As the saying goes: "Although the lotus flower is good, it should also be supported by green leaves." ”
It is impossible for anyone to create a vast world with the strength of one person.
However, there is a knack for helping others, and accepting the wrong help will go against your original intention, and the consequences will be unimaginable.
When people are poor, the most rare thing is not to seize the opportunity and find a "nobleman", but to be sober-minded and avoid rushing to the doctor.
The following five types of people, on the surface, are to help you, but in fact they are to let you "enter the pit", please stay away.
First, if a loan shark gives you money, it will harm you.
Chekhov said, "When you ask for help, it is easier to ask for the poor than for the rich." ”The rich have money and a way, and a little pull can get you out of trouble. But you're really thinking too much. Others just pay attention to whether they are doing well, and others often step on the shoulders of the poor and continue to climb up.
As for the poor, they don't have much money in their hands, but most of them have "good hearts". If there are many poor people around you who are willing to help you, you can also achieve great things.
In the real society, there is a very hateful rich person - a loan shark. They are idle every day, and when they see anyone who has become poor, they immediately approach like flies, advocate others, enter the profiteering industry, and have a lot of success at their fingertips. Of course, he will also provide the principal.
Think about it, if there is really huge profits in the world, you can really "borrow chickens to lay eggs", why doesn't he do it himself, but leaves you with great good deeds?
No one is willing to give you the money in their pockets for no reason. When you are faced with "profits", you must be worse off. Stay away from the rich who "take the initiative to give you money", and would rather go to the construction site to move bricks.
Second, people who are on the sidelines are complicit in helping you.
For a while, the word "Buddha Yuan" was particularly eye-catching. They are a group of very beautiful women, wearing Taoist robes and cheongsams, copying scriptures seriously, and also posting beautiful life photos such as tea tasting, incense, and meditation.
Secretly, the Buddhas did their best to pull others to buy their own products.
The most infuriating thing is that they dress up glamorously and vulgarly, and show off in a clean place, which is very damaging to the environment and overdraws the goodness of society.
Everyone wants to make quick money, but if the money comes from an unknown source, it is doomed. What you gain, you have to lose, or even lose double.
Some people who like to go the wrong way take advantage of the poor people's "thirst for talent" psychology to provide some ways to violate the law and discipline. As long as you take the bait, you will become their helper, and you can't get rid of it.
Third, those who look down on you, helping you are humiliating you.
Thirty years ago, my family lived in a ravine and was still very poor, and when there was a shortage of rice, my family had to use sweet potato porridge and corn porridge to satisfy their hunger.
One year, my mother went to my cousin's house in my village to borrow rice. My cousin agreed. Shamefully, a few days later, my cousin said to the villagers"My relative borrowed the moldy rice this time, and next time, I want him to return the new rice." ”
My mother listened to the rumors in the village, took out the rice at home and took a look, and sure enough, there were a lot of moldy spots.
Most of the people who look down on you and are willing to help you are "hidden mysteries". By helping, he makes you owe him a favor, and he also takes this opportunity to crush you.
People are equal in their dealings with each other, rich and poor. You're poor, but you're backbone, and you're not a little shorter than anyone else.
Actor Tao Hong said: "Children and the elderly are the people I am most willing to help, and they are also the people who need help the most." Because we all come from the children and go to the elderly, they are the beginning of life and the twilight of life. ”Real help, with compassion and gentleness, without the slightest crooked thoughts of tricks, calculations, snobbery.
Fourth, the greedy person, helping you is "helping himself".
During the Eastern Jin Dynasty, there was a Qing official named Wu Yinzhi. He supported his family and relatives on his own salary. In winter, there are no decent bedding at home.
He was sent to Guangzhou as a assassin, and the local people invited him to visit the "greedy spring". "No matter who you are, if you drink the water of the greedy spring, you will become greedy and take the road of ** from now on", when he heard this, he leaned down and took a sip of the spring water.
He said that even if he drank enough water here, it would not change his will in life.
Whether a person is greedy or not is not because of the water he has drunk, nor because of how big the ** in the outside world is, but whether his nature will change and whether he can control his inner desires.
If a person with a strong greed is strong, take the initiative to help you. Then you have to be careful, he is most likely trying to take advantage of you.
For example, a relative who owns a factory hears that you have become poor, so he asks you to work in his factory, but the salary is less than others, and there are more things than others. This emotional card made him more profitable.
In addition, when you give gifts to greedy people, you want to get help, but in fact, you are beating dogs with meat buns, don't do it.
Fifth, the people who get the axe in the class are "adventurous" to help you.
The wealthy Jack Ma once said: "If there are two choices: one is a first-class team and a third-rate execution ability; The second is a third-rate team with first-class execution ability. I'd rather choose the latter. ”If you don't have the ability to do something, you will only work hard, and you will only hit your head and bleed, and you will not make a big difference at all.
Virtue is not worthy, talent is not worthy, these are all signs of calamity.
When you meet someone who likes to work with the axe, don't cooperate with him, because he can't grasp his future at all. When he falls short, you will also be affected by him.
Let's say a person who doesn't know how to carpenter takes you to the city to contract furniture installation work. Because the technology is not up to standard, the furniture is often damaged, resulting in more compensation than wages. The more you do, the poorer you get.
Even if you want to take risks, you must be eight points sure, and don't run into walls everywhere like a headless fly.
If people want to turn over, they need to follow the right people, go the right way, and do the right things.
I'm not afraid of encountering a thousand hardships, I'm afraid of having teammates like pigs.
I'd rather go alone and work everywhere than trust the above "well-wishers".
There was a woodcutter, with an axe, who chopped wood hard, but it was very inefficient because the axe was too blunt and there were gaps. The person next to him said, why not grind it?
The woodcutter said that he had no time, and he had to chop wood and sell it every day.
People, one is afraid that good intentions will be regarded as the liver and lungs of a donkey, and the other is afraid of recognizing a thief as a father.
When people are poor, they can get rich step by step by getting close to the righteous man and gentleman.