For the sake of their children's happiness, parents are heartbroken.
Since childhood, I hope that my children can study hard and aspire to become talents.
When the children are adults, they are worried that they will not find a partner; With a partner, worry about the quality of the marriage.
However, the child can't help it. Adult children will not do exactly what their parents ask them to do, and they have their own opinions.
Instead of going to great lengths to control the marriage of your children, it is better to tell your children that they can learn the unspoken rules of finding a partner and have more ways to identify human nature.
Often, young people attach great importance to "first impressions", which can even affect the relationship between lovers. When the lovers become husband and wife, and then change the impression, I am afraid that I have forgotten that there is no regret medicine in the world.
The ancients left a saying"The wife points to each other first, and the husband first talks to each other." ”If you can understand it thoroughly, and bring forth the new, it is of great practical significance to use it in the early stage of finding a partner.
Wife, first point to each other.
The ancients were very meticulous in their observations.
Cao Xueqin said in "Funeral Flowers": "The sorrow is full of relief; Hand hoe the flower out of the embroidered boudoir. ”Up to the Queen Mother of the Heavenly Palace, down to ordinary women, using their hands can bring food to the family and bring beauty to themselves.Li Ji said in "Song of the Queen Mother": "Fingers handed over to the pear to send the emperor to eat." ”
If a woman's hands are too lazy to use them, and if they don't use them well, they will become lazy to eat, sloppy, and stupid.
A pair of dirty hands, overdressed hands, give the impression that they are either vases or lazy, and neither is advisable.
A woman who is truly worthy of love has several obvious features of her hands, and she "can't put them down".
The care of the hands reflects the love of beauty.
Everyone has a love for beauty. It is in the nature of women to love beauty, especially young women.
Dress up your hands and wash them well. It's a daily act of beauty.
Hand cream in the winter and sunscreen in the summer. The fingernails are also cut off, so that there is no dirt and dirt.
The industriousness of the hand reflects the ability to work.
In ancient times, women not only embroidered flowers in the boudoir and prepared their dowry, but also weaved cloth and cooked.
After getting married, a woman will cook a meal for her parents-in-law on the third day to reflect her good daughter-in-law.
In the allusion of Le Yangzi's wife, the wife not only used weaving to feed the family, but also used the loom to educate her husband. If you cut the silk thread short halfway, you will lose all your efforts. Such a wife is a blessing in a man's life.
Don't look for a woman who hides her hands at all times, doesn't do anything, and needs a man to do it for you. It's going to be tiring and irritating.
After all, to find a partner is to find a partner to struggle with, not a burden or a bodhisattva who needs to be offered.
The skillful use of hands reflects the wisdom of people.
According to legend, when Confucius went to the state of Chu, he met a mulberry picker girl on the way.
The woman said: "I can't wear the pearl of Jiuqu, so come back and ask me to pick mulberry girls." ”
When the king of Chu took out a nine-song pearl and asked "how to thread a silk thread in the middle of the bead".
Confucius and ** tried, but could not do anything. Suddenly remembered the words of the mulberry picker, and then turned back and asked the mulberry picker.
The woman said"Paint beads with honey, and the silk will tie the ants; If you refuse to pass, smoke it. ”
Yes, let the ants carry the silk thread, and they can pass through very small holes. Such wisdom amazed Confucius.
If someone marries a mulberry picker, how lucky it is.
The real beauty of a woman is not her appearance, but her heart. And can command his hands "with his heart", he can do it skillfully at any time, and his strength is not great, but the effect is very good.A wise woman with self-discipline, learning, observation, etc., naturally has the qualities of a good wife and mother, and her virtue is not too bad.
On the whole, looking at a woman's hands, she is more inclined to regard her as a "mother", and it is clear when compared with some good mothers.
Husband, first talk.
In any social situation, it is very annoying to meet people who are talkative, wild-talking, and open-mouthed.
If a woman nags, she can accept it, after all, this is nature. When a man nags, it is very difficult to accept, which is a manifestation of no interest.
Good men say less and do more, and in silence, go into the distance. As Zhuge Liang said to his son, - if you are not indifferent, you will not have a clear ambition, and if you are not quiet, you will not be far-reaching.
Look at the man's "mouth", if you can control it, the relationship will be smooth.
A man who speaks his word is reliable.
In a word, a lifetime, a glass of wine, a lifetime of love. Such logic applies not only to friends, but also to lovers.
Many men, when they are in love, swear that they will love for a lifetime, if they don't love, they will become puppies, and they will thunder and thunder. But he changed his mind, forgot all his vows, and left a life of chicken feathers to give to women.
Either don't swear or keep your word. Such a man is more loyal to his marriage.
If it's the first time you meet, a woman must never believe a man who swears casually, he is just testing you with his oath, just like fishing, throwing a bait.
A man who speaks little about right and wrong, sincerely.
If a man is really in love with you, he will protect you quietly and will not complain at all.
For example, when it rains, men will take the initiative to drive to pick them up when they think that women are coming home from work. After that, I won't be disgusted with trouble.
Look at Lu Mengzheng of the Song Dynasty. When he went to court, someone muttered, "This kid is also worthy of being the prime minister."
Hearing the ugly words, Lu Mengzheng did not get angry, but calmly worked and then did not pursue the person who spoke.
Saying less will make you less right and wrong, and it is a reflection of a large belly.
A man with a small belly can't listen to any gossip and will immediately get angry, bringing unrest to his life.
A man who lives a sincere life takes everyone into account in all aspects, so he tries to find less trouble and has a strong patience, thus reflecting the characteristics of "talking less".
Looking for a partner, if there is no accident, it is for marriage.
Therefore, it is necessary to use the standard of marriage to measure the "object", and it truly reflects the vision of being a human being.
As parents, don't be in a hurry, but "teach people to fish", be a good anchor in their children's lives, and promote their children's cognitive improvement.
Lao Tzu said: "The wood of the hug is born at the end of the millennium." ”When men and women meet, observe more details, and remember quietly, there is no harm to themselves.
Look at a woman's hands, know the beauty and ugliness, and see the lazy.
Look at a man's mouth, know the pattern, and see the truth and falsehood.