Going out for half a life, looking for a job and life, at the end of the day, is looking forward to a better home.
Caigen Tan said: "There is a true Buddha in the family, there is a kind of truth in daily use, and people can be sincere and kind, happy and graceful." ”
Whether the family is good or not, don't look at whether there is gold and silver treasure, but whether there are rich and noble people in the family.
Generally speaking, the following people appear in the family, either rich or expensive, please cherish them.
People with a sense of distress have a very large pattern, and they are the anchors of the family.
In the early years of the Warring States Period, Zhao Xiangzi of the Jin State sent people to attack the Zhai people, defeated the Zhai people by dividing them by two, and occupied two cities.
The soldiers in front came to report on their work, and their eyebrows fluttered.
At that time, Zhao Xiangzi was eating, and after listening to the report, he had a sad face on his horse, and the meal was tasteless.
The person next to him asked, "This is a great event, how do you?"”
Zhao Xiangzi said: "The Zhao family has no virtue, and there are two more cities at once, which is a sign of decay." ”
Since ancient times, virtue has been loaded.
If morality and possessions do not match, possessions cannot be truly owned. Zhao Xiangzi saw this, so he immediately adjusted the way he did things and improved his virtue. Therefore, the Zhao family became more prosperous, and he also became the founder of the Zhao State.
Confucius praised Zhao Xiangzi"Those who are worried are so prosperous, and those who are happy are therefore dead." Only the Lord of the Way can prevail. ”
Many families only know how to make money, buy a house and a car, and set up a company, but they do not take into account the difficulties and do not plan for the long term.
After a short victory, there was confusion, and then there was defeat.
If there is a person in the family who can make two plans of "success and failure", and ** to the actual difficulties, then he can lead the family, strict self-cultivation, and the matching of virtue and wealth. Finally, lock happiness in your own home.
People who know how to live a poor life and refuse to be extravagant are the positive energy of the family.
Rich for no more than three generations", this is something that many families are worried about. Especially some rich second generations, if they are not careful, they will lose their families, or even return to poverty overnight.
Sima Guang said: "If you leave a book for your children and grandchildren, you may not be able to read it."If you leave money to your children and grandchildren, you may not be able to keep it. ”What do you want to leave for your children and grandchildren?Visionary parents will leave the word "simple".
When Sun Shuao was an official, the king of Chu wanted to give him fiefs, gold and silver treasures many times, but he refused. Although he has a fortune, his family cannot rely on him, but rely on farming for a living.
When Uncle Sun Ao was terminally ill, he told his son: "The king of Chu will let you accept the fief that was originally intended for me, please refuse." If you can't refuse, you want to sleep on the hill. ”
The bedhill is a very barren place and very unlucky. Therefore, no one competed for this land, and the Sun family relied on this land to live a life of self-sufficiency without contention with the world.
Many people, because they have more wealth, try their best to keep their money. I didn't expect that the foundation of keeping money is to "keep the poor".
Habitually living a poor life is a good family style. It shows that everyone has not forgotten the hardships of their ancestors, and human nature has not developed in a vicious direction.
What's more valuable is that the family understands the great truth of "there is giving and taking, and there is gain and loss". Use your wealth to help others, and if you become poor temporarily, it won't be long before you become richer.
As Confucius advocated: "A gentleman is poor, and a villain is poor." ”
Poverty is the beginning of a family. To be poor all the time is to start getting rich all the time, and to maintain a positive attitude.
Wang Anshi, the prime minister of the Song Dynasty, only used ordinary Hu cakes when receiving relativesTaizu Zhao Kuangyin did not let his daughter wear a coat with feathers. It's all worth learning from.
A person who can take care of both internal and external aspects is good at cherishing blessings and is a master of relationship studies in the family.
In the Spring and Autumn Period, Duke Wen of Jin led his troops out to fight and wanted to occupy the country.
Childe hoe deliberately laughed, which surprised the people around him.
Jin Wengong asked, "What are you laughing at?"Seriously, this is war. ”
Childe said, "I have a neighbor who took his wife back to his parents' house. On the way, the neighbor struck up a conversation with a beautiful woman and left his wife aside. Suddenly, the neighbor looked back and found his wife and a beautiful man winning.
Duke Wen of Jin was taken aback, and immediately left Weiguo and returned home. Discover the surrounding countries, take advantage of the Jin army to go out, and take advantage of the situation.
Everyone wants to expand their influence externally, but they don't take into account that outsiders are also eyeing your family.
As a man, he hopes to have three wives and four concubines, but he ignores that his wife also wants more love.
It has been said, "Those who have traveled to the ends of the earth and cannot find what they need will find it when they return home." ”Many families have no blessings, which is an illusion, but they feel that the family is too bland and not romantic enough, so they have been seeking blessings from the outside world.
In the "Four Teachings of Liaofan", it is said: "My life is made by me, and I ask for blessings." ”
It is superfluous to give up the blessings of one's own family and not enjoy it, but to think about the blessings of other people's families. In other words, this is an extraneous branch that provokes right and wrong.
If there is a person in the family who can make the relationship between the family more harmonious and united, and can communicate with each other at any time, it means that he plays the role of a "lubricant" and is an expert in resolving conflicts.
For example, when a family member quarrels, someone immediately bows his head; When competing for interests, some people take the initiative to give in; When supporting parents, some people take the initiative to suffer. In doing so, outsiders are avoided from seeing jokes and happiness is locked within the family.
Rogers' assertion "tells us that successful companies don't wait for outside influences to decide their own destiny, but always look forward."
In the same way, a successful family will not wait for others to decide its fate, but actively move forward.
When you are poor, you have dreams and actions to get rich; When the family is rich, there are acts of charity, and there is a goal to be richer.
When the family is up and down, someone presides over the overall situation and takes everyone to find the direction.
The family is everyone's castle, and everyone is the one who builds the castle.
Hand in hand, go forward together, the starlight does not ask passers-by, and the years pay off.