Nowadays, many children, many adults, have a very strained relationship with their parents. He complained and hated his parents. This phenomenon is widespread.
Not only today's children, but no matter how old they are, they are all children in front of their parents. Today, at the age of 50, there are still people who hate his seventy or eighty-year-old father. How did the child's hatred of his father come about? A child's hatred of his father is the fault of his parents.
I Ching hexagram: "Hit Meng". "Hit" is a blow. Many majestic and cruel fathers regard their children's problems as stubborn diseases. When the child is disobedient, there is no other way to solve it, so he hits and scolds the child.
Therefore, "striking Meng" refers to the beating, scolding, reprimanding, denial, destruction and attack of Mengtong's body and people's hearts. The result of "striking the blind" is "disadvantage". "Kou" means hostility.
Defeat is not good for you". It tells us that parents are pushing their children into a hostile position by doing so. Because of the "blinding", "unfavorable", make the child an enemy. How to solve this problem? What's advantageous?
Look at the three words "Li Yukou". This "royal" is defense. What does defense mean? It's "Tid.""。Parents want""Make the child an enemy, and do not hurt the dignity of the child's body and soul." "Benefiting the Imperial Kou", not "striking the blind", turning "unfavorable" into profit. through the parents'"self-vigilance", the defense forces the child into a hostile position.
As the old Chinese saying goes: "If you lose a great favor for a long time, you will become an enemy". Nowadays, many parents tell their children: "Mom lives for you, everything I do today is for you, if it weren't for you, I can not live, I can not do these things". Instilled from childhood to adulthood for many years.
What is this kid hearing? "Mom and Dad's lives are for me, and all their hard work and hard work are for me. Because of me, they have made their lives so miserable." This is a huge grace, a huge burden, weighing on the child and breathless.
"Negative" is back. When the child cannot carry his back, he must be unloaded if he wants to live. Anyone who tells your child that "I live for you, and everything I have is for you". It's another kind of "striking". It's an unknown tutor, and it's the tutor's fault. These two reasons make children hateful to their parents. From ancient times to the present, there are such parents in the world. Should we be vigilant? Do you want to defend yourself? Do you want to do something beneficial? Do you want your child not to be "coward"?