In many families, there is such a situation: the child is single, and the parents are very worried;The child finds a partner, the parents are not satisfied, and they are invisibly separated from fate.
The two generations have not reached a consensus, so fate is easy to lose, especially strong parents, who always interfere in their children's marriages and control their children's lives.
In fact, instead of doing "hindsight", it is better to plan in advance and ask some principled questions before the child finds a partner, so that everyone has a concept in mind and reaches a "consensus".
Don't wait until "raw rice is cooked until cooked rice" before scolding, making noise, or even breaking contracts and forcing marriage.
Love is duty: find a burdened family where you have to improve your skills.
A lot of people focus on "matching" when looking for a partner. Two families of origin, with similar conditions and similar status of parents;Two young people have about the same standard of work and living, so they can love each other.
In fact, a poor boy will fall in love with a rich girl;Poor women fall in love with their sons, which is also an objective existence, and they live happily. The most fundamental is "responsibility".
Love is the freedom of two people, and home is also the responsibility of two people. Don't expect parents to be responsible for their children's choices.
Liu Haitao, a young man from Xianyang, Shaanxi Province, met Huang Fangqiong, a disabled girl in Chongqing, through the Internet. At first, they just encouraged each other and chatted about daily life, and then Liu Haitao proposed to meet.
After meeting, Liu Haitao decided to fall in love. His parents were against it at first, but then left him to figure it out on his own.
Huang Fangqiong was abandoned by her biological parents and grew up with her adoptive parents. My adoptive father supported his family by collecting garbage.
In the face of practical difficulties, Liu Haitao did not flinch and resolutely entered into marriage. Life is hard, but love is sweet, and life is still full of hope.
There is also a Guangxi girl named Lai Min, who is terminally ill and can only use a wheelchair.
Regardless of his family's opposition, Ding Yizhou, a young man from Guangxi, took Lai Min all over the country and took him out of the shape of a "heart".
They opened a hotel to make a living.
Lai Min also typed out the words with his hands and published the book "The World is Beautiful, We Are Good", which also brought a certain amount of income.
No matter what kind of love it is, it will eventually be implemented as fuel, rice, oil and salt, and it needs to take on everything for the family.
If you want to love someone, it depends on what kind of family burden is behind him. Not because of his beauty.
A person who is willing and able to take responsibility is welcome no matter how he goes, and the person he falls in love with can also create happiness.
Don't dislike wealth, don't be impulsive, you are the only one who can save your love;It's you who takes care of this home.
Love is character: people who are not filial to their parents, don't talk about any character.
They say you can trust a person of good character.
In "Awakening the Eternal Words of the World", there is a woman named Sister Yu, and her father Wang Xian is a well-known local rich family.
Once upon a time, a carpenter, father and son, came to the house. father Zhang Quan, son Zhang Tingxiu.
Zhang Tingxiu was born intelligent, and was loved by Wang Xian, and was cultivated as a quasi-son-in-law.
The terrible thing is that Wang Xian's eldest son-in-law, Zhao Ang, was unwilling to share his property with Zhang Tingxiu, so he and the people of the yamen falsely accused Zhang Quan of colluding with bandits and was imprisoned.
Zhang Tingxiu desperately saved his father and left Wang Xian's house.
Everyone persuaded Sister Yu that the matter was over, let it go, and find another partner. But Yumei recognized Zhang Tingxiu and took out her usual savings to support Zhang Tingxiu to save her father.
A person who is unwilling to abandon his parents is not too bad. Sure enough, after years of maneuvering, Zhang Tingxiu won the lawsuit and found out the culprit behind the scenes.
The poem says: "Everything is only about the sky, and the peace of mind is blessed." ”
In any world, we must pay attention to the laws of nature. According to the folk saying: "Parents are greater than the sky." ”
When a child is looking for a partner, he meets a person and complains about his parents as soon as he opens his mouth, and when he thinks that the two of them elope and want to leave the country, that is the beginning of bad luck.
Think about it, a person who can abandon his parents today will be able to abandon his wife and children tomorrow. After all, his heart is "**".
There is a generation gap between young people and their parents, and there will be contradictions, but filial piety is indispensable. If you make a mess today, you'll have to cook in the same pot tomorrow.
I remember a couplet: "Filial piety in front of parents, a filial piety is a good son;You can be filial to your mother, and then you can be filial again. ”