When people are old, time is precious, but at this time, someone comes to trouble you, disturb you, and make you really miserable. Perhaps, after you retire, you often have this feeling.
When I was young, in order to survive, I had to trouble others and be troubled by others.
As you get older, you stop worrying about survival and you should squeeze the trouble out of your life.
How should I socialize when I retire? Many people think that they should have more contact with relatives and friends they have made in the past, and have a glass of wine when they have nothing to do.
There is a local saying in my hometown"Eat less salt and less dry mouth." ”
There is a lot of trouble, dry mouth, and upset, so it is better not to trouble each other and live a quiet life.
About colleagues: When you leave the workplace, you have no profit and no demand.
George Bernard Shaw said, "The safekeeping of money is a troublesome affair, and it attracts parasites and encourages the envy of men." ”Colleagues get along, achieve each other on the surface, do something big together, and the direction is the same. But on the back side of friendship, people compete with each other, and some people even do things that don't see the light.
To put it bluntly, it is the interests of ** together, and it has to be like this.
When you leave the workplace, you are out of the "interest group" and should return to the realm of no desire and no desire.
During the Song Dynasty, Wang Anshi served as the prime minister, and Su Shi was his subordinate. Because of the disagreement on the change of the law, they have had conflicts.
After Wang Anshi retired, Su Shi passed by Jiangning and came to visit. Wang Anshi walked a long way to the river to receive Su Shi. Su Shi walked out of the boat, and before he had time to tidy up his clothes, he saw Wang Anshi.
Su Shi said:"I dare to meet the prime minister in wild clothes today. ”
Wang Anshi said"Isn't the etiquette for my generation?" ”
After retirement, what etiquette do you still talk about? You and I are ordinary people, what level are you talking about?
People who have given up conflicts of interest and can still interact with each other have changed from colleagues to friends; If you still talk about interests, then you don't see it.
About friends: It's okay to get together, don't bother too much.
When people are old, they should get used to coarse tea and light rice, instead of mixing all kinds of meals, big fish and big meat.
You must understand that the word "dinner" is "rice" and "bureau" when taken apart.
Retired people, don't make a plan, just eat well. Therefore, when friends are friends, don't talk about interests, don't talk about cooperation, talk more about hobbies, and talk about the past of life.
Li Shutong was very interested in the "fasting" method introduced by his colleague Xia Yazun. Later, he went to Hupao Temple to try fasting. From eating and drinking, to eating and drinking less, and finally living a light life.
Later, Uncle Li became a monk in Hupao Temple and became Master Hongyi.
Xia Yazun visited Master Hongyi many times, and what entertained him was coarse tea and light rice. The friendship of friends has not been broken, but the way to connect feelings has become simpler and simpler.
Many elderly people think that they have a lot of time, they can go to a friend's house for a few days, and they can eat family banquets every day. In fact, such an approach will make people disgusted. Because the situation of each family is different, many elderly people have to take care of their children and go out to work.
There is a funny saying: "I don't stay when it's raining." ”
When you stay at a friend's house for days and eat several meals, your friend will frown and chase you away. The words "driving people away" lost all the emotions.
According to the current practice, it is best to have a meal with friends in a restaurant, a small restaurant, not to disturb the family, not to tire anyone.
About relatives: Decide when you need to, don't always get in the way.
I like this sentence very much: "Family, friendship, feelings, love, why are love words at the end, because the real love is at the end." ”True affection is not because you are sincere enough, but because you are sincere with each other and can be communicated for a long time, it can be realized.
Many relatives, when you are working, will come to you with gifts. Because you have a good position to help relatives do certain things. But you're retired, you don't have a place, and the simple emotional connection doesn't seem necessary.
There are also some relatives who turn against each other because they can't help; Relatives who look down on you, there will be.
When people are old, don't miss the "blood love" too much. Many relatives, separated by several generations, have long since disappeared. Especially some juniors who work in other places will be surprised if they don't go home for a few years and suddenly shout "aunt, uncle" at you.
The exchange of courtesies between relatives is not to completely lose it, but to do a good job of subtraction. If it's too troublesome, don't socialize.
Let's say you live in Hunan and your relatives live in the Northeast, so don't go to the Northeast to drink if it's not necessary. The road is far away, you go alone, and the child is not at ease; Simply from the Internet, sending a red envelope is obviously redundant.
Distant relatives are not as good as close neighbors. It's good to take care of a few relatives around you.
About society: self-restraint, do not rely on the old to sell the old.
There is a saying that people are not as good as dogs when they reach middle age.
You're retired, but there are a lot of middle-aged people around you, and you're still worried about life. Therefore, you should take the initiative to give way and don't bother them.
In the community where I live, there is an elderly couple who have almost contracted the cleaning of the unit building. "Young people have to go to work, we're bored," they said. It's better to do some work and make everyone happy. ”
The old couple loved to sing and dance, but at seven o'clock in the night, their house became quiet. Because upstairs and downstairs, there are neighbors' children, who want to study and rest.
Take the initiative to consider your neighbors, consider the young people in society, and the elderly will restrain themselves more, and they will appear to be morally noble and respectable.
Handle the relationship between you and society, although you have a little trouble, but the society has less trouble, you will be very happy.
Albert Einstein said, "A simple and simple life, both physically and mentally, is good for everyone." ”
After retirement, it is good enough to have a pension, a small nest, a wife, and children's greetings. You really don't want to cause trouble to anyone anymore, don't cause chaos in society.
The word "person" is very simple, but if you live a troublesome life, it is "drawing snakes and adding feet".
Once you, you became famous in one fell swoop, and the world knows it; Now you are retired, silent.