respect from their parents. This is the true portrayal of "The World": those stupid children who pay hard may never get the high eyes of their parents, and they regard getting the approval of their parents as a lifelong goal, such as Zhou Bingkun. And those children who are excellent but have no contribution can often occupy the most recognition and praise from their parents, but they actually don't care about this kind of attention from their parents, such as Zhou Bingyi.
"The World" not only depicts morality and responsibility, but also expresses people's feelings and aspirations, and also reveals the coldness of human nature, the complexity of family affection and the filthiness of friendship. The real world is not beautiful, this is the real world.